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writes:Ok... I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year now, and we have a lot of fun together. He is basically the ideal boyfriend. He really cares for me and would pretty much do anything for me. But for the past couple of weeks I have been rethinking our relationship, and if I really love him or not. I think I might have fallen out of love with him. I got irritated when he called, and I didn't want to go on dates with him. I told him that, and we shakily decided to go on a break for a few weeks. But during the first week, I have been acting emotional, and I started to miss him very much. Every time I thought about him I would burst into tears! But even though I miss him terribly, but I'm not sure if I really want to get back together with him. What the heck should I do?!
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reader, xylplxym +, writes (15 July 2008):
This will sound dumb becuase you already did this but you really just need to seriously ask yourself if you love him or not. Now obviously he could very well be in love with you if what you say is true. But is the same true for you? I know that sometimes one can feel like they are in love for a time if the other person shows love in the way you breifly describe. But if the person who feels in love but never truely loved the other, then eventually the feeling fades.
But to my point, if you can't find it in yourself to actually admit that you do not love him then maybe you should consider getting back with him. Not rush back into the relationship, but consider it. If find it impossible to admit that you love him then you might want to consider making the break a permanent one.
Either way, you need to talk with him about it even if all you have to say is that you still feel unsure. If it is meant to be he will understand that. But what ever you do, and I can not stress this enough, do not get back with him if you are even a little unsure. That will only lead to making you feel worse.
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