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writes: me and my mate where very drunk last week and ended up kissing. he seems to have been avoidin me since so i text him but he doesnt remember what happend and when i told him he has told me not to speak to him again. hes my best m8 and im gutted i told him but it was only drunken behavior. how can i get him to forget the whole thing???
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reader, refreshme  +, writes (26 March 2009):
well, was this event in a public place? If so I would imagine hes pretty embarrassed. Even if it were a private event well yer hes probably confused about it as it probably felt great! Give him time. and yer make him laugh again! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): he's never gona forget it trust me on that one but you guys can so move through this. I'm a boys girl and have been down the road your on i reacon that your best course of action is to just give him some space which i know is hard but at this stage its really important... You know that some time soon there is gona be drinks or a party or something where ul both be... wait for that time and then whwn you see him go acting like it never happened if you do this things kinda go back to the way they were and you never know what could happen being unavaliable is whats hot right now
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (15 November 2006):
 Hi,
what a lot of drink you must have consumed!!!
Joking apart, I undersatnd the predicament you are faced with. I think initially you are going to have to allow your best mate to get his head around what happened on this drunken night, especially if he is in a relationship, the guilt alone will create immense pressure to him if he has a concience.
He may be feeling discusted, dirty, betrayed as a friend, he may feel he instigated this kiss and this in itself is playing havoc in his mind. He will be questioning Why this happened He will question If he is gay because he kissed you.
All these emotions are running high and the only way he can deal with this currently is to keep you at arms length he will be petrified of coming into contact with you at this moment in time.... he needs time to work out why this happened.
all I can suggest is you allow him this time to come to terms with his drunken behaviour- beleive me he will come around....
leave it a few days then text him again, and try to make light of that evening saying you realise it was a mistake and you don't wish to put a ring on his finger and suddenly declair your undying love for him, tell him you certainly don't intend to move in or share a bed with him!! tell him he had bad breath anyway!!! anything to make him see the funnyside... you know him best.
tell him how it is, if he values his friendship with you then you have a chance to win him round and in a few weeks who knows you might both have a good old belly laugh about that drunken episode.
if you value his friendship you have to allow him this time and assure him that this will not happen again simply apologise, you are only human.. don't give yourself a hard time over this.
Good Luck and Kindest Regards
Adelaide
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