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writes:hey.. im a lil confused about a few things at the moment ...my ex broke up with me a few months back .last month we had a one night stand (al in fun according to him) he told me not to say anythin to anyone.. he knew i still have major feelings 4 him yet he asks me to have sex with him .. he tells me hes over me and hes moved on but i dont get it .... a few weeks ago i saw him out .. he asked my best mate who she was with knowing that were pretty much inseprable and party together lol .. i recieved a txt from him sayin congrats cos i won a football at the aution ..as i was leavin i saw him so i said gday and had a bit of a chat to him and his mates which was good cos we dont argue were really good when we talk .. as he was leaving he asked wat i was doin i said i was waiting 4 my besie to come bak from the toilet so we went outside .. i saw a mate of mine who walked past so i said gday to her when i looked around he was gone so i txt him to ask where he was he told me he was walking home so i said no worries catchya around .. anyway he txt back saying it was great to see me and stuff .. so i said it was great tooo .. then he satrted to message me really dirty stuff and be a tool with the stuff he was txting... our mutual friend then told me that he said to them that i was followin him around and making all this bullshit up .. when i found that out i messaged him and asked him wat the go was but he never repied.. the thing is when i dont say hi to him he complains that i didnt say hi but when i do have a chat with him he says that i followed him ... i dont get it and its really hurting me he told me were mates but i think its only when it suits him ..he dosnt tell the whole story he just tells wat he waants and itsmaking me look bad can anyone helpo me im just sick of the shit im damnded if i do and damned if i dont
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit hurts to let go i cant seem to do it no matter wat i do .. i love him with all my heart stil i dont understand him hes sending me mixed emotions
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): I know the feeling hun, if you can girl, run and don't look back. This guy is playing games with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): I just had to reply to you on this one because I'm in the same situation with a guy at work and it's been going on for a year now, and I know it's time for me to also go "cold turkey" and move on. Your guy sounds exactly like mine, I kept going back for more hoping each time would be different but it wasn't and I was allowing myself to get caught up in his sick immature games and then I'd be the one getting hurt. Now I'm doing everything I can to avoid him at work and I know that I'll start to feel better by getting empowered by taking control back of my life. My self-esteem and confidence have been damaged through this experience, and I just got to the point where I can't do it anymore. There's another guy at work who is interested in me so I think I'll concentrate on developing a friendship with him. Just like me, you'll never win with this guy and he'll leave you feeling worse each time he plays with your head and heart. Believe me, it's worth getting out now even if you find it difficult to do at first, then before you know it things will get easier and you'll get happy again!
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reader, xxsecretsxx  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 I know you still have feelings for him, but just go cold turkey when it comes to him. He is playing mind games!He doesn't want the girlfriend attachment but he wants the goodies? Its not right to you!It will take time to get over him, but your friends are always there to welcome you back to the single world before you venture out into the dating world!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): You're only damned if you do. He is pretty much just taking anything he can get from you now. Sex, attention, conversation, his failing to respect you around his friends, etc. So stop giving him anything and get on with your life.
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