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writes: im jealous my ex boyfriend has moved on and im still single even though it was me that broke up with him. i really would like to meet guys but since starting college and doing a child care course i havent met anyone i really thought it would be a new start and maybe a new boyfriend but its just not happeneing what shall i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): Just enjoy your freedom. Just because your ex has met someone else doesn't mean you have to. Never rush into a relationship for this reason. The right person will come along at the right time and you deserve to be happy. Don't panic - it will happen in time.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Don't jump into a new relationship like him. His is a rebound fling and won't work out. You, on the other hand, are in a strong position. You've just started college and are surrounded by hundreds of guys, maybe not in your course but in your free period and during break and lunch try chatting to some and get to be friends. You'll have a new boyfriend in no time but there's no rush.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2007): Hi, I think you may be hurting a bit knowing your ex is with someone new, even if you broke up with him, you still have feelings, love doesn't die it just fades.
Men tend to move into a new relationship quickly to mend their egos, doesn't mean he has found love, but more likely a sex partner....so don't fret, it is not always as it seems, and does not mean that you are not going to meet a new love, you are just wiser and pickier and focusing on achieving your goals right now instead of jumping into bed to make yourself feel more desirable....it is not a competition after all.
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reader, Adelaide +, writes (25 January 2007):
 Hi
I think you are wallowing in a little self pitty at the moment, and quite rightly so! you got rid of your bf and expected to move on , he has and you havn't and now you may feel a little jealous and maybe a little regret.
You are only human and you will feel doubts at this time. However, I can assure you that you will move on and you will get over this period of sadness.
I would personally throw myself into my studies and forget men/relationships for the time being, it is not a must to have a man.
Get your confidence back, get yourself the qualification that you are working so hard to acheive, take time out for you with your gf's go and see movies etc join a gym go and do what you want to do!
It's a great feeeling once you have gained independance and the confidence to go through life and be happy with your own decisions.
Whilst you are feeling down your body launguage and face will be giving the wrong vibes. What you need to do is rid yourself of these doubts, you split with him for a reason, remember this reason and get positive and move on with your life, you can do this.
When you least expect it and your enjoying life to the full you will meet somebody and it will be right for you!
just remember Rome wasnt built in a day, you will get over this it just may take time.
One way of putting things into prespective is to perhaps think of your ex as insecure, perhaps he is on the rebound and cannot be independant and stand on his own two feet.
You just get strong and show him you can!
who knows in time if you were meant to be together you will be. In the meantime get on with your life and think up a Positive Mental Attitude stratedgy.
Good Luck and Best Wishes
Adelaide
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (25 January 2007):
 hi there
i think you need to relax and not jump into any relationship that comes along because your ex is ahead of you. you had your own reasons to break up with him i dont think you had competition in mind who will find a partner first. set your priorities right and enjoy your life as it is; appearing desperate might attract the wrong crowd and i dont think thats what u want. set your mind free and do well in your college work. your guy will come along in due time. make yourself proud.
jovial
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