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writes: Hey I'm 14 and my bf is 17. He thought iIwas older and only found out my age after he said he liked me. When he found out he went weird but said that he still likes me but wants to take it slow. In a few months he will be 18. Should I stay with him and will this be OK? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): All the below answers are great. ShortandSweet...I wholeheartedly concur with your views and thank you for saying what I was thinking. The questioner may not like your answer but for the record, I rated your answer as 'excellent'. Keep giving us your wonderful insights.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 If he treats you respectfully and doesn't talk down to you, if he's good company and fun to be with, and if he doesn't push the envelope in regards to sex... then you're fine.
The main problems between legal-adult men and young women of your age are caused by his being ready to move on to sex, whereas you might not be so sure, not to mention that it's not legal.
Eighteen-year-olds can be very persuasive, and you may find that you're doing things you're not really ready for because you think you'll "lose him" if you don't! Once he turns 18 this can be a real concern, since you're probably not of legal age until the age of 16 (depends where you live).
If he's genuinely a nice man, and is serious about "taking things slow" with you, then carry on and see how it goes. Do be aware though, that there are likely to be times when he feels desperate for sex, and that could lead to problems, either because he's pressuring you, or because he feels a need to get it elsewhere.
Hope this is some help.
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reader, ShortandSweet? +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Sweetheart, I am so glad he went "weird" when he found out your age.Take it easy, take it slow, rate my answer as crap - but you are still more of a child than an adult. I would be suspicious of any male approaching 18 who is interested in a 14 yr old. Sorry if this does not help - you have so much time ahead of you; look after yourself xxxx
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reader, Ainley +, writes (24 May 2006):
 well it i think it is a bit risky in the sence your not even 16 but like you said he thought you were older, but as long as he respects you enough to stay away from any illegal activities until your 16 i would say best of luck to you. if you feel comfortable then thats great thats all that matters.
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