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writes: HI ive had problems with my girlfriend for a while if you havent read my other questions then she cheated on me with my ex best friend while we were having a rough patch. Anyway things havent got much better and he is still around and sleeps over at hers occassionally even though its "on the floor".....tonight she accused me of cheating on her, which I would never do ( I mean before all this we were talkin of moving in together) because she means way to much to me! yet when I went round tonight he was at her house alone while she was out with friends and we had a scuffle and he threw me out of the house!. She said she didnt want to talk and that there was no point. Even now i find myself holding on and wanting to sort things out! what am I supposed to make of all this and what should I do?!?!?!?
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (25 January 2007):
If your gf has cheated on you with your ex best friend, I can understand how frustrating and angry this has made you feel.
It must be driving you mad knowing thet he is sleeping at hers on her floor.
In the first instance, does he have the right to throw you out of YOUR gf's house? personally I don't think he is in a position to do this.
Secondly, I have to question your gf's motive- not wanting to talk about it! surely she cares enough about you to hear the events that took place when you were thrown out!
If she is not willing to discuss the issues raised then I suspect that she does have an ulterior motive and the best thing you can do as hard as it may seem is to walk away.
Let her get on with her silly games, lets put the boot on the other foot, how would she feel if you had an ex gf sleeping on your bedroom floor and she was thrown out by your ex. How would she feel?
I don't wish to sound harsh and I genuinly am sorry that you have found yourself in this predicament, However, I would walk away, make no contact with her, when she calls, avoid taking the call, hopefully this will bring her to her senses and realise what a great understanding bf she has missed out on.
Leave them to it, I suspect she will be the one who comes running to you when things go pear shaped for her.
question is will you be willing to be so understanding?
you deserve so much more you surely have more self worth to let yourself be treated in this way.
Get strong, you can do this!
Good Luck
Kindest Regards
Adelaide.
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