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41-50,
*dobson
writes:Hi everyone,After being single from a guy I really loved for over 6 months I finally met a really nice guy. His names andrew, hes 22 and Im 27. He works as a care worker and I am a teacher, we have lots in common and get on very well. We have met several times, been out with his friends, had dinner, visited Manchester, slept together ?(non-sexually).The problem is he has now distanced himself and said that I have done nothing wrong, im fantastic but he doesnt know what he wants. I am disappointed and confused by this, any ideas? We live 1 hour away from each other, but both drive.Craig x Reply to this Question
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reader, les  +, writes (30 July 2008):
In my experience, whenever a guy told me he doesn't know what he wants, its always means that its me that he doesn't want. Especially at that age.
Just let him be, playing cool could stir up his interests again. I know it sucks though :(
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Hi Craig,
I think you might well find the answer in him being 22. You've had fun dating, and the next step is to get serious about each other and that probably scares him a bit. How many guys at 22 are ready to make a commitment?
Even if you're not looking for a long term relationship with him at this stage, being a bit older than him he might think that you are.
The only thing you can do is talk to him and try to find out what it is that he is worried about or confusing him.
If it is commitment you could assure him that you are happy to go at his speed and if that means just hanging out and dating for the time being so be it. If it's something else, then you can discuss, reassure and if needs be compromise on that.
Whatever it is, you can only be sure by talking to him and asking.
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