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*obynnex
writes:Im in love with one of my best friends i dont know what to do .Well basically we met at a party and became good friends then we kissed and stuff.We used to be really close like talking nearly everyday and stuff we would make an effort to see each other .But recently he's different i have a feeling he likes someone else .He's just turned 21 and im 17 i know it sounds bad but he said he didnt care. All my friends say im mad to think this and they have seen the way he looks at me but i just cant get rid of this feeling .I feel as if he's slipping away and there's nothing i can do. I dont want to lose him and i really dont want to lose him as a friend . I dont know if i should speak to him or just leave things the way they are i dont want to upset him . what should i do ?.
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reader, robynnex +, writes (21 January 2008):
robynnex is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey ! thanks everyone well we are back in contact now.thanks to him phoning me at two in the morning anyway
I forgot to mention that be both told each other we liked each other.
I ve decided that im not going to say anything if he says somthing then ill tell him.
But i think maybe we are just best off as friends.
thanks so much .!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): Firstly you always have yo do what you think is best, no one can tell you otherwise! i would think about it before you act and ask yourself one question, do you think it would ruin your friendship if you told him the truth? if they answer is yes then maybe its best to stay friends wouldnt it be best to have him as a friend than not at all? Maybe you dont really want him and you just want someone, you may be feeling specially close to him because you dont have anyone else in your life right now. My main advice would be think about first and see how you feel in a few days. If you do decide to tell him meet him alone and just tell him exactly how you feel! who knows he might even feel the same! Good luck!
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reader, xylplxym  +, writes (20 January 2008):
Ok don't get upset, I know this is not something you will enjoy hearing. However, as far as the "love" thing is concerned, it seems that you are only infatuated, or in better words crushing on your friend. It is rather common especially between a young girl and an older guy. It makes you get bad feelings like the one you mentioned. The crush doesn't really last that long either. No offence, thats just the way it is and I have seen it happen many times. But anyway, don't get worked up over that kind of stuff.
Now as far as him slipping away, I can't truly tell why he it seems like this, but the important thing to remember is that it only "seems" that way. Now i don't know how well or long you two know each other but if you feel you are rather close then don't be afraid to tell him that you notice things have changed and see what he has to say. However if you are truly not that close and hav never talked about deep things before then yeah, like Laura1318 said, you'll come off clingy which isn't something a guy will go crazy over you for.
Just have a little faith in your freindship. If you two were close before then he won't slip away that easily. But you have to have faith in yourself and talk to him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 We can give all our best and if that is not enough, there is nothing more we can do about it.
You can love him with all you love but if he does not return back the same favors ,you just have to accept that he cannot give all his love to you.
You should be more confidant in your relationship and never be clingy because that would drive him further away from you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): what good is a relationship friendly or serious if you cant talk to that person about your concerns? He is young and so are you dont take life so serious yet. be safe be happy.
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reader, xxshaunaxx +, writes (20 January 2008):
if you really like him and feel like he is slipping away, then I think you should tell him how you feel. if he likes you back, great. if he doesn't, then if he is really your friend, then I don't see any reason why yall can't stay friends.
hope I helped...
good luck!
---shauna
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