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16 December 2008: This is a little bit of a story and a how to on how to not be taken advantage of. I was given a job right off the bat by a man who owned a shop. At first i was young(17) and naive to think, maybe it is my personality and knowledge that got me the ...
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Should I cancel the date because he told me his penis size?
Q. Hi friends, I met a guy online and he is 13 years younger than me. I am 48, take great care of myself and get alot of attention from guys. We are both professionals, work out alot and he is very handsome. We have been emailing, within a week he...
A. 14 May 2010: Stick to your guns girl.
Put it firmly, I'm here for a date, not to see if you lied about the penis size...at least not yet.
If he can handle that, second dates are great. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay? He has broken up with me 22 times since we first got together.
Q. Ok, I might bullet this to make it clearer I am 23, Female, been with my boyfriend for two and a half years We live and work together in a pub and I am currently finishing my degree He has broken up with me 22 times since we first got to...
A. 14 May 2010: Honestly I couldn't trust a man that drops me at the tip of a hat. It seems like he has serious commitment issues and the second he realizes that you are a key point in his life he comes crawling back to you.
I rarely give more than a second c... (read in full...)
Am I "Undateable" ?
Q. I'm 15 and a girl. Kind of small (5'1), blonde hair, blue eyes and i think i'm ok to talk to but i haven't had a properly dated a guy for 2 years and i'm starting to feel a bit lonely =/ I dont know weither its to do with my skin (i have a bit of ...
A. 3 May 2010: Sweetheart your fifteen! You shouldn't be on a dating site! Trust me that is not a hole you want to dig! It can be dangerous and often hurtful to ones self confidence and yours is just starting to come into play.
I like to stress that time can... (read in full...)
He's been told that checking out other women is hurtful but he still does it
Q. Why do married men say there not checking out other women while there with there wife, and she the wife see's it and says it hurts her. But he says its not true. And then when she says something about it he makes her feel bad for saying anything...
A. 3 May 2010: This is a common problem with all couples, but you know I know a wonderful couple who are completely happy with eachother that make it into a game of sorts.
What they do is simple, and I think it can be very entertaining for them, even make the... (read in full...)
Still can't get over my crush on a former teacher
Q. Hi, i'm a 19 year old girl and i need help getting over my old school teacher. I've fallen for a few teachers, but never this hard. I met him five years ago when i was in third form, and he left half way through the year. I was convinced i'd get ...
A. 3 May 2010: Your teacher obviously had a profound affect on you, but you need to figure out if you have a crush on him because of the influence he had on your life or if it was simply physical.
Perhaps you should try to think of your teacher more as an uncl... (read in full...)
I want to move in with my boyfriend, how to bring it up in a subtle way?
Q. Basicaly I've been with my boyfriend just over a year and I want to take the next step - moving in together, how can I bring this subject up in a subtle way so it doesnt seem as if I'm pushing. It's not like I'm ready to marry and have kids, I'...
A. 20 February 2010: This is a big decision that a lot of my friends have regretted doing. I understand your want to lie with the person you love, but things get very tough after that.
A couple of my friends have been depressed that they made the quick decision to move... (read in full...)
I get overly emotional PMS. Any tips on how to control it?
Q. Whenever I'm on, I get really, really, really emotional. I'm really emotional anyway but when I'm on, I'm like a bomb, I can go off in a second. I cry, I shout, I scream, I do a thousand other things. I don't mind that, it's just that whenever I do ...
A. 20 February 2010: Birth control does help, but please never take YAZ or YASMIN. I took Yaz for about a year and i got irregular periods, leg cramps, and now I have heart and lung problems.
If you doctor suggests it ask for a different brand. It's too much of a ris... (read in full...)
Midnight horrors and deep thinking takes me away to another place! Am I sane or insane is the question?
Q. I get strange dreams every night. Always about the super natural. Most of the time very disturbing thing such as mini heads, impaled bodys, flickering lights, dark figures and canniablism. Somtimes it even gets to the pint where there are three ...
A. 16 October 2009: I used to have night terrors and such, i find that running away from the things that you fear don't help you. My friend suggested that I watch horror movies until they became nothing but funny to me. I also got a job on a professional scare team and ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask if someone's single?
Q. Whats a good way to find out if a girl has a boyfriend? IS the best way to just ask? "are you single?" or is there a better way to ask that isnt so straight forward?...
A. 16 October 2009: just talk to that person. Usually during the first five to ten minutes of a conversation a woman will bring up their relationship status.
If she has a boyfriend she will mention it.
Also it never hurts to ask question about things a girl wo... (read in full...)
I have been controlled by 2 men, now I feel my 16 year old is doing the same
Q. hi not sure what to do... left my husband 9 years ago after being married `16 years - he was controlling, with money, kids, my life ..eg wouldn't let my family take my daughters out for walks when they were babies, let me have their hair cut or b...
A. 14 March 2009: Wow. That is a lot to deal with.
You know, if your daughter can't see that she is ruining your chances at a relationship she needs a wake up call.
Don't do her laundry, make her do it.
Don't do the dishes that she put in the sink let her lear... (read in full...)
I can't win with him!
Q. hey.. im a lil confused about a few things at the moment ...my ex broke up with me a few months back .last month we had a one night stand (al in fun according to him) he told me not to say anythin to anyone.. he knew i still have major feelings 4 ...
A. 13 March 2009: I know you still have feelings for him, but just go cold turkey when it comes to him. He is playing mind games! He doesn't want the girlfriend attachment but he wants the goodies? Its not right to you! It will take time to get over him, but... (read in full...)
I need some self-esteem!
Q. Helloo there. I am aware that what i am going to say might sound like an average teenage girl but it is realy staring to get to me. I am 15, soon to be 16. I am 5ft 5ish and weigh 9st (126 lb) I know this might not seem a problem to some peopl...
A. 13 March 2009: hun! Your FIVE FIVE AND ONLY 126! I would kill for that! I'm five three and 140 you have two inches on me. be happy with yourself! Because things could be so much worse! Don't go back to the eating disorders. You don't want to lose your boy... (read in full...)
How do I let him down gently?
Q. So there is this guy that likes me, alot. but i just dont feel the same way about him. i just dont have the heart to tell him. he is so sweet, and really a cool friend. but honestly i dont see us having a relationship ever. he is the friend type of ...
A. 26 December 2008: No matter what its going to hurt him hun, however, tell him straight out that you only want to be friends with him and there isn't anything there other than frienship. Hopefully he takes it right.
Him not getting the hints might be worse for him.... (read in full...)
I don't have the slightest idea how to snog
Q. Hi guys my girlfriend wants to snog and i said yes. we have been going out for 1 month and we both reallly reallly like each other. the problem is that i dont have the slightist idea how to snog. i really need help quickly please....
A. 16 December 2008: AWW!
Hunny just go with the flow. Lip action is great, and usually tongue is a part of it, but to be honest, not too much tongue.
Try to make sure that your not choking her with your tongue, use it but don't abuse it.
Just try to make sure you... (read in full...)
Am I just being paranoid, or is it something else?
Q. Lately I've been noticing one of my teachers seems to be acting differently. In the beginning of the year, he would constantly be staring at me when teaching, (which made me feel uncomfortable at times), but now he's looking away if he catches me ...
A. 16 December 2008: is he younger or older?
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Is there a way to move forward without my cheating GF walking all over me?
Q. me and my partner have been together 4 years im male 28 shes 24. it started when i move down south to live with her and her lil girl who over the years i became daddy to as her real dad doesnt want to know. we have now our own lil boy hes 19 month...
A. 16 December 2008: Protect your children, and make sure you take huge measures to not give them the disease such as breast feeding and such.
If you leave however, her daughter won't have you as a father figure anymore and you have to be prepared for that and prep... (read in full...)
My daughters are calling my girlfriend nasty names and I can't get them to stop!
Q. My daughters (they're only 8 and 5 of age) call my girlfriend (of 2 years) names like b!tch, s*ut, wh*re, ugly, fat, skank, smelly, tramp and the list goes on. I cant them to stop. Of couse I give them time out after time out but its losing its ...
A. 16 December 2008: Take your girls out to a more private place, away from home, but not with your girlfriend. Try to explain to them that your girlfriend isn't trying to replace their mother, but she wants to be able to be a part of the family.
time out doesn't ... (read in full...)
How do I get over someone who I have to bump into from time to time?
Q. My question is how to you get over someone who I know does not care the least about me but I have formed feelings for anyway and from time to time I have to bump into this person? It just seems like I start to forget about him and then I end up ...
A. 16 December 2008: It's like a high school crush, hun. You bump into him every once in the while, not really something substantial. You really don't even know him well either.
I say you start looking into other more open and interested men. If the time comes wh... (read in full...)
Does this mean I'm the rebound guy?
Q. hey people ok im just a little confused. my girlfriend and i have been friends on and off for about 7 years. this last time we became friends it became more an weve been together for 7 months now. the thing im confused about is recently she told me ...
A. 16 December 2008: to be honest i can see where you are coming from. However you've been together with her for a while now and that is a plus. maybe before you were the guy she kept going back to but now you have been with her seven months.
That is big. Rebound guys... (read in full...)
Am I just being paranoid, or is it something else?
Q. Lately I've been noticing one of my teachers seems to be acting differently. In the beginning of the year, he would constantly be staring at me when teaching, (which made me feel uncomfortable at times), but now he's looking away if he catches me ...
A. 16 December 2008: i can't really say anything hard hitting for you, but a teacher is a lot like their students, human.
When a teacher looks at a room full of students the first thing that grabs their attention is the student looking at them, it is the same as when... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends...
Q. Hello, hmm where do I begin... Well my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We were engaged, and he broke up with me because of one of his friends who is is a girl. I was devastated. I almost had a nervous breakdown. I lost hope and ...
A. 3 December 2008: i think you need to sit down and tell him to his face that they may be his friends, but your his lover.
They may be able to hang out with you, but you will always be the one he comes home to. You will always be there with open arms.
Make th... (read in full...)
Why did she promise that things would never change and then shut me out?
Q. Dear Cupid, About nine months ago, my best friend of almost three years moved away. She is now living in a town that is about an hour away from mine. When she first learned that she was moving, she was completely devastated, as I was. We spent pr...
A. 3 December 2008: i kind of did the same thing with a friend when i moved.
We hung out everyday, she was my best friend but after I moved whenever we talked i felt like it was hurting me more. I made new friends and although i still love my old friend its hard to t... (read in full...)
A student is in love with me, how can I as a teacher discourage this behaviour?
Q. Ok so I have a problem, I am a male teacher in the UK I am 25. I teach 16 -17 year olds. Having seen all the young ladies on this site who are in love with their teachers it terrifies me! I have a student in my class who has a bit of a crush. N...
A. 13 November 2008: It sounds like this girl needs a reality check. But i can understand how "some" girls feel when they see that their teacher watches them often. At first it can be realyl uncomfortable and and make you wonder why their eyes are constantly meeti... (read in full...)
We got involved and she went to break it off with her bf! Haven't heard from her..should I be worried?
Q. I started to see a girl 3 months ago thing escalated pretty quickly she practically lives at my place over 5 or 6 nights a week its great we started as friends and i knew she had a boyfriend oversees after on month of friendship it turned into t...
A. 22 October 2008: contact her family and friends. Try to find out if anyone has any idea where she is or where he ex is.
I don't want to worry you but i fear for her safety in a senario like this.
If no one else has heard from her and she is not at her other... (read in full...)
I can't stop phoning and texting him!! Help!
Q. i'm seeing someone new now. i've just come out of a 2 year relationship.............i can't stop ringing him, texting him all the time. how do i get a handle on the crazy????...
A. 22 October 2008: Thanks a good question hun.
You miss the familiarity of the first guy. You obvious cared for him a lot and it is hard to let go, but before you make yourself out to be a stalker or a crazy ex, you should just say good bye and continue on with the ... (read in full...)
I have problems talking to girls..any tips on changing this?
Q. I have problems talking to girls. I guess its that i am very shy and always think of things that can go wrong if i do talk to her. I am scared of rejection and of being embarrassed. I dont think i am that bad looking, and girls talk to me alot, ...
A. 22 October 2008: Try to make an easier approach around it. Say little things to clue the girl in that you like her.
Like "your hair looks good today.." etc.
And you can try the simple approach of asking one out to a movie that they said they want to see, but do i... (read in full...)
A couple unrelated questions here, about porn and moving out on my own.
Q. Just out of my mind... Whats so fasinating about pornography? Now i want to know this.... Would i be able to move out of my parents house at 17 years of age? Even if i had a well paid job, and money to support myself? I would really like to k...
A. 22 October 2008: Porn is a thing to fantisize with. It is suppose to make the watcher or reader more sexually ready for something because of the attraction within the media.
Anyway, your parents might seem bad but think about the pros of staying in their house.... (read in full...)
My anus is bleeding from a foreign object. Too embarrassed to go to the doctor..will I be ok?
Q. I am a young woman. I have stuck a foreign object in my anus and it started bleeding last night. It is still bleeding when i try and make bowl movements. Its only been a day but i am worried that it will keep bleeding. I know i probably only ripped ...
A. 22 October 2008: no! Go immediately.
That is not something to be fooled around with and you should be embarassed. I'm sorry but it is highly dangerous and you might have torn it enough to need stitches.
A serious infection cna happen or worse and it is better t... (read in full...)
Should I say goodbye to my emotionally abusive ex once and for all?
Q. I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex fiance a year ago. Then we started talking a few days ago because i called him. he said he still loves me and wants to give it another shot. i felt the same way, but i can't seem to forget about the past. ...
A. 13 October 2008: this relationship is a classic among the return failed relationships.
It might have been good in the beginning because your warming up to each other and getting to know eachother better. But over time that can turn a relationship sour, sadly this... (read in full...)
Do I just block her out of my life completly or should I do something to try and get a relationship to work?
Q. Hi im 18 I think I'm love with a girl but I can't be with her. I met this girl 2 years ago and we went out for 3 months. But she lives over 5 hours away by car. We tried a relationship but it didn't work and we broke up. I thought it was just a c...
A. 7 October 2008: If you love her hun, you need to make that leap. GO FOR HER! Try your hardest to make it work, and if it doesn't, at least you tried right? Surprise her, let her know that the distance might be hard, but your willing to go the distance to see ... (read in full...)
Halloween - Going as a sexy she devil. But what could he be?
Q. I am going to be a Sexy She Devil for Halloween. My boyfriend kinda wants to match with me but we can't really come up with any ideas for what he could be. anyone got any ideas?? thanks a lot....
A. 7 October 2008: well what better than good and evil. usually people see the angel as a female, but why don't you don him in a greek like robe, with a halo and wings and he can be that sinful pleasure. ;P... (read in full...)
I love my teacher, but I will try not to see him
Q. I began to fall in love with my civics teacher six months ago( now im in college). He's not handsome but really nice. Im actracted by his personality. He's a caring person. I remember one time he cried because one student died for car acci...
A. 7 October 2008: Ex teacher or not he can get into serious trouble if he was to reply or have any type of illicit relationship with you. A reputaion alone can ruin a teachers career because of the parents who are active in the school.
If your teacher does in fact... (read in full...)
I fixed the car and he got mad - what's the big deal?
Q. My boyfriend and me went on a rode trip. But our car just had to broke down. He was going to waste about $1000 just to get it fixed, when I have the skills to fix it (I keep a tool box with me just in case.) When I fixed it for him, he seen ...
A. 7 October 2008: Men have an easy to hurt ego.
When things seem to be in a rut they like to be able to fix it and make it better.
My boyfriend always says he prefers to be the one to take care of me.
So by you fixing the car it made his feel a superiority ... (read in full...)
When and how should I come out of the closet?
Q. I'm gay and only 13. Here is my situation. I go to a catholic school. My dad is an uber republican. All of my family is super religious(christian), as are my aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, grandparents. I live in a community where a lot ...
A. 14 July 2008: i would wait. Wait until you have a good footing and are able to leave the town, because it might not be safe for you there.
Your family can regect you over it and I personally don't want to see someone thrown from the home because of the fami... (read in full...)
Seriously - Would you cheat with a celebrity if it was safe?
Q. i need serious answers. Married or single women - if you could sleep with any hot celebrity you wanted to and there was no way in the world you could get caught would you cheat on your husband or boyfriend? Serious answers only please....
A. 14 July 2008: I'm not going claim to be a celebraty I wont lie to you, however, my friend is a famous comic artist and toy maker, he also works on Kanye's line Pastel.
I was invited to go on the tour bus for a month during the tour. Which I accompanied them for ... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend only wants me for sexual stuff!
Q. I'm 14 and my boyfriend and I have been going out for a month and I started too really like him. A couple weeks ago he asked for head and I gave it to him but yesterday he asked me again and he asked to see my boobs. I said no but I feel like thi...
A. 14 July 2008: your to young to have your heart wrenched out by this guy. Your friends seem to be right on this one, he is a user not a lover.
A relatioship involves talking andcaring not a blow job here and there and him staring at your boobs.
Dump him ... (read in full...)
Can I be close to my boyfriend AND my gay friend?
Q. I have a good friend who’s gay. We used to be best friends until I met my boyfriend. When I introduced them both, they did not get along. They were polite to each other, but my gay friend thinks I can find someone better than my boyfriend. My ...
A. 14 July 2008: i think you should tell them both that they need to settle their differences because they are hurting you.
They don't need to talk to eachother or even like each other but they are both important to you and you shouldn't have to pick and choo... (read in full...)
I love them both for different reasons and don't know who I should be with!
Q. I am 26, engaged to a my bf of 8 years, when i entered my first job at 25 i started to see someone else from the office who had many qualities that i felt were missing from my bf,currently i am techincally with them both becuase i dotn know who i ...
A. 14 July 2008: You have been with your fiance for eight years. EIGHT! He is in it for the long haul. How do you know that this man from work is?
Your boyfriend must love you, and he would be so hurt to know that not only have you cheated on him, but you are cons... (read in full...)
My mate has cut contact with me completely since he has a new girlfriend, should I give up contacting him?
Q. Right, this is probably gonna be a long one I'm afraid so bear with me. I met my "mate" at the end of 2006 on a 12 wk course I took and we found became close to best friends. We were both into the same music, played guitar etc and we'd hang out tw...
A. 14 July 2008: I think you should move on.
When a person so freely leaves you without a passing glance there is a high chance they would do it again if they see another person more fitting.
It's not healthy to continue trying to speak with him. Moving on will ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to get pregnant after treatment for cancer. What can I try?
Q. hi evryone now this happened awhile bak but it still haunts me till ths very day whn i was 7 i was diagnosed with leukemia and i use it as an excuse evry so often is this wrong also i askd my mom if it causes infertility and it does so another ...
A. 14 July 2008: It depends on the form of treatment you underwent.
Getting hormones can help incredibly.
You and your boyfriend should be checked, because in a lot fo cases it is not always the person they thought couldn't have the child.
I would try some nat... (read in full...)
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