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writes:HiI am a highly sexed 25 year old and preferably like to have sex every night however my boyfriend (who's 40 by the way) of six years (whom I do love so much) has recently started a job with a contractor and has to work Monday right through to Sunday from 7:00am to 5:00pm in the boiling hot sun which means by the time he get home he just wants to eat, shower and go to sleep as he is soo tired. I can understand that and I do feel sorry for him, but it's driving me crazy at night when he's already asleep and I'm all horny. I have been masturbating and using my dildo, but it's not enough and I miss his touch and feeling his manhood in me, and most of all I miss him going down on me. Help! I'm feeling very lost at the moment, and to top it all off, a past boyfriend has been contacting me saying that he wants to see me again. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2009): Im glad other people are in the same boat as me. My gf of 4 years rarely has sex with me now, we used to have the best sex and I was fully satified, i pretty much spend my life frustrated now, if i try it on too much (every other day would be great?) im sex mad! Its a bad place to be. Sex is far more important to some than others, if you arent having sex then youre just friends right?
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reader, Dustyzn  +, writes (30 July 2009):
I think the best thing for you to do is tell your partner that you unhappy.
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reader, unloved69  +, writes (14 November 2008):
if youre not getting enough sex from your partner, there are probably other problems than just the sex. You should decide if you truly love your partner and try to fix the other things and the sex will come....I'm guessing there was a time when there Was enough sex, right??
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): Since I am a guy responding to your question, this is going to be brutality honest. You should tell him about your frustrations and if he is not going to be flexible, you might need to reconsider your options. Everyone has needs and as a partner (your love, your man), he should be there for you. I have a similar problem with my girl friend but I think we can work it out, just give it time and keep telling how much you love him and how much you need him to be there for you; in more ways then one.
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reader, Sex Kitten +, writes (22 January 2008):
Sex Kitten is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi There Aunts and Uncles!
Just to say many many thanks for your responses - they have all been of help to me.
Anyway in response to some of your questions:
I use to have sex around 4-5 times a week now I'm lucky if I get it once a week!
I have spoken to my boyfriend about how I'm feeling but he just shrugs me off and tell me he's too tired. He can't change his working hours, these are the conditions he signed up for and the contract he's working on should last for about a year.
To 'Peoriaman': I don't have a lot of time on my hands. I work in Customer Services from 8:00am to 5:00pm so by the time I get home I have to cook and clean. I have an eight year old son (not by my boyfriend) whom takes up alot of my time with after school activities and homework and so on. So as you can see, my days are taken up aswell, I'm not just lazy around dreaming of sex all day!!! I have tried initiating sex on many occasions but he just growls at me and turn his back, so I think as with any other girl, I'm not gonna keep trying at that!
Also guys and gals, I can now safely say that I am in no way considering going out with my ex. He called me today and I've told him straight up that it's not gonna happen and to quit calling me!
Thanks again everyone! Have a great day! :-)
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reader, xylplxym +, writes (21 January 2008):
Well I think the real question is what's more important to you, your sex drive or the love you share with your boyfriend? Figure out your priorities if expect the relationship to continue.
Personally I don't agree with masturbation or premarital sex for that matter as both can and do become an obsession that causes one to forget about love and think it's not enough. For any serious relationship I think there must be more than just libedo. I'm not trying to influence you, I'm just stating for the record so you know where I'm coming from.
Whatever you do, don't go and see your ex. The temptation to fulfill your sexual desire might get the better of you.
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reader, speedcat +, writes (21 January 2008):
you have needs!!!! sorry girl...that sucks,,,sometimes love just aint enough!!! no but seriously,,hes tired thats exhausting! can he switch jobs,,,will he ?? have you told him how you feel?? he might think twice! try to make him understand your needs he will most likely change.Give him a chance before calling the x back. If he dont change well all bets off!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): Have a good long chat with your bloke and see if he can make some more time for you two. Try and get his shifts altered a bit so you both fit in more. But, no way should you even consider going back with an ex for more sex. That will ruin your relationship now, and just for sex. Chat to him, tell him how you are.
take care
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reader, Somethingeasy +, writes (20 January 2008):
 Yeah you definatly need some ''us'' time.
You also might want to try and slow your sex drive down a bit. Im not one who is a big believer in masterbation. I beleieve you can hold out long enough for sex with a partner.
Way off topic. Whoever is deleting my posts Id really like to know why. A PM will be useful I imagine its a Moderator.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): The best suggestion I can come up with is that he should cut his working hours slightly and allow some 'us time'.
I assume you've told him you're missing intimacy? I certainly couldn't advocate getting back with an ex just to fulfil your sexual needs, which would inevitably lead to all sorts of complications. Tell your boyfriend that your ex wants to meet you. Some honesty with him should take away any temptation to see your ex, and it might just wake him up to the fact that your needs aren't being met right now.
How are things on the island these days? I hope that those medical supplies that were dropped off cured everyones ills.
Phil
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reader, eddie  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 This does not sound like a real question. If it is, you need to get a grip on your feelings. You don't sound like you really value what is important in life. How often are you having sex?
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