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writes: How can I help my lady with her jealousy? We both trust each other, and know deep down that we'd never do anything with anyone else, yet she still gets jealous if I talk to another girl. This causes a tad problem, since my girls at my job outnumber the men 3 to 1. What can I do to help her overcome this?
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reader, cd206  +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Constant reassurance is the only way. Tell her something you love about her every day and give her lots of affectionate cuddles. Apart from that there's not much you can do. The jealousy is, unfortunately, her problem and hers only. However I think it's fantastic that you want to help her overcome it, rather than just moaning about it like most guys would.
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (25 January 2007):
You need to re assure her that you are with her because you choose to be with her!
Let her know that if you had an ulterior motive and wanted to be with these females then you would be, However, she is the one that you choose to be with, let her know what attracted you to her in the first instance, tell her what makes you laugh about her, tell her what you love about her.
It may be that she has been hurt in the past and she is simply insecure, don't give her reason to doubt you, dont talk about the ladies in the office, try and focus on the male company you keep.
She needs to work on her own self esteem and her own confidence but you can help her do this.
Is she independant or does she rely on you heavily for socialising? it does sound like she is feeling a little down and doesn't have much self worth
give her the confidence to seek new challenges, new hobbies, a life outside of yours, this way she will build her confidence and not feel like she is living in your shadow. It will also give her other things to talk to you about other than her jealousy.
As time goes by and she has built on her confidence and self worth then she will feel less threatened by other ladies bingo! you can then really start to enjoy each other as you should be.
this can work!
Good Luck and Kindest Regards
Adelaide
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