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writes:There's a girl who most of my friends dont like. She knows I like her. I dont know If I should ask her out or just be friends and not risk losing my other friends.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): if you lose your friends over a girl then their not exactly great friends are they?
if you like her then go for it...
if these people are really your friends they'll accept you and whoever you date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Nothing else matters if you like her.
Who cares what your friends think.
If you can't pluck up the courage to go for her, just because your scared of what people will think of you, then you don't deserve her.
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reader, xylplxym +, writes (15 July 2008):
Dude if you really like her and care more about her than your friends then go for it, it is worth the risk. But if you are just infatuated and as uncertain as your wording of the question suggests, do not even try. Because when you change your mind and leave her she will be very unhappy. As for your friends, I would not worry about them. I can tell you right now that they will still be your friends if they are true. In a hauntingly familiar situation, when I confessed that the person I wanted to be with was someone they didn't especially care for, yeah they lookd at me funny for a while but they were still my friends. Of course that didn't work out so well for me but good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): I really don't agree with "cristina baby"
" if you dont want to lose your friends you should just try finding another girl. since she knows you like her already you should just tell her you just want to be friends rite away because you dont want to keep leading her on"
Don't even listen to that. If you like a girl, go for it!
Don't go and find someone else, just because your friends don't like her. Before making it official with you and this girl. Tell your friends how nice she really is, and how you actually like her! I think your friends will be understanding. Why are you pretending to hate her? That is no sign of love. When they put her down, stick up for her! I'm sure if they are REALLY your friends they won't care who you date! Don't hide your feelings, act on them! She sounds like a keeper.
Good luck.
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reader, misfitschik66  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 who cares what your friends think its what you like about her that counts and you'll make her feel special to know that you like her and want to be with her despite what everyone thought
in school there was this girl everyone hated and the most popular guy asked her out because he REALLY thought she was cute and they lasted 2 years together before they broke up and it wasn't a horrible brake u either he still had his friends and she gained more respect out of it
your friends wont hate you, if they are real friends they wont care... although they might snicker and make fun for the first little bit soon they will relize your serious and it will just blow over!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): i use to be the girl everyone hated, but lucky my man saw the good in me and did not care what others thought and gave me a chance. now some of those people see i'm a nice girl. others still hate...but what me and my man learned is that you can't change other peoples perspectives...so who cares? i know i make him happy and he is the best thing in my life...so i say go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): You should do what your heart says, not your "Friends." If they are true friends, then they will accept your relashonship with this girl. I know, easier said than done. But you will be happier in the end. Good Luck Love Bug
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reader, cristina_baby +, writes (15 July 2008):
 well maybe you should come out and tell your friends the truth. it mite not be as bad as you expect it to be. these are your friends your talking about. im sure they will understand
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy friends make fun of her all the time and they think I hate her
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reader, cristina_baby +, writes (15 July 2008):
my best guy friend had the same problem. he liked this girl alot but i thought she was a hugee bitch. i tried my best to like her and i talked to her to get to know the better things about her. and know we're actually really good friends.you should talk to your friends about it and if they dont give her a chance then what good friends they are? just dont get to carried away if your friends accept her dont blow them off for her. you could even try going out with her and your friends together so they could know how nice she really is. and if you dont want to lose your friends you should just try finding another girl. since she knows you like her already you should just tell her you just want to be friends rite away because you dont want to keep leading her on.
i hope everything works out for you =]
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