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writes: I just get so depressed i sometimes don't even want to get out of bed. My new partner finds it hard to understand and thinks it is him. I don't know why i feel like this. We have only been together since April. We should be in the honeymoon period but it doesn't feel exciting. I also pretend to enjoy sex and i don't. My libido has just disappeared. I don't know what to to.
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (15 November 2006):
Hi
you are not the first and you certainly won't be the last to feel like you are at the moment.
I feel you are depressed and to not want to get out of bed in the morning... I don't think you should ignore these feelings.
Have you seen your GP recently? are there any issues that have happened in the past that are preventing you from enjoying yourself? stress related incidents? Have you been burning the candles at both ends and feel you simply need to hibernate or take time out to recuperate? only you know the answer to this...
I do agree that so early in your relationship you appear to be on different pages, but with a little effort and short term goals I have every confidence that you can overcome these feeling of depression.
make a list of whats good and whats bad in your life currently. if the bad outways the good then what you need to do is try to eliminate the bads one by one or turn them into a positive, eventually you will be in total control of what makes you happy and what makes you sad- do it through the elimination process.
also a little exercise daily and a healthy low fat diet will help you enormously.
give your self 6 weeks and if at this time you don't feel any better then please go and talk to your GP and get some professional help.
I hope this helps a little
Best Wishes and Kindest Regards
Adelaide
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reader, jack23 +, writes (15 November 2006):
 I expect this is mostly a cause of the day you have ahead. If you have pretty much the same routine day in day out then why would you want to get out of bed?? Wether you have a job or a house wife I believe it is your daily routine that is causing your lack of motivation.
Try adding some new experiences to you day. Take up a hobbie, arrange to do things you really want to do. Its going to take action on your part to start this change, but will encourage you out of bed for a day to look forward to!
If there's additional problems in the bed room maybe its time for experimentation. Try some new things to spice up your love life. Im sure that your husband would be only to have to discover a new sexy side to his wife!
Good luck, hope this helps :)
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