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writes:I've been seeing a girl for about 2 months, first 2 dates, very passionate all going great but then it fizzled out, since then shes told me that basically she has problems being intimate with someone she cares about. What can i do? She says she still likes me but that she doesn't know what the problem is only that its connected to something she cant tell me about that happened a long time ago. I've been really patient but my friends think im being screwed around. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): Communication.
Thats the keyword to success. Master it in all its forms and you'll be amazed at what you find.
You need to ensure she realises that whatever happened to her in her past, is in the past and you are there to help her NOW if she needs it. And emphasise that its okay to talk to someone, and its okay to do things alone but that she doesn't have to because there is no shame in asking for help when you need it.
And tell her if she has been hurt by someone close to her, that you trust her completely and will not hurt her in such a way.
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reader, xylplxym  +, writes (21 January 2008):
Well if you are serious about this girl then you should try some understanding instead of patients. I don't believe based on what you've said that she is trying to screw with you. And thats not something you want to assume and confront her about anyway. Because when you find out you're wrong she'll be pissed. Try to talk to her about it. Tell her that it is okay to tell you because you'll understand. Communication is the cornerstone of any serious relationship. And next is understanding. But only do this if you're trying to be serious. Because if you are faking it then she'll be pissed about that too.
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