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writes:I'm gay and only 13. Here is my situation. I go to a catholic school. My dad is an uber republican. All of my family is super religious(christian), as are my aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, grandparents. I live in a community where a lot of people hate gay people. But I really want to come out to someone! Help!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Secret Teller +, writes (15 July 2008):
 i had a friend (14 years old) that was in the same situation you are. his mother and father were the biggest repulicans anyone will every meet. they went to church every sunday morning, every sunday night, and every wensday night. and my gay friend wanted to tell his parents that he was gay and wanted to be with other guys, but was afraid of their reaction. but one day he did tell his parents. they were upset and speechless, and still today they don't except his sexuallty but they do except him and they still love him more than ever and so does his friend. best of luck.
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reader, xxsecretsxx +, writes (14 July 2008):
 i would wait. Wait until you have a good footing and are able to leave the town, because it might not be safe for you there.
Your family can regect you over it and I personally don't want to see someone thrown from the home because of the family.
After you move out, ease them into it, let them know gradually until it can be affirmed by you. Hopefully they come to grips on your love preference.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): hi
today as ever there is still some prejudice in the world, but not with everyone . if you think you should come out of the closet , that choice can only be made by you. Because you are so young it is very possible you would be in for a rough ride and an unnecessary one.The pressure may be very hard. Maybe keeping your private life private for the time being would be better, simply because if you had a girlfriend would you want to tell everybody? The choice is yours, but remember you already expect possible opposition. I understand you just want to be true to how you feel and i admire this quality. Maybe you could let time pass and explore yourself first, then relationships, and then when you feel ready it is your choice. maybe your family suspect but have chosen not to say anything, or maybe they would be cool with it, everybody has different views on this but i wish you happiness in your life where ever it leads you. Try to just enjoy been you and maybe let things unfold naturally.
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reader, hayhay123 +, writes (14 July 2008):
I think it's wonderful that you're so sure of your orientation at such a young age! My advice to you is to start seeing a councelor or therapist, someone who is required to keep the information you share with them confidential. You can't hold these feelings in forever, and it sounds like when you are old enough you might want to go to college somewhere other than your hometown, have some life experiences without your dad's watchful eye.
I'm not telling you to rebel, but just be patient and when you are old enough you should be honest with your parents and they will except you for who you are, for how you were born. It may take them some time, but you are their child and they love you.
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reader, jess18maine +, writes (14 July 2008):
 You will know when coming out is right for you. Make sure that your really homosexual before you deside to create all that drama of coming out. Your young this may just be a phase, but consider finding chats and blogs on coming out. Comeing out to people you don't know and that have come out before is a big help and a good start for telling your family. Start by telling just one person that you love and trust.
You seem like a smart kid and this is america, and americans are doing better with homosexuality. Give your family the chance of accepting it... and it may take time.
Good Luck.
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