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writes: Hya, my name is Jodie, i was just wondering if you could help me.You see i don't know what to do, as i've just recently come out of a relationship that i wanted to be in my whole life, and i'm tryin my hardest to get over him. But now i have my mum crying and i'm crying as my mum at step dad after 11 years have just broke up, and i love him to pieces. Why is everyone i love leaving me? My mum's so upset an it's makin me worse.What do i do???
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (31 July 2008):
You've got some good advice so far so I will just add to it.
Go and find a cd or something of I will survive and put it on really loudly, then get your mum and dance.
It'll make you both feel better and endorphins will be released as you dance so they will counter the depression feelings.
Get some girl power songs and have a sing along.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Wow... so you AND your mom had breakups all about the same time? That's got to be hard to deal with in your house right now...
OK, so it seems that your mother is upset for you, you're upset for her and everyone's feeding off each other's sorrows. It may sound a little corny here, but you need to break the cycle (for the immediate future). Go out shopping with your mom, see a movie, dinner out... something to get both your minds focused on something positive in fun. For both of you LIVE IS NOT OVER! ...it's simply changed course. The sorrow you feel is from the currents trying to pull you one way and you're resisting. Try to find little pieces of happiness... which will lead to more... and more... you get the idea? Generate your own satisfaction and look forward to what's around the corner... for both of you actually. A breakup is NOT a death sentence!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): You need to dig deep inside yourself, and survive. I know that it may sound crash, and I don't mean for it to. Please know that I will pray for you, and the situation with your mom and stepdad. I know that you are hurting, but so is your mom and stepdad. They are not intentionaly hurting you, please try to understand that. Keep us posted.
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (31 July 2008):
 Hi Jodie,
It never rains but it pours, eh?
Your step dad isn't leaving you, he is leaving your mum. Whatever has gone on between them has led to this decision and it would be unfair on both of them if they had stayed together just so he could be with you.
Just because they have split doesn't mean you can't love him, after all, he helped raise you. Hopefully you will still get to see him, and he will still want to see you, but those are questions for another day.
You've split up with your boyfriend, and yes that hurts - we have all been there. You will need time to recover, and you will.
Your mum is now going through a break up of her own, and is at her lowest point. Remember how bad it felt right when you broke up? Well, having been together for 11 years she probably feels about 11 times worse.
Everyone isn't leaving you, you've just taken a couple of big hits in quick succession. Things will get better, but allow yourself time to be upset first.
You say you don't know what to do, but crying is ok, and both you and your mum probably need a good cry. Giving your mum a hug is ok too - she probably could use one right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): it's life, shit happens. you just have to stay strong and be there for your mother and help her feel better. you two should start spending more time together, bonding. it'll get your minds off the break up and you two will be closer. it's okay to cry with your mother just let her know it's going to be alright. and as of your break up, don't worry about it, you'll find the right person that will want to be with you your whole life. take care.xx
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