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Archived questions from: September, 2020 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

My partner's abuse is making me unwell

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1498 days ago

30 September 2020 (F) - my partners abuse is making me depressed and unwell. hes constantly calling me names and putting me down. the other day he went mad because i stepped in something and my shoe was dirty he was yelling and yelling at me and said hes locking me out ...

Its been 3 weeks since I've gotten a text. Do I give up on him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1515 days ago

30 September 2020 (F) - So, in August, I started talking to this guy from Hinge. His name is Gabriel. I'm really into him and I think he is into me, too -- or maybe was? A week after our first conversation, his grandmother passed away. They were very close, he said. ...

How can I deal with possessive in-laws?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1518 days ago

28 September 2020 (F) - Hi all, I would love for some honest and real advice about how I could possibly deal with possessive in laws. I have been married 4 years now and have always had issues with my gaining my voice and freedom with my in laws. I am from an Indian ...

Do I leave her because we only have sex every 3 months?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1518 days ago

27 September 2020 (M) - In a relationship over three years sex only once in three months ,she know i want it but she comes up with all these excuses , and women wonder why men cheat, am tired of doing my self, so am i suppose to tell her , i need sex , or am going to get ...

Should I feel guilty because I don't want to help my family financially anymore?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1516 days ago

26 September 2020 (F) - Dear everyone, I grow up in a dysfunctional family, where the root start from my own parents. I will try my best to make this short. Everyone hates me even im helping everyone, that include my parents too. Since young about 10 years old im al...

Why is my boyfriend purposely trying to hurt me? Why is it so hard to leave?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1524 days ago

24 September 2020 (F) - I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have a child together now and he is 2. Our relationship has always been good but definitely had it’s fair share of ups and downs. Recently it just feels like everything keeps falling around me while I’m ...

My boyfriend lied to me now I have trust issues and wonder how many other times he might have lied

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1524 days ago

23 September 2020 (F) - I've been in a relationship with a guy for just over a year. We had some minor bumps in the road - mostly him not understanding my love language but he always tried to understand me and we could talk anything out. He was always very patient and ...

How do you make adult children be nice and respect you and most importantly take responsibility for themselves

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1523 days ago

23 September 2020 (F) - so basically i left a really bad violent marriage 15 years ago (the violence was only towards me) and i’ve been trying to make it up to my 2 daughters ever since, my girls are now aged 19 and 21 and ever since walking out the door from my ex ...

How do I let go of anger? I dated a friend who ended things and told everyone it was my fault

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1523 days ago

23 September 2020 (F) - I have a male friend of a couple of years. About a year ago he told me he likes me as more than a friend and had done for a year. I liked him too so we started dating. He kept telling me how he sees a future with me and how much he likes me etc. ...

Estranged sister moves in and creates problems, what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1525 days ago

20 September 2020 (F) - Hello, I have a question about how to deal with an estranged sister. Years ago, she abandoned my siblings and I for a man. Then had a kid and lived out of the country. I found out that she cheated on her husband with another man so her son moved in ...

My inlaws do nothing for us but expect my husband to drop everything to help them

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1527 days ago

19 September 2020 (F) - My mother-in-law needed work done on her house costing £400 which my husband paid for with the understanding that he would be reimbursed. Now she said to him that she will give him half the money towards it saying it will be his house soon anyway, ...

I have become the punching bag for my long term girlfriend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1529 days ago

18 September 2020 (M) - I am in a long term relationship with someone I love very much. We have been together for roughly nine years now, living together for about 4 1/2. I wouldn't say our relationship is 'normal' we both battled hard to get to this point in time, an...

Does holding resentment towards an ex means I haven't moved on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1518 days ago

18 September 2020 (F) - When we met online, we hit it off. we met in person and the connection and chemistry was undeniable. He stayed at my flat for 2 weeks.And he asked me to be exclusive but the problem is we live 4 hours apart. But he said we will make it work. When he ...

Should we think about moving in his sisters house? She's bossy and controlling

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1527 days ago

18 September 2020 (F) - Should we think about moving in his sisters house my husbands oldest sister husband passed March of this year she is now saying she wont s to move out her house. I cannot stand her she controlling bossy and sure a pain in our marriage she sto...

How to cut off a toxic and controlling friend whom I see often?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1534 days ago

15 September 2020 (F) - I want to cut off a toxic and controlling friend but don’t know how. Normally, I would’ve just blocked her and said nothing. I don’t believe that’s necessarily the right way, as being direct and adult about it would probably be better. But I don’t ...

Why is my married boyfriend emotionally torturing me? He keeps leaving me and then coming back!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1532 days ago

13 September 2020 (F) - Why would the married man I've been involved with keep leaving me and coming back? He left me in July and came back. He just left me again. He said he loves me and that's why he has to let me go. Cause he can't stand seeing me suffer cause I want ...

I'm worried and feeling impatient that my falling out with my friend isn't getting sorted

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1534 days ago

12 September 2020 (F) - I feel silly writing this but here goes I fell out with a friend over something I did with best intentions but my friend didn't see it that way As they are busy working in had to WhatsApp an apology I was genuine as I felt awful and told th...

I’m having problems refusing invitations coming from people who either do not take the virus seriously or have their own biases on what is safe, usually justifying what suits them

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1533 days ago

11 September 2020 (F) - Hi uncles and aunts, I have recently come across a question on « how to say no » and read your great answers. Even though my question is similar, I would really need your help, because it is specific to this pandemic situation. I’m having pro...

I'm not happy keeping secrets in regards to our son's girlfriend

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1540 days ago

7 September 2020 (F) - My son met his gf when he first went to work abroad a few years ago. She is from Brasil. Last year he got all the paperwork he needed and headed off to Brasil to get married. She had told them they could marry in 6wks from his arrival, but tha...

How can I avoid so much conflict in my relationship and be happier?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1528 days ago

7 September 2020 (F) - I have been with my(27) bf (29) for 6 years. Recently things have been quite intense because of lockdown and I feel like we keep falling into certain arguments. My bf is funny and can be sweet and we have a lot in common. However, he struggle...

How do I stop feeling the need to give a valid reason when refusing something?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 1468 days ago

6 September 2020 (F) - How do I stop feeling the need to give a valid reason when refusing something? First of all I'd like to let you know that I never blame other people for trying to get their way. This is ALL on me. I had this problem for as long as I can remembe...

My family always has to drink when there are get togethers

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1539 days ago

6 September 2020 (F) - Hi.. it's a family problem I need help with ... Both my mum and dad are functioning drinkers both work hard but like a drink .. my issue is that it's been this way for years and this puts me off drinking and i have struggled for years that no ...

I feel lost in life and myself. I don't know what to do

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1534 days ago

6 September 2020 (F) - I am truly lost in life and myself. i cry constantly and have anxiety and feel alone wherever i go. i just break down in tears in the street and at home everywhere i grew up with an abusive father who called me names and put me down and wouldnt...

What do I write to this troubled man in prison that is a friend of the family?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1537 days ago

5 September 2020 (F) - Dear Cupids, My husband and I bought a house in a village 6 years ago. We go there a couple of times a year and hope to retire there. When we came there, we met a couple. We’re in our forties and they are 55 and 64. They have two grown chil...

How do we cope with this? My dad kicked out my mom to move in his younger gay lover

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1541 days ago

5 September 2020 (F) - Life in quarantine has been tough recently; Dad split up from Mom (and she's heartbroken about it) and Mom moved in with me and my partner of 3 years. He broke up with Mom for a younger illegal immigrant from the U.S. (the guy's only 24, that's year ...

He thinks it's okay to keep things from me, and I am struggling to trust him!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1544 days ago

3 September 2020 (F) - I am at my wit's end! My boyfriend blames me for the disagreement we are now having. He says I am paranoid and don't trust him and he acts passive aggressive, dismissing all my feelings and then later cutting off all conversation with me. I have ...

It's SO NOT FAIR that he gets to deduct from child support whenever he wants and says I'm taking advantage of him! I'm SO UPSET!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1545 days ago

3 September 2020 (F) - Dear Cupid, I'm feeling quite sad and upset tonight. Seeking some advice on how to process what I am feeling and/or what to do about it. I wrote for advice a month ago (I think) about this topic, but at that time it was focused on how my daughter ...

My boyfriend made a rude remark about my new hobby. Should I get another hobby?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1544 days ago

2 September 2020 (F) - I am going riding with a motorcycle riding group. My boyfriend has encouraged me to get some hobbies I do on my own. I've always liked going on scenic drives on motorcycles. So I found this group. When I told my boyfriend about it, he said that ...

I don't want to end our relationship after 10 years but my partner lacks an emotive layer

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1547 days ago

1 September 2020 (F) - Have been in a relationship for ten years (not married, no kids). I get on with my other half very much on most things. My problem is that he seems to have a lack of what i define as "emotive layer". He doesnt care about birthdays, anniversaries, ...