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writes:Basicaly I've been with my boyfriend just over a year and I want to take the next step - moving in together, how can I bring this subject up in a subtle way so it doesnt seem as if I'm pushing.It's not like I'm ready to marry and have kids, I'm still young, I'm in college I want to get a good eduation, a job of my dreams, a stable home etc first I just know he's the one I feel it and I know we have an amazing future ahead of us.Any advice or tips? Reply to this Question
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reader, xxsecretsxx  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 This is a big decision that a lot of my friends have regretted doing. I understand your want to lie with the person you love, but things get very tough after that.
A couple of my friends have been depressed that they made the quick decision to move in with their boyfriends and ended up losing out on many things because of it.
I hope that it goes differently for you of course, but you should definitely think about ramifications of moving in before you take the leap.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 Yes you can have an amazing future ahead with him IF" you prepare everything first. You said you are not yet ready for kids or thing like having family. If you move in together do you think its not going to affect things! Its the start".., i dont wanna say any negative here, of course youre doin fine. but this man, is he already prepared for the possible responsabilities? Why not finish first the College next step is find a good job, have a good income. talk to the Boy friend. Have a plan together. If you both have already good job, good income then you can forward already planning getting married if you really think he is the one. after marriage, next thing to do is House or a place to stay, next is baby, next is a preparation for the future of the baby. Yes dear" its easy to be in the relation, its easy to move in and live together with the boyfriend. But one step mistake, all our life will suffer specially US WOMAN. so i hope you think first before do the next step. I wish all the best anyway..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice :)
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reader, Chantelle x +, writes (20 February 2010):
 Discuss the possibility of moving in with your boyfriend one day, meaning sometime in the future, by this you can see his reactions and it will also drop a seed and bring forward the possibility of you moving in sooner rather than later.
Good luck xx
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reader, Emils +, writes (19 February 2010):
 I wouldnt try and subtley ask a question such as this. I think it is important, that with something like this you approach him and explain to him what you have just posted. Its his exact feelings you want about this so ask him the exact question. Otherwise if he doesn't give you the answer you want through dropping hints, youll be disapointed and end up pushing further. It isn't pushing by having a discussion with him as you arent forcing him to live with you you just his feelings about living with you. Don't put to much pressure onto it, just explain your feelings in a discussion. Be open to compromise, except his feelings on the matter and expect the same from him. You need to be able to approach him with this question in order for this relationship to move forward anyway. If you have any further questions contact me and ill be happy to help. I hope this all works out for you, this is a really exciting time, good luck for the future, Emils x
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reader, Emils +, writes (19 February 2010):
I wouldnt try and subtley ask a question such as this. I think it is important, that with something like this you approach him and explain to him what you have just posted. Its his exact feelings you want about this so ask him the exact question. Otherwise if he doesn't give you the answer you want through dropping hints, youll be disapointed and end up pushing further. It isn't pushing by having a discussion with him as you arent forcing him to live with you you just his feelings about living with you. Don't put to much pressure onto it, just explain your feelings in a discussion. Be open to compromise, except his feelings on the matter and expect the same from him. You need to be able to approach him with this question in order for this relationship to move forward anyway. If you have any further questions contact me and ill be happy to help. I hope this all works out for you, this is a really exciting time, good luck for the future, Emils x
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