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writes:I seriously am depressed and I hate my life. This has gone on too long. I have no friends and I think everyone hates me in my grade. I'm only 13 years old and I think I should run away. Should I runaway?
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reader, lainey23  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 No matter where you run, you can't runaway from yourself. Remember that. The problem isn't with where you live or where you go to school. The problem is with self esteem and self love. Imagine if you loved yourself...you would be your own best friend and not having any friends wouldn't matter. Start with finding things you enjoy doing...no matter what it is...drawing, singing, video games, shopping. Whatever. Once you do that, you'll feel a little better. Then, maybe you'll feel more comfortable and attract friends who enjoy the same things. I doubt everyone in your grade hates you. You just might be focusing on the wrong people. I've been right where you are at that age and nothing ever gets better if you don't start with yourself. Be kind to yourself, cut yourself some slack and TALK TO PEOPLE who love you. I bet they would miss you if you left. If worse comes to worse, talk to us on this site. We obviously care enough to respond. Good luck and STAY PUT!! It WILL get better.
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reader, Ignacio ramos +, writes (15 September 2010):
No way running away is not the answer you need help talk to your mom she can help. You need to out have fun make frinds. I hope you get help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): don't runaway its cowardly
your problems won't go away they'll be taken with you
your only running from yourself if you made an effort with people...you'd have friends.
running away doesnt solve ANYTHING!
you'll get out the door and a couple of hours later you'll wish you never had walked out that door. plus if you get found you'll be taken into care and your brothers and sisters if you have any because they'll think it had something to do with your parent(s). do you want to make them upset and get them into TROUBLE JUST BECAUSE YOU FEEL NO ONE LIKES YOU!! THE TRUTH IS PEOPLE WILL LIKE YOU IF YOU MAKE AN EFFORT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): do i dont care i want to i think everyone hates me and i dont give a damn about anyone so good luck to you and hope you dont die.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): ...i guess i know how you feel...i'm in your situation and well...u will never guess what my dad does for a living, pretending to be a chef...well he actually shoots porn movies...and im the only one who knows about this, im afraid if i say something to anyone in my family cause they might divorce...so im thinking about running away from rome...and you dont need to ask people what to do. its your life, follow your dreams and dont let anyone or anything stop you
im running away with my best friend...shes from texas and im from britain but that doesnt matter. she will come over to "visit" me then we'll go out somewhere, probably the airport and catch a plane to rome XD
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): dont do it, reach for help, for your parents. I know you might think your are alone and lost, but i am sure yr family loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): dont because i had that done to me 3 times and it does hurt both you and the other person
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Please don't. Nobody hates you and ther's no point running away as there's nothing to run from. I was depressed last year and thought about jumping off the tower block where I live - but then everything sorted itself out, I stopped failing class, I made new friends... Everything will be ok. You're only 13 and you have your whole life ahead of you.
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reader, cayk  +, writes (25 April 2008):
i kinda no ur feelin my parents broke up wen i was about 1 and now im 12 and startin to relise everythan that happened i want to run away to iv been searchin the net lookin for advice for som time now but i havnt found anythan usefull to me, im havin a hard time talki to my friends coz i dont no wat to say to them coz im to busy thinkin wat to do and i dont even no were my real home is i really want advice and today i started to run away in the shops, i think im startin to run away with out relisin now i really dont no wat to do and for now im stuck were i am and barly gettin to c my dad but if i do run away were should i go wat should i do.if any one has got advice for me plz tell me i dont no wat to do and dont no my real home plz som1 help.[Moderator note] Please try not to use textspeak on this forum as users find them hard to read and your posts may not be approved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): i kinda no ur feelin my parents broke up wen i was about 1 and now im 12 and startin to relise everythan that happened i want to run away to iv been searchin the net lookin for advice for som time now but i havnt found anythan usefull to me, im havin a hard time talki to my friends coz i dont no wat to say to them coz im to busy thinkin wat to do and i dont even no were my real home is i really want advice and today i started to run away in the shops, i think im startin to run away with out relisin now i really dont no wat to do and for now im stuck were i am and barly gettin to c my dad but if i do run away were should i go wat should i do.if any one has got advice for me plz tell me i dont no wat to do and dont no my real home plz som1 help.[Moderator note] Please try not to use textspeak on this forum as users find them hard to read and your posts may not be approved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): Ive been through alot of stuff in life and still going through but you know what i know its not always going to be like this. I'm hurt so bad emotional,physical and sexually. I just pray everyday and that help me alot cuz to me only God understand what i've been. My advice for you please dont run away it not get any better only worse. Talk to someone you can trust even God he understand. I wish every gets for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): here, i know exactly how ur feeling. im 16 now and when i was fourteen i felt exactly the way u feel now. I couldnt stand how i felt anymore and deided to run away, and it was the worst mistake of my life. Attention from the police, driving ur family insane? not really an outcome you want.Running away is dangerous, and i would know. when i ran away i was petrified. i always thought i was so streetwise but when ur out in the world on ur own ull change ur mind quick.No matter how depressed u feel now, runnign away is not the answer. running away makes ur problems worse and ull end up a lot worse off than before. teh best thing u can do is try to face ur problem and try to think of a solution. is there someone u can talk to about how ur feeling? is there things u could do step by step to try to build up ur confidence to help develop social skills?seriously, im talking from experience and i think u would be a lot better off if you tried to deal with ur problem the best u can.i hope everything works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): Awww - I'm sorry to hear about this hunny, but running away won't solve anything.
You could talk to your parents and ask whether you could move schools if it really is that miserable. But I'm sure that things will get better - they always do. Everyone goes through really rough patches in their lives but they also have good times too.
Have you got any interests/hobbies? You could try joining a club, i.e. if you play a musical instrument you could join a band or orchestra? You would make friends there.
Things will look up =]
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reader, xylplxym +, writes (12 January 2008):
No don't run away, that would ruin your life. Everyone feels this way at one point in their life, belive me. Now you should start talking to people about your problems. If you don't think that you have any friends at school, forget them and talk to your parents and family. I know from personal experience that you might not wish to talk to your family either for whatever reason but please try, they can help you. And even if you are not very religious at all, now wouldn't be a bad time to start. Believe it or not, that's what got me set in the right direction.
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reader, mizzbrannon +, writes (11 January 2008):
dont run away because running from your problems wont get you anywhere. everyone in your grade probable doesnt hate you. you should jus try to talk to people.i kno it will be hard but if you never try then things will never change
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reader, Addie +, writes (11 January 2008):
 No, don't run away that won't solve anything and it will just worry your parents. Okay, look everyone goes threw a stage where they think there life sucks. And life does suck, alot, but runniong away isn't go to help. I know how your feel. Honestly I can relate!but what helped me was, I did stuff I loved. Like writing. So i joined the newspaper staff. Because I was doing something I liked I was around ppl who liked me. Try that, and if you want to talk about this more send me a message! Love lots Addie.
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reader, tiebreaker  +, writes (11 January 2008):
dont run away this will worry your parents and you will be in a worse situation than now. we all have these thoughts throughout are lives they are quite normal, but have found its best to face problems head on, if you cant confide in your parents pick an older relative or a helpfull teacher you could speak to, but do speak to someone you trust if the problem is shared and you ask for help your your half way there to solving your problem, running away is only going to make things worse. remember your family does love you, and learn to love yourself you are important.
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reader, Sc3n3_KiiD +, writes (11 January 2008):
 DONT!
It won't solve anything.
I went threw the same your going threw
And it will get better I PROMISE
Just have faith
And tell your parents how you feel
God Bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): What would running away do? Where would you go? What are you running away from? Can you talk to your parents about how you feel? And have a word with a teacher, put them in the picture about how you are feeling, they will be able to help you find the best way around this. Often at your age the world is against you, when in reality it isnt really so bad. Keep in touch if you want a friend, i am only an email away.
take care
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reader, just-ask-xx +, writes (11 January 2008):
 NO!!!!!
There is nothing worse you can do...if you're only 13 years old, you have your whole life infront of you, when I was 13 I hated my life mainly because people thought I was weird and I thought I was fat =S. But running away doesn't solve anything, I mean, what is it going to do? Cause your family heartbreak, and anyone close. If you're being bullied, tell a teacher or a parent, you may think it might make it worse but it won't, I promise. When I was in school, I was called every name under the sun. But things turn out in the end, like they did for me, I'm 19 and I used to have a rubbish lie and once I actually considered suicide! I regret that every single day for even considering it for half an hour. Hun, running away isn't going to solve anything. Please, don't do it but do talk to your family, they'll know you better.
xo
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