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How do I go about dating the girl everyone hates?
Q. There's a girl who most of my friends dont like. She knows I like her. I dont know If I should ask her out or just be friends and not risk losing my other friends. What should I do?...
A. 15 July 2008: Dude if you really like her and care more about her than your friends then go for it, it is worth the risk. But if you are just infatuated and as uncertain as your wording of the question suggests, do not even try. Because when you change your mind ... (read in full...)
Plain and simple, I need intercourse, I am on birth control, no kids for five years, if it works, my boyfriend does not want to worry about pregnancy, so no sex, I want sex, how do I persuade him to comply??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half, and we have not had sex. We've messed around and done different kinds of sex. He has told me that he is extremely paranoid about pregnancy and he honestly can't help it. I've been really ...
A. 15 July 2008: Well I know someone will undoubtably tell you different and then you can feel all justified about what you are doing, but yeah that is very selfish of you. Obviously you care more about your libido than actually being in a relationship. Or perhaps ... (read in full...)
Why can't I meet a guy who is not a liar, not into porn, not an addict or not into the bleached blonde, blow-up doll type, which I am not, am I just unlucky in love, or do I need a change of venue from southern California?
Q. Hi there. I am a 27 year old healthy, fun, athletic, sincere, hard working, (like to think of myself as) pretty attractive female. I live in Southern California and it seems like every man I meet is a liar, is an addict, is into porn (which I ...
A. 15 July 2008: Well it could have to do with where exactly you pick up these men. I can't imagine all of Southern California is void of quality men, so maybe you should go to other places there. Or maybe you are just unlucky for now but either way, don't give up ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was very loving, we had sex, he invited me to dinner with his family, all in the last week we were together, then bam, he said he didn't want a relationship, don't want him back, want to try to understand what happened, can anyone shed s
Q. I'm 19 years old. My bf recently broke up with me but I didn't see it coming because right up until the very last night we spent together he was totaly leading me on. He lead me on by talking about our future, making more plans, sleeping with me, ...
A. 15 July 2008: Um to answer your question about how he could sleep with you yet always know that he would break up with you latter is that he just wanted sex and when he was tired of you he broke up with you.
I seriously do not believe it was an over night ch... (read in full...)
I am confused and I cry a lot, don't know if I still love my boyfriend, we decided to separate for a while,miss him, but not sure what to do now, please help me?
Q. Ok... I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, and we have a lot of fun together. He is basically the ideal boyfriend. He really cares for me and would pretty much do anything for me. But for the past couple of weeks I have been ...
A. 15 July 2008: This will sound dumb becuase you already did this but you really just need to seriously ask yourself if you love him or not. Now obviously he could very well be in love with you if what you say is true. But is the same true for you? I know that ... (read in full...)
Have a best friend who I am in love with, trouble is, he is in love with someone else, I want to be out of the whole thing, because I can't have him, and he wants the other girl, what can I do to get away from him?
Q. Hi, Pls advice me on breaking wit my best friend with whom i had fallen in love.He was not aware of this.This guy s in love with another girl.But s loving me when he heard i've fallen for him to make me happy.I don feel he s truely loving me.I had...
A. 15 July 2008: You know what works? Just avoiding him all together. No conversations, no returned calls, no looks in his direction, nothing. Do that and eventually you won't even remember when you two were actually friends much less anything beyond that. Take it ... (read in full...)
We are both 15, we love each other, have had sex already, he has a job, and he wants us to have a baby, when we turn 17, I am not sure about this, please give me advice about having a baby at this age"
Q. hi! well my boyfriend and i akready had sex for the first time a month ago we are both 15, i am really happy wth him there isnt one day he doesnt tell me he loves me. well last night we were talking, he started a conversation about how he wanted to ...
A. 15 July 2008: Oh a baby! well how charitable of him to offer such a blessing, but how do you really feel about having a child?
Forgive that first line of sarcasm but seriously, do you really want a baby? Or better, can you really support a child at this poi... (read in full...)
What are the benefits of marriage?
Q. In the week when Paul McCartney and Heather Mills agree monetary settlement, the question of fairness and behaviour arises. What are the benefits of marriage, if any? Isn't it just an unfair contract where if one party breaks the terms, the other ...
A. 23 February 2008: To answer your question as to why anyone would want to get married, you would have to look outside the legal realm. It seems to me that you have lost sight of what marriage really is and where its benefits are. Or perhaps you've mistaken a stric... (read in full...)
How does the morning after pill work? Should I trust it? How do you calculate your fertile period?
Q. On the night of Valentine's day, I noticed that the condom we were using had split. We stopped having sex, and changed the condom. The next day (yesterday) I went and took the morning after pill, but I'm not sure how it could ever stop me being pr...
A. 21 February 2008: I believe that part of the question was "How does it work?" And so I answered. If you look at this site http://www.pfli.org/faq_oc.html which is a credible medical article, not the packet of the pill or a web site promoting the pill, it will tell ... (read in full...)
Disagreement about virginity with my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend and I seem to have a disagreement regarding virginity. Four years ago, when I was just a 15 year old, I gave a BJ to a friend of mine. He was always a friend, nothing but. Two years later, this friend introduced me to my now boyfriend...
A. 17 February 2008: By a strictly medical stand point it is very simple; a woman's virginity is lost when her hymen is torn. In this case, it dosen't even have to be by sexual intercourse, and this is why most people don't rely on this idea when calling themself a ... (read in full...)
How does the morning after pill work? Should I trust it? How do you calculate your fertile period?
Q. On the night of Valentine's day, I noticed that the condom we were using had split. We stopped having sex, and changed the condom. The next day (yesterday) I went and took the morning after pill, but I'm not sure how it could ever stop me being pr...
A. 17 February 2008: Um actually mandy7, the pill does cause miscarrage (or more acurrately an abortion) if you are pregnant first. Since it is a day after pill, which do you think happened first? It's disappointing that you all failed to mention the increased risk o... (read in full...)
Should I date other guys before I decide to marry my 1st boyfriend?
Q. I just need some advice. Is it crazy to marry youre first boyfriend? I am so in love with my boyfriend of one year. I never wanted to get married or have kids, and now that I see how powerful love is, i can't wait to have kids. I honestly think he ...
A. 7 February 2008: I agree that it isn't so impossible to find "the one" even at your age. Also, I do think a year is a little soon to be thinking of marriage. I know someone who went 15 years before being sure of marriage. I hate to say it is because you are young ... (read in full...)
She doesn't see anything wrong with posting trashy pics of herself on line. Am I being out of order?
Q. I'm going to try to be as fair on this question as possible. I'm not going to leave anything out, even things that I did. My girlfriend and I have been together for years. Toward the beginning of the relationship, she posted a picture on one o...
A. 7 February 2008: Well obviously you have the right to be upset about it.
It is quite clear you two have different opinions about what is acceptable and what is not. Since she doesn't know what she has done is wrong then you come off as a jerk; I trust you knew... (read in full...)
What happens when you take the pill?
Q. I'm considering going on the pill, but I'm not fully sure what happens. Do I have to stop taking it for a week, or something, to have my period? I'm confused where to get it from too. Can any of you give me some advice on where to get the pill, an...
A. 29 January 2008: Okay don't write me off for being a guy but I really have to tell you two things you ladies left out or glossed over. First of all I have to ask, how okay are you with abortion? Going on pill causes abortions, so if you are not okay with it, you may ... (read in full...)
I need help with a guy Problem
Q. Is it normal for a guy in high school to freak out if a girl likes him?I kinda got bit obssesed with him latley.i beleive he wanted to be my friend at 1st becasue he told 3 guys off that were stocking me nd wouldn't leave me alone.then he freaked ...
A. 29 January 2008: Speaking as guy in highschool, yeah it happens. Though it is more common the other way around. It is also quite normal for you to lose interest since he doesn't seem all to interested in you. I really can't tell what would be the best way to be ... (read in full...)
I pulled away from a threesome. Should I go back and go with the flow?
Q. Hello, this is kind of a last resort because I know my friends would not understand. I am 15 and I am not eager to lose my virginity. Last night, I was with two friends (girls 14 and 16) in a bed and they both tried to touch me in a sexual way, I ...
A. 29 January 2008: It depends on what you mean by the "right thing." For me (who is for the record a virgin), I follow Catholic moral teaching about staying chaste, or no sex til marriage. So it is easy for me to know whats right and wrong. I don't know what set of ... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I'm scared of sex, help!
Q. hi everyone, i have a problem.. i really really want and feel ready for a baby, trouble is i wont let myself be close to anyone as i fear sex so much, and as soon as i think things are going to lead that way.. i sort of freeeze! it sounds odd but ...
A. 29 January 2008: Well your fear is probably due to some psycological issue that you should not try to solve with an internet site. But regardless, this fear should not keep you away from having the joy of a child in your life. Why don't you try adoption? I don't ... (read in full...)
How can he say he loves me when he behaves like this?
Q. My husband has damaged our relationship, we have been married for 30 years, recently I discovered he had been watching porn and masturbating to it, he said he would stop and that it was probably due to boredom having been together for so long. Then ...
A. 24 January 2008: Wo wo wo Laura1318, guys don't get sperm build up that they have to release. In fact sperm is created only when needed because they don't live very long as it is.
Psycologically, obviously his checking out of other women is a result of the porn... (read in full...)
I'm not getting enough sex from my partner and an ex wants to see me. What do I do?
Q. Hi I am a highly sexed 25 year old and preferably like to have sex every night however my boyfriend (who's 40 by the way) of six years (whom I do love so much) has recently started a job with a contractor and has to work Monday right through to...
A. 21 January 2008: Well I think the real question is what's more important to you, your sex drive or the love you share with your boyfriend? Figure out your priorities if expect the relationship to continue.
Personally I don't agree with masturbation or premarit... (read in full...)
Does this prove anything?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. Ever since school has started this boy in my class has been flirting with me which I think is nice. But this is when he gets confusing, he's nice and flirty and then he gets gross. One time I was talking to my friend by my ...
A. 21 January 2008: It proves he is stupid. Don't tolerate it and stand up for yourself. However, be aware of what will happen if you confront him on your own; such as hostility. So perhaps it would be wise to tell someone like your parents first and work it out from ... (read in full...)
If I'm pregnant, do I keep it?
Q. Hi im 17 years old.And i had sex with a 14 year old we both wanted it to happen but now i think im pregnant.my mother says we are cousins but we aren't blood related.And his mom wants us togeather.Im scared don't know what to do.And i don't want to ...
A. 21 January 2008: Okay firstly don't use the morning after pill ever if you are not okay with abortion because thats what it causes. You are right to not want an abortion, it is wrong. So definitely have the child if you are in fact pregnant.
Now about keeping ... (read in full...)
I'm lying to my whole family
Q. At the moment I'm lying to my whole family. My 14y/o sister is dating an 18y/o who I know well as have been mates for a while. The issue is the rest of my family completely disagrees with it as through past experiences within the family we are...
A. 21 January 2008: I don't think you should simply let them be for the reasons the first two answers have stated. The relationship is definitly inappropriate, but the problem is you can't really tell your sister that because she'll get defensive and pissed real fast. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I'm moving, now or later
Q. I've been with my girl for 6 months now, and I'm totally in love with her. Things are really great between us, but I'm moving away in a few months for a year +. Would it be wrong to ask her to wait for me until I got back, I should I let her go so ...
A. 21 January 2008: In all actuality you should have told her you were planing on leaving as soon as you realized that you were planing on leaving. You really should have been working on communication during those 6 months.
But since you didn't, you really need to ... (read in full...)
HAd sex a couple days ago...is it too soon to have pregnancy symptoms?
Q. I'm 15 and i had sex for the first time a couple of days ago. We stupidly didnt use a condom and so theres a chance i could be pregnant. I cant tell anyone as it is a secret relationship. I am way too scared to go to the doctors to get the morning ...
A. 21 January 2008: Okay well firstly, the day after pill cant really help you much now. The most it could do if you are pregnant is kill your child. But then I don't know if you are pro choice or not so I don't know how comfortable you are with abortion. (I certainly ... (read in full...)
Am I being 'screwed around' by this girl?
Q. I've been seeing a girl for about 2 months, first 2 dates, very passionate all going great but then it fizzled out, since then shes told me that basically she has problems being intimate with someone she cares about. What can i do? She says she ...
A. 21 January 2008: Well if you are serious about this girl then you should try some understanding instead of patients. I don't believe based on what you've said that she is trying to screw with you. And thats not something you want to assume and confront her about ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilt for looking at porn while I am away from my gf! Is this normal?
Q. I'm in a relationship and I love my girlfriend a lot. She's always expressed that she doesn't like the idea of pornography or masterbation, and so I've never admitted to liking either of these things. We've been together a few years, of which we ...
A. 20 January 2008: Dont feel ashamed for feeling guilty. I know as a guy we are supposed to want to watch porn and have sex all the time, but that doesn't make it right. You are not wrong to feel guilty since by looking at porn you basically cheat on your girlfriend. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with him, or not?
Q. I don't know what to do! i love my boyfriend and he loves mi too and we want to be together. everyone doesn't approve and they don't want us to be together. everyone says that he seems the jeolouse type and that soon he won't let mi go out with m...
A. 20 January 2008: Well you may have to consider the possiblity that he doesn't truely love you. Long distance relationships can work but only if both persons are equally commited. since that doesn't appear to be the case, don't get your hopes up about this ... (read in full...)
What if the grass isn't greener on the other side?
Q. Need a little advice...it may be long. I apologize in advance, but it's best to tell the whole story. Okay, I am in over my head...I have this absolutely wonderful boyfriend who i would never deliberately hurt, but about a month ago a good...
A. 20 January 2008: Ok don't listen if you don't want to but, I think what your indecision means is that neither of these guys are right for you. You want some one who will be good to you like your boyfriend has been, but you don't like his immaturity. Your freind is ... (read in full...)
I don't want to upset my best friend.
Q. Im in love with one of my best friends i dont know what to do . Well basically we met at a party and became good friends then we kissed and stuff. We used to be really close like talking nearly everyday and stuff we would make an effort to see ea...
A. 20 January 2008: Ok don't get upset, I know this is not something you will enjoy hearing. However, as far as the "love" thing is concerned, it seems that you are only infatuated, or in better words crushing on your friend. It is rather common especially between a ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my new girl I have just come out of a big relationship??
Q. I just broke up with my long time girlfriend about 2 weeks ago. And although we've been together for a very long time, i fell out of love with her for about a month now. Now, i have gone out on dates with this other girl that i really like, an...
A. 13 January 2008: Definitly don't tell her. Since this new girl is not a close friend, she's not exactly going to expect something like that. And if you didn't know the number one way to lose a girl's interest is to talk about old girlfriends. rhythmandblues... (read in full...)
What are the signs my bf could be addicted to porn??
Q. I recently moved in with my boyfriend that I met in military training. I just recently noticed that he looks at internet porn ALL THE TIME. The wierd thing is that he doesn't try to hide it like most guys I hear about. Usually something like thi...
A. 13 January 2008: Oh it's already that far, he's addicted. By addicted I mean that he couldn't stop even if he prefers the real thing. Not an uncommon thing though not something you should let go very easily. You should talk to him and expect alot of conflict. If ... (read in full...)
How can I become a more socieable person without being too happy-happy?
Q. Seven months ago I had a social life, a girlfriend and things were going well. Sort of. Beneath that, I was always rather discontent. The relationship was turning sour, and after high school ending my old best friend and I were drifting apart. S...
A. 13 January 2008: You know you are very much like myself personality wise. I underrstand the whole lack of confidence, self-sabotage, discontent, feeling alone thing because I am like that. Now look, i could be wrong, but the key to gaining friends and confidence is ... (read in full...)
Recently became pregnant, I have an hot-cold relationship with a man I do not love, should I keep the baby? I'm 35.
Q. I have recently found out Im pregnant. I have been in an on off relationship with this man for a year. I am 35 this month and do not have any children. I do not love him and dont know what to do. I cant do it by myself? If I terminate the ...
A. 13 January 2008: First of all no, don't terminate the child; you will most assuredly regret it and you will never be the same. Many people don't understand this part, but the tremendous guilt you will feel will either drive you into depression or denial. It will be ... (read in full...)
How can I make our long distance relationship strong??
Q. hey, Me and my boyfriend have been together for a month so fair and we are very much in love we usally always text and talk on msn but every so often i don't hear from him is this normal? I feel massively insecure and i have never been in a proper...
A. 13 January 2008: Well i can't tell you how calm your insecurities. I know at this point it seems unthinkable, but it is a possibility you should be aware of and perhaps one day accept. All i can tell you is to talk to him about it, see what he has to say. From t... (read in full...)
How can you be sure somebody loves and cares for you before you have sex with them??
Q. How can you know if a guy really loves and cares for you before you have sex with him? I have read that one should hold out a little longer until one is sure...but can one really be sure?? Only after the act can one know what the other person is ...
A. 13 January 2008: Well you are supposed to be able to tell before you have sex obviously. Ideally, you fall in love first and have sex after you commit to each other in marriage. God knows this doesn't happen very often; most people have sex because its pleasurable ... (read in full...)
Which is hotter - blonde or brunette?
Q. A bit of a survey here... Are girls hotter as blondes? or brunettes? I would love to know your personal preferance... thnx xoxo ...
A. 12 January 2008: Sure sure color doesn't matter, beauty within, ect... But as far as personal preference, I find brunettes hotter than blondes and above that are redheads of course.... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a boyfriend?
Q. I have never had a boyfriend. Last year i asked out a guy that i liked and he said no. Ever since i have not been able to talk with boys face to face. The guy that i liked a month ago (i liked him for about a year) found out that i liked him and we ...
A. 12 January 2008: Don't ever feel like the odd one out for not being with anyone. To me it seems that you see every one getting together so naturally you want to do it too. I used to be there myself until i realized it's not something to get worked up over. Now i've ... (read in full...)
We fell in love and everything seemed fine, then one day he just left. He refuses to talk to me and I don't know what went wrong, how can I move on from this?
Q. My friend and I were very close for a long time and one day we felt in love.. We started dating and things were great after that.. We had ups and downs like any other relationships.. One day he just left.. I don't know what went wrong.. He refuses ...
A. 12 January 2008: Well he must of done something terrible to go to such lenghts to avoid you now.
But anyway, i do think you ought to move on. Its unfortunate what happened but whats more unfortunate is just how quickly you will find yourself forgetting him. ... (read in full...)
Why won't he get it together already?!?!?!
Q. Hi. My ex boyfriend and I are still in touch, well we are sort of friends- or trying to be. I still care about him, we were together for two and a half years and broke up in October of last year. I know it is not any of my business anymore, but it ...
A. 12 January 2008: okay so he's having a hard time with his life but you need to understand that you are no longer his girlfriend so you don't need to get yourself worked up about it. That may seem harsh but the truth of the matter is that takes time to become friends ... (read in full...)
Seriously depressed, should I run away, what do I do?
Q. I seriously am depressed and I hate my life. This has gone on too long. I have no friends and I think everyone hates me in my grade. I'm only 13 years old and I think I should run away. Should I runaway?...
A. 12 January 2008: No don't run away, that would ruin your life. Everyone feels this way at one point in their life, belive me. Now you should start talking to people about your problems. If you don't think that you have any friends at school, forget them and talk to ... (read in full...)
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