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I live in England,
I have always wanted to write! I wish I had found this site earlier! My dream would be to be an agony aunt and have my own column in a magazine or paper!!! until this happens I will keep dreaming!!!
I am always ready to offer a helping hand to any body who comes into my path I am empathic and truly beleive i was put on this planet to help others in need.
If you require my help or assistance now or in the future please do not hesitate to contact me
I have been told on numerous occasions that I have a great sense of intuition and am sensative to the spirit world .... this is also an area I wish to explore in the future..... time permitting!!!
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Is there really any point to trying at a relationship if there is no trust ?
Q. hey guys thanks again. i was just curious as to what u guys thought about trust. i was with a girl and we are now on a "break". and during this time she is talking to any guy that looks at her. now i hear that she "likes" one of them. if hell ...
A. 25 January 2007:
Hi
It sounds to me like you have already made your mind up with this lady!
However, it could have just been a silly game on her part to get a reaction from you. Relationships are not about silly games they are about trust, expressing ... (read in full...)
Im jealous that my ex has someone new, I really want someone new but its not happening!!!
Q. im jealous my ex boyfriend has moved on and im still single even though it was me that broke up with him. i really would like to meet guys but since starting college and doing a child care course i havent met anyone i really thought it would be a ...
A. 25 January 2007: Hi
I think you are wallowing in a little self pitty at the moment, and quite rightly so! you got rid of your bf and expected to move on , he has and you havn't and now you may feel a little jealous and maybe a little regret.
You are only ... (read in full...)
My GF gets upset thinking im bored of her as my job is making me so tired... What can I do as I really need this job but dont want to lose her!!! ?
Q. Sorry about the long question, but I've got to get some help with this. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half now, and while we've had our ups and downs, recently we've been having an increase in arguments and fights, ...
A. 25 January 2007:
I feel for you! I used to have horses and like yourself had to be up at the crack of dawn just to get to work on time, my relationship suffered as yours is and like yourself all i wanted to do do was have dinner and sleep!!!
It certainly ... (read in full...)
My Ex Best Friend is sleeping on my Girlfriends floor! Trouble is they have slpt together before!!!
Q. HI ive had problems with my girlfriend for a while if you havent read my other questions then she cheated on me with my ex best friend while we were having a rough patch. Anyway things havent got much better and he is still around and sleeps over at ...
A. 25 January 2007:
If your gf has cheated on you with your ex best friend, I can understand how frustrating and angry this has made you feel.
It must be driving you mad knowing thet he is sleeping at hers on her floor.
In the first instance, does he have t... (read in full...)
How do I find out if they're divorced?
Q. how do i find out if someone is divorced or not...
A. 25 January 2007: I would love to be able to help but unfortunately, I have little experience in this department.
If you cannot simply ask the question to the person concerned then I would suggest ringing a solicitor one who is an expert in divorce cases.
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Feel I've messed up by marrying someone who was my best friend but I didn't love - I was too afraid to hurt her by breaking up!
Q. I think perhaps I have made a mistake by getting married. We got together 8 years ago, split up after 3 then got back together the next year. Ever since then (4 years) I have felt that there has been something lacking: we get on fine but I don't ...
A. 25 January 2007:
I do feel for you, I also think you are being a little hard on yourself.
What is so wrong with being married to your soul mate your best friend? in my experience people can search the universe or search a life time to find what you have go... (read in full...)
How can I help my lady overcome her jealousy?
Q. How can I help my lady with her jealousy? We both trust each other, and know deep down that we'd never do anything with anyone else, yet she still gets jealous if I talk to another girl. This causes a tad problem, since my girls at my job outnumber ...
A. 25 January 2007:
You need to re assure her that you are with her because you choose to be with her!
Let her know that if you had an ulterior motive and wanted to be with these females then you would be, However, she is the one that you choose to be with, let he... (read in full...)
We hooked up in the dorm and now I am afraid to tell him my true feeligs! What can I do?
Q. I'm gay, and my roommate from last year in the dorms was also gay. Within the first 2 weeks of school we were hooking up but not telling anyone about it publicly or even discussing it to ourselves. Things stopped for awhile then all of second ...
A. 25 January 2007: Hi,
You are getting yourself in a stew!
Firstly,
contact your friend, arrange to meet him, have your usual laughs and jokes, then as the evening progresses, try and open up and tell him how you are really feeling.
Honesty is the best pol... (read in full...)
What do you recommend to get rid of heavy acne? Any ideas?
Q. i've got heavy acne. my skin is always oily. i've used tea tree oil, facial scrub's all by best companies sellin expensive products. any thing you recommend to try? also where my spots die i sometimes accidently cut my spots when shaving. this has ...
A. 25 January 2007: I think willywombat has great advice, I myself took a trip to my GP as a teenager and was also prescribed Tetracyline it was so simple to use, I have never looked back.
Get an appointment as soon as you can.
Good Luck
Kindest Regards
Ad... (read in full...)
She said she just wants to be friends but I want to ask her out. What can I do?
Q. just before xmas i asked this girl out. she said she doesn't feel the same and she just wants to be friends now. i still love her, i talk to her everyday on msn. could i casually ask her out on valentines day? i just wanna give it another go. any ...
A. 25 January 2007: Hi,
I wouldn't say that this is rejection, I would just say that maybe she is not interested in any relationship currently, she may have other issues in her life at the moment.
If you pluck up the courage to ask her out for her Birthday or Vale... (read in full...)
Do I accept the relationship is over and move on... or try to save it?
Q. my partner of 11 years has recently told me that she wants to seperate,she says that there is no one else involved and that she simply does'nt love me anymore.we have an 8 year old son who has'nt been told yet.the family home has been sold and she ...
A. 23 January 2007:
I sincerely apologise for stating Daughter instead od Son
Once again I am genuinly sorry
Adelaide
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How do I tell her how I feel without scaring her off?
Q. I am a 30 year old man. I have been celibate and have not dated since I caught my fiance in bed with another man seven years ago (which ended our relationship). I have recently reconnected with an old friend from high school. I had a crush on her ...
A. 23 January 2007: Hi,
It's a great feeling isn't it!!
Firstly,
you need to know if she is dating somebody, this will give you a good basis to build on!
If she is dating somebody else then you pursue your friendship with her and don't try to charm her roman... (read in full...)
Do I accept the relationship is over and move on... or try to save it?
Q. my partner of 11 years has recently told me that she wants to seperate,she says that there is no one else involved and that she simply does'nt love me anymore.we have an 8 year old son who has'nt been told yet.the family home has been sold and she ...
A. 23 January 2007: HI,
I understand the predicament you are in at the moment, I understand that you want your family to be together. Breaking up is never easy.
My advice would be to ask her to write to you, giving all the reasons why she wants to part with you, a... (read in full...)
I said I didn't love him when I was depressed, but I do and told him I didn't mean it. Since, our relationship has been very rocky.
Q. I split up with my boyf of 4 years, just over 3 weeks ago, as he said he thinks we should split up. We have had some problems in the past. I suffered depression in the past and told him I didn't love him. I didn't mean it as my depression had take...
A. 10 January 2007: Hi I understand how you must be feeling at the moment and I sympathise with you having to battle with depression its not easy. This long term relationship seems to have run it's course, you are both feeling a little confused perhaps you have... (read in full...)
My guinea pig is like a family member; the vet says he will pass away soon. How do I cope?
Q. I know this sounds really stupid but basically I have this 6 year old guinea pig and it sounds really daft but I am really close to him and the vet said he won't make it throuh the winter. I'm so upset and I know a lot of people will probably scoff ...
A. 16 November 2006: Your not silly sweetie you are only human!
to put things into perspective what you have to remember is that everything and everyone has a life cycle in terms of years this is a fact.
It is going to be a very upsetting time for you when the ine... (read in full...)
I'm talking with my newly single ex and missing our good times together! I want him back, but am afraid of rejection.
Q. Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago and were then sex buddies for another month. Then he got a gf and so we pretty much dropped contact. This sounds wierd, but I kind of forgot all the wonderful times we had in our relationship, so I could get over ...
A. 16 November 2006:
Don't rush this, he is only just single 2 days you say.....
I feel if you rush in he may initially want you but what happens if his ex comes back on the scene and wants him back and they reconcile thier differences! where will that leave you??... (read in full...)
He wants to invite his friends to our wedding - but these friends always ignore me! Any advice?
Q. im getting married next year. its to be a small wedding as i dont have a large family so there are only to be 40 or so guests. my fiancee wants to invite his friend and his wife whom i really cant stand.they both ignore me when i see them preferring ...
A. 16 November 2006:
Personally, I feel his friends are acting rather jealous of his relationship with you, lets face it surely they were brought up with manners so that rules out rude arrogant ignorant etc etc!!!
How rude!!!! However, I do feel that they resent... (read in full...)
I'm seeing him tonight and I'm so nervous! How do I boost my confidence?
Q. I am falling for someone who i used to work with, we see each other a lot in the evenings and he told me the other day that he has always wanted me. I am seeing him tonight and I am so nervous. What can I do to be more confident? I had a four ...
A. 16 November 2006:
Oh I forgot to say before you leave the house say out loud ten times
" I CAN DO THIS" I CAN DO THIS!!!!!! Positive Mental Attitude
xx... (read in full...)
I'm seeing him tonight and I'm so nervous! How do I boost my confidence?
Q. I am falling for someone who i used to work with, we see each other a lot in the evenings and he told me the other day that he has always wanted me. I am seeing him tonight and I am so nervous. What can I do to be more confident? I had a four ...
A. 16 November 2006:
Lucky you!!!
Just go and enjoy yourself, keep it casual, nothing too heavy, tell him you are nervous! He is only human and Im sure he will be feeling a little nervous too.
Just go ahead have fun be yourself and enjoy the evening.
th... (read in full...)
Would it make people... frown?
Q. is it ok for a 19 year old guy in the uk to date a 16 year old girl. I know its legal but would people frown upon it?...
A. 16 November 2006: I don't think in this day an age this relationship would be frowned upon.
The only hurdle that you may have to overcome is her parents, whilst she may be mature and want to date you, her parents may see you as a threat or a guy with an ulterior... (read in full...)
I felt like his texts mean he's pulling away... Am I right?
Q. I'm going to try and summarise my situation as much as possible. met 7 months ago. He found my number and starting texting me. we live 8 hours drive away from each other. He was warm and exciting and text me 5/6 a day, telling me what hes' ...
A. 16 November 2006: I think you are a superstar!! you have already made a move in the right direction, you deserve so much better! please take a friend and make time to have a really good old belly laugh!! I promise you you will be happy again and it will be ve... (read in full...)
I cry for hours when my boyfriend is away...
Q. Hey everyone I dont really know where to begin with this i knoow i need some help/advice tho. This will prob sound saft to people Im sure people have been thru so much worse. I am finding it really hard to understand and control my emotion...
A. 16 November 2006:
Firstly my heart goes out to you!
Where can I start? I do feel that you have built your world around this man, and whilst initially there was no harm in this it appears now that it has become unhealthy.
when I say this I mean that you are... (read in full...)
She went on a business trip and I found a very suspicious email she sent to some guys she met while she was there!
Q. Recently my gf went on a business trip to Las Vegas. I had access to her email unknowingly. The next day when she came back I found an email she had written to someone. I want an honest opinion from you guys/girls about what this sounds like to you. ...
A. 16 November 2006:
Do you smell a rat?
Hey,
she met 2 really nice guys one of whom I think she quotes" I was really into" how you interpret this is upto you...
She clearly wants to be in contact with these guys again!!! she has made that blatently obvi... (read in full...)
I felt like his texts mean he's pulling away... Am I right?
Q. I'm going to try and summarise my situation as much as possible. met 7 months ago. He found my number and starting texting me. we live 8 hours drive away from each other. He was warm and exciting and text me 5/6 a day, telling me what hes' ...
A. 16 November 2006: Hi,
I really do feel for you, However, I do feel that you have given this guy to much line he just does not know when to stop taking does he?
You have given him every opportunity to be both honest and forthcoming with his feelings, emails... (read in full...)
I'm depressed and my libido is gone. My partner thinks it's him and it's not. Help!
Q. I just get so depressed i sometimes don't even want to get out of bed. My new partner finds it hard to understand and thinks it is him. I don't know why i feel like this. We have only been together since April. We should be in the honeymoon period ...
A. 15 November 2006:
Hi
you are not the first and you certainly won't be the last to feel like you are at the moment.
I feel you are depressed and to not want to get out of bed in the morning... I don't think you should ignore these feelings.
Have you se... (read in full...)
I need to go on the pill but mom wont agree !
Q. hi, i was wondering if anyone (female) would have advice for me i am a 15 year old girl and lately my pms is incredibly painful. i have cramps for weeks leading up to my pms just to have that last up to 7-8 days of heavy flow with even worse cram...
A. 15 November 2006:
Hi,
I genuinly do sympathise with the way you are feeling, I myself suffered to the same extent as you, I found myself missing school, I found myself in later years missing work as a result of the pain I suffered.
I found as the years went ... (read in full...)
My best mate won't talk to me after our drunken kissing!
Q. me and my mate where very drunk last week and ended up kissing. he seems to have been avoidin me since so i text him but he doesnt remember what happend and when i told him he has told me not to speak to him again. hes my best m8 and im gutted i ...
A. 15 November 2006: Hi,
what a lot of drink you must have consumed!!!
Joking apart, I undersatnd the predicament you are faced with. I think initially you are going to have to allow your best mate to get his head around what happened on this drunken night, e... (read in full...)
She has emotional issues but I'm not sure if it's this that affecting us or...is she stringing me along?
Q. Am I in a String Along Relationship? I've been dating my on/off girlfriend (we're both in our 30's) for 2.5 years. We started out as friends, but she pursued to date me (I'm female and date women, she never had), and succeeded after many month...
A. 15 November 2006: you have been patient with this one!
My advise would be to reiterate what you have previously told her, you care, you think she should seek help, you will stand by her throughout the help process!
However, unless she is willing to seek help for... (read in full...)
Should my former Art Teacher, now lover, move schools?
Q. I'v just finished school and I'v been attracted to my Art teacher (34 years old and not married or in a realtionship) for 3 years. At our school valatictory dinner (which is a leaving dinner for students, parents and teachers before leaving exams) ...
A. 15 November 2006: Firstly,
I would take the time to sit down and talk to him, find out how this could potentially affect his job/welfare
Unfortunately, I am not an expert in this field. However, it appears to me that you are both mature adults and are both con... (read in full...)
I'm not physically attracted to my wife like I used to be!!!
Q. I am not physically attracted to my wife like I used to be. Is there hope for restoring physical attractiveness? My wife and I have been married almost 5 years. We are both around 40. We have only had intercourse eleven times this year. I am...
A. 15 November 2006: Weight gain is usually gradual and can be for many reasons.
does she comfort eat, is she unhappy? or does she overeat because she is so content?
The reason for her being overweight might actually be because she is feeling unfullfilled in ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't give me oral sex, should this be an issue?
Q. Should I make my boyfriend's unwillingness to give me oral sex an issue? First, I go down on him quite a bit, and enjoy it, so I feel like in that respect it should be reciprocated. However, in the past at least, oral sex has never made me or...
A. 15 November 2006: It sounds to me like he has had a bad experience prior to yourself and making a bid deal or giving him an ultimatum at this stage would definately be the wrong thing to do!
recently I went to a sex and relationship workshop, they do have a banann... (read in full...)
I'm not physically attracted to my wife like I used to be!!!
Q. I am not physically attracted to my wife like I used to be. Is there hope for restoring physical attractiveness? My wife and I have been married almost 5 years. We are both around 40. We have only had intercourse eleven times this year. I am...
A. 15 November 2006: Usually, weight gain is a sign that your wife may be content or unhappy, does she comfort eat? maybe she is over eating because she herself feels unfulfilled in her life currently.
You could perhaps encourage her to start dieting, say that you... (read in full...)
My brothers 10 year marriage ended because his wife had an affair, now he hates ALL woman, including his own daughter!
Q. My brother was married 10 years until he found out his wife had an affair. To be honest he was always at work (reason for affair probably) more than with his wife. But it still came as a big shock to him with her filing the divorce. Since then he ...
A. 15 November 2006: Firstly, how lovely to read he has a family member who cares so much for him!!
My advice to you would be to write a letter to him, telling him how sorry your family and yourself are to learn of these recent events.
It is imperative for h... (read in full...)
I like the gym reception guy but I suspect he might be gay!
Q. I like the boy in the gym reception and we flirt visually a bit and today I noticed him getting jealous because other boys were looking at me friendly though. I suspect this boy I like could be gay, I think he's lovely as he always cheers me up ...
A. 14 November 2006: I think in this day and age you should be open and honest!
Personally I would take it one step further, it's nice to flirt and a bit of flirtatious fun is harmless. However, why not engage yourself into conversation with him, this way you will hav... (read in full...)
I can't tell if we're together out of habit or love! Help please?
Q. I have been seeing my girlfriend for about 4 years. I'm 26 and shes 22. We have just returned from travelling for a year in OZ. We had a great time but had quite alot of serious arguments and my girlfriend actually admitted that she thought we would ...
A. 14 November 2006: Thanks for the feedback- I hope it has helped- I wish you well and hope it works out.
Adelaide... (read in full...)
I can't tell if we're together out of habit or love! Help please?
Q. I have been seeing my girlfriend for about 4 years. I'm 26 and shes 22. We have just returned from travelling for a year in OZ. We had a great time but had quite alot of serious arguments and my girlfriend actually admitted that she thought we would ...
A. 14 November 2006: Four years... you are 26 and it sounds to me that whilst you appear to adore your gf you are not in love with her.
If times were so good whilst travelling I strongly beleive you would both be planning your next travelling experience!
why not... (read in full...)
He carries on with his ex wife bc of the kids. But he hasn't even told her of our engagement! I feel so mopey. Any advice?
Q. My partner is still in touch with his ex because of their kids. I hate it when she phones, he takes the phone into another room and i can hear him laughing. It nearly drives me mad but he says he can't be horrible to her because of me. I'm not ...
A. 14 November 2006: Firstly, please don't be so hard on yourself.
I hate to state the obvious but they were married for 15 years-they have a history and have had children. There will always be some communication between them this is a fact.
What you have to reme... (read in full...)
I took my ex back, now I've found sexual texts on his phone between him and his ex!!
Q. Where to start? My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years and are currently in the process of buying a house together. He has a son from his last relationship and his ex-girlfriend is still texting him all the time and clearly still has ...
A. 14 November 2006: Honesty, is the best policy in any relationship, you need to tackle this issue immediately, ask him about the text messages, ask him if he is having sex elsewhere! be prepared for an honest answer.
Advise him that you have more self worth and if t... (read in full...)
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