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writes:I'm 15 and a girl. Kind of small (5'1), blonde hair, blue eyes and i think i'm ok to talk to but i haven't had a properly dated a guy for 2 years and i'm starting to feel a bit lonely =/ I dont know weither its to do with my skin (i have a bit of acne but its calmed down a lot) or maybe just the way i look in general haha. I cant ever seem to get a boyfriend. I mean i know im still really young and its not THE most important thing to me but sometimes i stop and think "it would be nice". Dont get me wrong i like being single too but i think i want a relationship right now. But its not as if i can really go anywhere because there's no clubs or anything where i stay and all the guys my age group go out drinking, smoking, having sex, etc and im just not into that =/ Im also quite shy though and i start to blush a bit whenever i see a hot guy. I really dont like making the first move too. Its not that ive got major confidence issues its just kind of scary haha. Ive signed up on teen dating site things and only got one guy to talk to out of it, so then we started talking but i can kind of tell its not leading anywhere. Then i start to think im a bit boring - but i always keep trying to carry on the conversation but i just wish that i had a guy to talk to, one that i get on really well with and someone who is geuine.Whats wrong with me? Why cant i get a guy to like me?(This wasnt intended to sound hormonal and desperate but i guess it did hahaha)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 May 2010):
 There is nothing wrong with you I promise. I was the exact same as you at 15, I had bad skin, thought I was a bit chubby and all my friends used to get all the attention from the boys. I thought I would never get a boyfriend and be alone forever! So you really are not alone with these thoughts and there is nothing wrong with you at all.
I actually got my first boyfriend a few months after I gave up feeling the way you are now - I got so fed up of feeling down about boys that I gave up entirely and then just before I turned 16 I found my first boyfriend!
You need to realise that boys your age are just as shy as you are, they hate making the first move on girls and are too worried about what their mates think to every make a move on a girl they actually like. You are still very young and have plenty of time to get a boyfriend, I'm sure within the next year it will happen for you but until then just be patient.
In the mean time just try and get out as much as you can - try taking up some hobbies or sports which are a great way to meet new friends (and maybe guys!). Something like an athletics club, swimming, bowling....anything you enjoy just look for a club in your area and join up. And keep doing all the normal teen things with your friends, like going shopping, going to the cinema etc - when a guy sees a girl who has friends and is enjoying herself (without a guy!) then that is really attractive - confidence is very sexy to a guy!
I would also stay away from online dating at your age - it really is not safe for you. It is clear you have already lied about your age on here as your account says 18-21, so I really dont think it is a good idea for you to be online with random men you dont know. Look - if you have lied on this site, then who is to say that the guys you are talking to online are not also lying about their ages? Online dating is hard enough for adults and can easily go wrong for us oldies (And I know what I am talking about, I have had plenty of bad experiences with online dating!) - so I really do not like the idea of a young girl using online dating sites, you are just putting yourself in a horrible situation where someone could easily take advantage of you.
So all I can suggest is try and get out more if you can, stop the online dating and just be patient. What you are going through is totally normal and I'm sure within the next year you will meet someone - often you meet people when you least expect it. Dont worry about boys too much at the moment, as you said, boys your age are just idiots into all the wrong things as they think it is "cool" so in a year or so's time they will have grown out of it and be much better candidates for dating!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, xxsecretsxx  +, writes (3 May 2010):
 Sweetheart your fifteen! You shouldn't be on a dating site! Trust me that is not a hole you want to dig! It can be dangerous and often hurtful to ones self confidence and yours is just starting to come into play.
I like to stress that time can be the best partner. You say that all the guys around you are being party animals and such but have you tried to talk to the guys who are a little quieter? Even different from the people you usually hang out with?
I used to hate talking to guys, in fact..i still kind of do, but I joined the wrestling team(as a manager) and actually learned how to be less shy around the guys because I was around them more. Perhaps you should try to make some guy friends, and then see what happens with that.
A relationship should always have a foundation, make sure that you can get along with that person before taking the next step to a relationship. '
(if you want to talk more just message me and I will give you my email.)
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