Help on getting rid of strechmarks to look sexy for my husband again!
Q. What could I do about stretch marks? I'm a little insecure about my body because I have stretch marks due to child birth. I want to be able to wear sexy lingerie for my husband again, but I dont feel attractive enough to do that anymore. My husband ...
A. 12 June 2006: well im right there with you ive had them since i was a teenager and learned that apart from surgery nothing can get rid of them. but you can make them fade a little by using coco butter moisturiser/ other leading lotions or baby oil, they wont get ... (read in full...)
He doesnt include me when he goes to church, what should I do ?
Q. What should i do , when my partner of 7 yrs has been invited to church several times by his boss and family and he does not include or invite me,but he continues to go alone? Then acts as if nothing is wrong? ...
A. 28 May 2006: well a have you asked him because maybe he doesn't think you'll like it or maybe he's embaressed and doesn't want you to think he's a total loser? tell him for next time that you would like to come along and if he shrugs you off then confront him ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated....can I trust him???
Q. I found out that my boyfriend cheated on me for the first 3 months of our 1 year relationship with his ex girlfriend who he went out with for 10 years and has kids with. He said that he didn't take me seriously then but does now. He says that he ...
A. 28 May 2006: i don't think i really have to say much because you seemed to have found the answer all by yourself. just trust your instinct if you think you can handle the lies and betrayal of trust and love then best of luck but otherwise i'd suggest a trial ... (read in full...)
Do I take this friendship further?
Q. ok im 22 years old and am casual friends with a guy--meaning we hang out when theres parties but not really anywhere else. basically long story short---we think alike. hes not into relationships and neither am i. i believe we're both afraid (he ...
A. 28 May 2006: well all i can say is tears, tears, tears. but if your sure your okay with him just using you for sex and nothing else then be my guessed but i say one thing his respect for you will fade so will the conversations. ive been there and felt the same ... (read in full...)
Why is my sister so mean to my boyfriend?
Q. ok i am getting so annoyed with my sister. i have been with my bf for nine months now and just starting a week ago my sister(she is my twin) keeps saying "your bf is ugly" "he is fat" "he has big ears" and none of those are true mostly the "fat" one ...
A. 28 May 2006: sisters will be sisters, i feel like i could kill mine sometimes but we still do anything for them right? she thinks she's being funny but she's not so you need to sit her down and tell her it's hurtful and trust me as much as we all like to wined ... (read in full...)
Still love my cousin... what shall I do?
Q. i seem to be in love with my second cousin, first i though it was a crush but it wasnt, i mean you do not have a crush on someone for almost 2 years, i want to ask her out but i think i already know the answer as i have asked her out before through ...
A. 28 May 2006: i'm only going to say this once she may be second cousin but she still is related!... (read in full...)
How do you stop a relationship being all one way?
Q. How do you stop a relationship being one way. My last relationship, I felt, was one way especially towards the end. Even if my next girlfriend is nice and friendly towards me, I'm worried that I'll have to keep in contact with with her by always ...
A. 28 May 2006: just go with the flow, most girls think that what you said would be cast as 'too keen' or 'bossy' so they tend to let the guy decide. just simply say what do you want to do tonight because im out of ideas? or just let them come to you, there really ... (read in full...)
I have moved on from my ex, but she has issues and I want to help, should I try to ?
Q. I still care for my ex but have successfully moved on to seeing other people, the days feel less boring and I feel much better about myself, etc.. etc.. In other words I'm over the break-up... And wanted to thank everybody here for the g...
A. 28 May 2006: i think although you care for her well being you have to let her go, if she comes to you let her but in general it's all up to her as long as she knows your there that'll be enough, she has to deal with it not you, your there and thats great she ... (read in full...)
Now that I fancy him, he's got a girlfriend do I stand a chance ?
Q. I fancy a guy who used to fancy me but who now has a girlfriend. He says he loves her but he still flirts with me. Do i have a chance with him and how can i find out how he feels about me?...
A. 28 May 2006: first thing HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND and the fact that he's flirting with you should say something about his character, how would you feel if your so called boyfriend was going off flirting with everyone especially someone he used to care for? i think ... (read in full...)
Can I trust my fiancee not to cheat if we get married?
Q. Hi...I'm due to be married in August to a beautiful kind and hardworking lady. We have dated over the last 4.5 years and over that time the only problems we have ever had centre around me being able to trust her. She cheated on me with an ex and ...
A. 24 May 2006: i can see why you feel the way you feel and with every right, she hasn't exactly gone out of her way to make you trust her. i think the best way to see if the relationship is worth your time and heart felt love is to tell her if she loves you and ... (read in full...)
Now my guy is riding to work with the Other Woman!
Q. I wrote before about the other woman moving her mother in next door. Well, her and mom moved in this weekend while I was at work. Since her and my guy work together, they're also riding together now to save gas. I'm trying hard to be understa...
A. 24 May 2006: hmm well i do see why you feel negative about this, i think the best thing to do is talk to him tell him you know its ridiculus feeling the way you feel but you do feel that way and for him to understand and respect it. you could as he is leaving ... (read in full...)
Don't want to look too keen to see my ex, but I really want to chat!
Q. My ex and I may get back together. I told him I love him a few weeks back, but I don't anymore. Because of this I don't want to come across as too interested, but I really miss him and want to chat, even though I saw him on Monday. Should I call him ...
A. 24 May 2006: i may be wrong but is this a case of 'i dont want you but dont want anyone else to have you either'? or heat of the moment action of the'i love you'? either way i do think you should wait for him to you, and think long and hard about what it is you ... (read in full...)
How do you get over heart break
Q. Whats the best way to heal after a breakup, and realise that It was not your fault and to move on with life. and not hurt as much. Is there a process? i know everyone is different and their reaction is different, however i just want to lock up ...
A. 24 May 2006: let it out! it really helps, take up writing i found it helped get all the q's and anger out without sounding like a looney in front of anyone, go out with the mates ahve bit of retail therapy like a makeover it'll give you boost of confidence you ... (read in full...)
My BF will turn 18 in a few months, and I'm still 14. Is this OK?
Q. Hey I'm 14 and my bf is 17. He thought iIwas older and only found out my age after he said he liked me. When he found out he went weird but said that he still likes me but wants to take it slow. In a few months he will be 18. Should I stay with ...
A. 24 May 2006: well it i think it is a bit risky in the sence your not even 16 but like you said he thought you were older, but as long as he respects you enough to stay away from any illegal activities until your 16 i would say best of luck to you. if you feel ... (read in full...)
We're both shy and neither of us knows how to take the Next Step from making out!
Q. My boyfriend (almost 19) and I (19), have been official for about a month now, but have basically been together for about three months (he was just too shy to ask me out). We are very alike in personality, quiet and shy, but do love each other. ...
A. 24 May 2006: first thing i'll say is well done for waiting! too many people rush into things just to please the person they are with. all im going to say is take as much time as you or he needs because look at the picture, you've got all the time in the world ... (read in full...)
How do I flirt with a boy
Q. i am 14. there is this boy i like, we are mates. but i want to start flirting with him but how do i start cos i have never done it before?...
A. 23 May 2006: dont worry about it too much you've got plenty of time for that sort of thing! look if you like him i suggest going out in a group of friends to say a cinema ( dont forget him ) sit next to him mess about not too much so you get kicked out for too ... (read in full...)
My wife is thinking about her ex
Q. hi I am married for 2yrs but been with my wife for 14yrs.two years ago she went back home for her sister wedding and there she met her former boyfriend who she hasn't seen or spoke to for 12yrs. when she came back she kept contact with him until I ...
A. 22 May 2006: you poor man i dont see how that can happen there is definatly more to this story but i shalt go into that because i dont know the whole story. maybe shes just deep down without fully knowing it missing her home? suggest taking a holiday there ... (read in full...)
Fantasy sex in my head is better than the real thing, help
Q. I get really turned on thinking about doing stuff with my boyfriend, but when we're actually doing it it's nowhere near as good as it was in my head. Do i just have an over active imagination or am i having trouble getting an orgasm just because ...
A. 21 May 2006: ah well fantasy is never as good as reality im afraid well really rare thats why they call it fantasy. but look at it this way he's willing to try them! dont get caught up trying to match it just have fun doing it and that you've got someone that is ... (read in full...)
Bored with my sex life, how do I put the spark back?
Q. Me and by bf have been together for a while and yes we have had sex, But when we do its the same thing over and over and i was wondering does anyone one know ways to put a spark in your sex life? ...
A. 21 May 2006: ah well my friend there are plenty and i suggest you take a nice trip to your nearest ann summers shop and pick up a book or two! now before you do that try suprising him by telling him that you've got a present for him but he cant have it until ... (read in full...)
My ex is being horrible to me, why is he behaving like this
Q. I have been going out with this boy for a year and a half now and he breaks off with me for no good reason al of a sudden, and then he would be horrible to me sending me pics of him naked with other girls and saying he only wants me for sex then he ...
A. 21 May 2006: you want to start again? sorry but you may have feeling for him but it's time you woke up and smelt the crap he's doing to you! he knows exactly what he's doing! he knows that he can do that and you'll come running back for more because he's groomed ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends grandmother hates me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now and his grandma absoulty cant stand me! Anytime i call she hangs up on me. When i go knock on the door she just says go away he is taking a bath (even though he comes out like 5 seconds later)For ...
A. 21 May 2006: whoa ok crazy gran alert! right action stations ready, you listening? dont pay any attention to her just play nicey nice to her that'll get her going and probably make her slip up eventually so he'll see it. look sounds like she really dont like you ... (read in full...)
Is my partner cheating on me?
Q. hi. i have been seeing my fiance i love for two years almost three. i want to know if he's cheating on me? the one night my freind went out with him and went to a freinds house. they were outside and my freind went to go to the toilet leaving my ...
A. 21 May 2006: you poor thing! its hard really is especially since you've got a child together. i think the best thing is to sit down and talk things through, tell him your fears and worrys, dont just accuse him of having it off because that'll get you no where ... (read in full...)
So in love but so different
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We do love each other but seem to be soo different. It seems that when I need to talk about something (which is not that often and always with reason) he always gets soo defensive and ...
A. 18 May 2006: ah the stubborn old man who can never admit hes wrong, i know plenty of people like that in fact im the same but female. hmm well taking from my dad hes the same and after years of him being like that ive found that the best way to handle it is to ... (read in full...)
Want to marry, want to attend therapy but want to see other girls
Q. Hi there, Thanks everyone for your advice on my last question... A rollercoaster ride.. Well, we had our first therapy session today. It went OK, but the focus was more based around what we are to do about going overseas rather than the matters...
A. 18 May 2006: wow! i can see why your so confused sugar, you need to tell him what you've just said well not exactly but just that you want to know if hes just getting the single/freedom thing out of the way, because this is a big step for, your willing to change ... (read in full...)
Aged 15 and never had a boyfriend
Q. hi i'm 15 and i have never had a boyfriend and no-one as ever asked me out before! why not? whats wrong with me? i am average looking. does anyone fancy me or has anyone EVER fancied me????? are the boys just shy to ask me out? (i have asked people ...
A. 17 May 2006: It seems to me that you should be rather thankful for not having a boyfriend yet because at your age they tend to be a tad immature. Have you ever tried to ask a boy out? Try asking someone you like because you never now they could feel the same ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend talks to this girl he dated, Is he cheating?
Q. I have a hard time deciding if he was cheating with this girl: He told me from the beginning--he speaks to two girls..One he has known since his pre-teens and never went out with. And another--a girl he went out with--he said it ended mutually a...
A. 17 May 2006: i think firstly you have to except that guys do sometimes keep in contact with there exs as do girls, the fact that he hardly speaks to her or for that matter even sees her you should think yourself lucky that you dont have to deal with the akward ... (read in full...)
Hoping we will reunite,but scared i will never see him again!
Q. My ex bf and I broke up about 5 months ago becuz he had 2 move back home and leave our uni. We both still really cared about eachother but we figured it would be best 2 end it becuz of the distance. We still k.i.t. with instant messages and the ...
A. 17 May 2006: well long distance relationships are hard but if you two really liked eachother you could give it a go? my brothers girlfriend has gone to uni but theyre still together, its about trust and really wanting it to work, so all you can do is think long ... (read in full...)
I fancy a shy girl...how do I make my move
Q. Hi. I have posted about this before but thought I'd give an update and would like some more opinions as I'm so confused! To recap, There's a girl who lives near me who knows I like her cos I sent her a card, she was always nice and smiley towards me ...
A. 17 May 2006: ahh well as someone who also works for my parents its really hard to tell whether shes polite or likes you, urm the best thing i can give you is to just walk in there and give her your number say if you want to go out give me a ring then walk out, ... (read in full...)
Reconciling with my girlfriend, what do we tell her family?
Q. I'm working on trying to reconcile with my girlfriend whom I have dated for the past year. We both are divorced and have kids. When she broke up with me, she told her family that she was no longer seeing me. What can she/we say to the family that ...
A. 17 May 2006: well i think the best way to save face is to see if you two do actually get back together and things work out first so that way if it doesnt work again the kids wont be effected. ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and a boy keeps asking me out but joking...
Q. i am 14. what does it mean when a boy asks you out but sounding as if he is joking? i mean keeps on and on asking but in a really joky way and it is so obviouse that he is joking cos he does it infront of the whole class! is he just trying to get ...
A. 17 May 2006: well been there done that, if probably does like you but being the age he is, hes probably embaressed so he makes a joke out of it. but and i say but, i would forget about him because if he aint gonna ask you out properly one on one then dont bother ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend pressuring me....should i dump him?
Q. Dear agony aunts, My new boyfriend keeps pressuring me to snog him and to give him blow jobs but i dont want to. Should i dump him?...
A. 17 May 2006: well first of how old are you? second scratch that cos it doesnt matter because not many girls like giving blow jobs anyway so you can rest ushered your not the only one there, but as for kissing take your time if he dont like it then tuff luck to ... (read in full...)
Afraid to change things with my boyfriend and my friend in case this is all in my head.... Advice?
Q. I dont know what to do, Im unhappy in my job, actively seeking a career that will satisfy me more even though it much less pay. Having problems with my boyfriend, a few little ones that feel worse to me because Im unhappy in other areas of my life, ...
A. 15 May 2006: you poor thing! well all i can say is that you have to do what is right for you they may be hurt but its not as your moving out of the country. everyone has times when things get too comfortable or repeated, you could try taking up a new hobbie? as ... (read in full...)
I'm in a 10 month relationship, which is tearing me apart and breaking every bit of my confidence...
Q. I'm in a 10 month relationship, which is tearing me apart and breaking every bit of my confidence. My bf's dominating. He wants to have the power over me, from changing my sense of dressing, not mixing around with anyone, prioritizing only him, ...
A. 14 May 2006: how dare he!! you so totally do not deserve any of that in fact you deserve a medal for even staying with him which after this you are going to dump him and get yourself pampered to the the bone!! hes a jerk and if you stay with him hes really going ... (read in full...)
I verbally abused him when he was here but now he's gone and I miss him! What should I do?
Q. hello i need advice me and my bf of six years broke up about six months ago he left me and moved out we have a 3 year old daughter together he said he just needed time i do admit i was mean i always told him i didnt need him and i wish he would ...
A. 14 May 2006: wow ok you dont make it easy do you, this isnt easy saying this but for the sake of your child i think you two are better off apart. sometimes it s better to cut your losses because you clearly bring out the worst in eachother. but if you two both ... (read in full...)
Men. They're there one minute texting and loving and the next they're gone. Why?
Q. Why is it alot of men show lots of intrest then all of a sudden seem to vanish of the planet? I have experienced this a few times. I have been dating someone for a few weeks and for the first few he was sending lots of lovey dovey and very f...
A. 14 May 2006: things have probably just been moving too fast for him to handle. i know men!! they can't make there minds up to safe themselves, but seriously let him have his time, let him be the one who contacts you firstly that way you know that your not ... (read in full...)
How do I get a date with a girl at work?
Q. I am 22 and I have a crush on a girl from work. She's 17, and she only works 3 hours per week. Her friend/our colleague told her I like her, and although she isnt't exactly taken, she told her she doesn't know me well enough to go on a date. The ...
A. 14 May 2006: well if she normally says bye then you succeeded in making her jealous but personally no brownies for you mister! if you want to just sleep with her forget because it'll end in tears, but if you really do like her then just give her your mobile ... (read in full...)
I slept with my boss and I am marrying someone else!
Q. I love my partner very much and am due to get married in a matter of weeks. We have been under enormous pressure for the past few months with the wedding, money worries and my partners depression in a job he hates, resulting in his total withdrawl ...
A. 14 May 2006: well ill say one thing at least you know you've done wrong. but one question for you, would you want to know if he'd done the same? theres your answer. good luck friend lets hope he has a big enough heart. ... (read in full...)
I fancy my female friend! She just wants to be friends
Q. well, ive known this girl 4 quite a few years ( about 12 ) and over the past few months ive really started to fancy her, but she just says she wants to be freinds, any ideas what i could do ?...
A. 14 May 2006: Im sorry to say this but there really isnt much you can do except to except her feelings and go out and find someone else. If you value your friendship you'll also give her time as ive had same experience and it made things weird, let her know your ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to get over him?
Q. heya my ex boyfriend dumped me a few weeks ago but i still really like him. i really really want to get over him. the thing is, i dont know how! how do i get over him when i have liked him for so long? i have fancied him for 2 years now. we went...
A. 11 May 2006: hay dare i really feel your pain as does so many other woman out darling. I could tell you the usual lardy da but dare really isn't much you can do except let yourself cry don't feel bad for it's part of the process of healing and make sure you get ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what to do about him, can anyone help?
Q. Hi I've known by boyfriend since July 2005 but have only been dating seriously since December 2005. We have been getting on great and he wants us to go on holiday together soon and has already bought my birthday present even though it's not until ...
A. 2 May 2006: Wow im so sorry for you im personally in the same boat my friend and all i can say for you is that he sounds such a nice guy so i feel can say this, be patient just let him know your there for him and let him call you. as for you your going to have ... (read in full...)
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