Pregnant and have not had a orgasm in 8 weeks, whats wrong with me?
Q. i've been pregnant for 26 weeks and i havent had an orgasm in 8 weeks, what is the problem?...
A. 18 May 2006: Dont worry girl! I am 35 weeks pregnant and havent had an orgasm in a while either. I find its because I cant get comfortable, Im too tired, or Ive got too much to think about so I cant relax enough. It is frustrating but I love the fact that I have ... (read in full...)
Terrified of pregnancy and birth but want another child, what should I do?
Q. I am in my 30's and married with one child. I am desperate for another but frightened to death of going thru pregnancy again. I hated every last minute of it last time, although my son is worth it. I even had an elective c/section as I am phobic ...
A. 17 May 2006: I recommend going on the website www.birth.com.au, and looking at the forum. They have heaps of women that will be able to help you out there. Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I'm 36, new into a relationship and pregnant for the first time... I want to terminate but my doctor says "no"
Q. i just wanted to see what you thought of my situation....i am 36 and 6 months.i have never been married or have children.i met a nice guy a month ago who is 39 and never been married or has any children either.sadly ,there was an accident and i ...
A. 8 May 2006: Some things are just meant to be! ... (read in full...)
He wants to give me a "pearl necklace" but I'd prefer some pretty ear-rings!!
Q. Hiya I'm 17 and from Newcastle in the uk, studying art and design. My boyfriend and me have been going out for a few weeks now and he keeps promising to give me a pearl necklace at the weekend, but he has yet to come round with one. I love my j...
A. 8 May 2006: Hi, Were you aware that a "pearl necklace" can also mean him cumming on your chest??? You sure he doesnt mean this??... (read in full...)
Did she leave her marriage for me or because she wants released??
Q. A few months ago a girl at work and I slept together.. this has grown into a some sorta relationship and we go out together as much as possible. she is married, 2 kids... She has recently filed for a divorce and has told me she did that because ...
A. 8 May 2006: My husband was in another relationship and had three children when we met. They were only together for the kids and neither of them loved each other. I gave him the chance to be happy again and he took it. It was the excuse that he was after for ... (read in full...)
The man I love needs to marry to remain in the country. But do I marry him or let him marry someone else?
Q. I am a 37 year old highly educated successful, professional american woman and twice divorced from 2 men who were from other countries (I'm a sucker for the exotic, I guess) Unfortunately that has left me rather scarred when it comes to marriage. ...
A. 18 April 2006: I think that he is marrying the other woman because he knows how you feel about marriage now, and doesnt want to pressure you into marrying him when you dont feel comfortable with it. The way I thought it worked was the government needs to see proof ... (read in full...)
My parents' marriage is rocky over Dad's affair, but Mum doesn't even know about it!
Q. My mum and dad had been together for 24 years when everything changed. During our holiday in August of last year, they were happy and talking about getting old and stuff. Then in October, after my big bro had a baby, my dad went off the rails a bit. ...
A. 11 April 2006: I am sorry for the situation that you are in. You have been very strong and brave through it all and sound very mature. What you must understand is that none of this is your problem to think. You are the child and your parents are the ones that need ... (read in full...)
I'm sure how to tell him about my miscarriage. Can you help please?
Q. Few questions, same situation -- I had a miscarriage. It was a 2 to 3 day span of events, none of which I told to anyone. Well, I feel bad now that I'm not more upset... It was a person, or it would have been at some point, and it's gone... ...
A. 22 March 2006: You have brought up two issues here. One is how you are feeling about the miscarriage and the other is telling your man.
Do not feel guilty at all about how you are feeling. This wasnt the right time for you to have a baby, and things happen f... (read in full...)
Never had an orgasm in my life. What can I try?
Q. Hi there, I am 51 years old and my boyfriend is 36 years old. I can't get an orgasim and I have never had one in my life. I feel so ashamed and I can't enjoy sex. Can you suggest anything? ...
A. 20 March 2006: Dont feel ashamed. There is no reason you shouldnt enjoy sex even if you dont orgasm. Are you still feeling pleasured? Most of the time, the best thing about having an orgasm is the lead up to it. Take it slow. Try to enjoy your time with your man. ... (read in full...)
My gf's a virgin, I didn't make you lose it with my finger, did I?
Q. Hi, me and my girlfriend are together for a long time. She is virgin and I respect that and we didn’t do anything that harms her virginity. Last night we were together. It was the night after her period was over. I massaged her but I did not put my ...
A. 8 March 2006: You sound so loving towards your girlfriend and she is lucky to have you. Willywombat is right, you have to actually have sex to loose your virginity. You are both doing the right thing buy waiting. She may feel a little nervous when you head down ... (read in full...)
I ruined my body! So scared what my boyfriend will think...
Q. I ruined my body. I have been overwight all my life ever since I was a little girl and I lost 70 pounds by dieting and exercising, but now I'm left with saggy breasts and an awful looking stomach...my private area is even pronounced and looks ...
A. 8 March 2006: It sounds like you have a lovely boyfriend who will love you no matter what. Dont forget to keep talking to him about how you feel. He will not be "replused" by your body, but grateful that you feel comfortable enough to share it with him. You have ... (read in full...)
Can't make boyfriend cum by giving head. Why?
Q. Ok I have a problem. I have been with my bf for a long time now, and I have never ever been able to make him cum by giving him head. He tells me its awesome and that he love it when I go down on him, and his whole body shakes when Im doing it. He ...
A. 8 March 2006: I had the same problem with my ex. We were together 4 years and never once did I make him cum with my mouth, or my hand. Funny thing was though is that he could jerk off to make himself cum. No matter what I did, I just couldnt. He would tell me ... (read in full...)
Wanted: Your views on DearCupid.org
Q. Hi everyone Thought I would introduce myself. My name is Andrew and I'm the guy who runs this site... Yes, it is just a one-man-band! I'm looking for ideas on what new features to add to the site and want YOUR input. I am thinking of the ...
A. 8 March 2006: I love the idea of a discussion board! Free flow of information would be a lot more useful. More like a conversation then. Thanks Andrew! ;o)... (read in full...)
My bf is leaving to go on a working holiday but I love him so much and dont want him to go!!
Q. My boyfriend of just over a year (he's 24, im 20) told me the other night that in a few months he will be going on a working holiday overseas and won't return for 2-4 years. I vaguely knew he had this plan at the start of our relationship, but I ...
A. 23 February 2006: At the risk of sounding like a cliche, if you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it was meant to be. As hard as that may be, in this situation I really think you have to let him decide as he may regret changing his mind in the long ... (read in full...)
Valentines Day means nothing to him. Does that mean I have to ignore it too?
Q. Valentine's Day is right around the corner and I'm dating this guy for about 3 months, who was in a relationship for 3yrs before me. In a casual conversation one day, the subject of Valentine's came up and he quickly brushed off the idea by sayin...
A. 14 February 2006: Who cares if your partner remembers to do something for you on valentines day? How could he not? Such a big deal is made about it that its not special anymore because partners are forced to remember it. Isnt it much more special to celebrate ... (read in full...)
Any insight into my husband's one explicit email exchange with an old flame?
Q. I am have been married for two and a half years to a very great husband. We have a 10 month old daughter, we work toether, we play together and we have an amazing sex life. So the other night, I was going to check my e-mail and instead, my ...
A. 14 February 2006: You have made up your mind to let this thing lie. Dont let strangers try to make this seem worse or bigger than you apparently think that it is. It did happen a long time ago, and if you are happy in your marriage, and you know that he is happy, ... (read in full...)
Should I fight for him or let him go do his single thing?
Q. I have met the most beautiful guy- but I don't know whether to fight for him or let him go!! I am a 23 year old chick who has been single for maybe 2 years!!! (I don't go out with people unless I really like them). last Christmas I met a really ...
A. 9 February 2006: He is taking time to think this over and its not as if he is making a spare of the minute quick one. I think that whatever he says you should accept it. As hard as it will be, if he says that he doesnt want a relationship and you push him into ... (read in full...)
I'm a grown woman, but my dad still wants to guide my love life! Any thoughts?
Q. I have had to return to my parent's house following a divorce, although I am waiting to return to my own home, which should be in about four months. They have been very supportive and we have managed well even though I have become a born again te...
A. 31 January 2006: I feel like your dad is being very selfish. I actually think that you were meant to be together! How nice that you have met again after all of this time. You need to try to not take notice of what your Dad says, and if you feel it getting to you, ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and ready for a baby...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year. He is 20 and I am 16. It's a great relationship and I really love him. He was a family friend before and the feelings grew for us over ages - we never acted on them because the age difference ...
A. 31 January 2006: Hi hun, I understand where you are coming from. I had to go through a lot growing up which means that I have matured quicker than a lot of my friends. At 16/17 I to was "dying" to have a baby. I thought I was ready, I thought the relationship I was ... (read in full...)
He's had so many lovers...what if a long lost child of his sudenly turns up?
Q. My boyfriend has slept with over 100 women in the last 10 years (which I think is really bad, but that's another issue!) Anyway, the other day I was asking him questions about his past and he told me that probably about 90 of these were ...
A. 24 January 2006: I wouldnt worry about it too much. The women that he slept with he didnt love. If a child from one of those one night stands turns up, he will have a responsibility to this child but you wont have to feel like the mother of the child and your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a loving, caring man, but he has a past history full of sex and drugs. I feel like I must be such a bore to him!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing this guy for 6 months and im really happy. But I just don't know how to let go of his past. I'm 21 and he is 26. We have a great relationship and are really happy but his past really upsets me. He has slept with over 50 women...
A. 20 January 2006: He obviously wants to be with you. He wouldnt want to stay how he used to be for the rest of his life. What sort of a life would that be? I know its hard, but try to forget the past. Whats done is done and you must let it lie. Just because he has ... (read in full...)
He wants me just for sex but I love him. How do I get him to love and respect me?
Q. Dear cupid.. I have been in love with a guy for over three years now (I'm 17, he's 18), I want to be in a relationship with him. Trouble is that he is ony physically attracted to me, and will only ask for sex.It seems to me like he regards me as...
A. 20 December 2005: In most cases I say that there is hope to save a relationship, but in this one I really believe that there isnt. You didnt start off in a relationship. You didnt have sex because you were in love. I dont think that anything you do will change the ... (read in full...)
What are the chances that our relationship will work with a 17 year age difference?
Q. What are possible difficulties that could arise from having a 17 year age difference in a relationship? I'm 27 and the guy I like is 44. I really love him and he loves me, but already we've had comments that I looked like his daughter. I've a...
A. 20 December 2005: Hi there! Myself and my partner have a 18 year difference between us (him being older). We are soul mates! And I couldnt be happier being with anyone else. There are a few things that you will need to struggle with. Im not sure of your situation, so ... (read in full...)
Isn't Christmas Eve a time for family-not a night out with the boys?
Q. My boyfriend is 36 years old and we are about to spend our second Christmas together. He is a bit of a drinker (drinks every night but not enough to get really drunk) and he likes to drink quite a bit at weekends and have a good time. The thing...
A. 1 December 2005: Nah, Hes a boy! Christmas is a time to spend with the ones you love- whether they be friends or family. You get him for Christmas day- and really every other day. Just be happy that hes having a good time. The happier he is the better your ... (read in full...)
Can you be in love with someone yet cheat on them?
Q. Is it possible for a bloke to cheat on his wife/ fiance and still be in love with her? Can you still be in love with someone and cheat on them?...
A. 30 November 2005: I cheated on my ex 3 times! I dont think I think I agree with the below post, but Id never really thought about it. I guess I didnt respect him at all. He gave me no reason to. I know Im a bitch for cheating on him but I was looking for something ... (read in full...)
Two men in my life...which do I choose?
Q. I love 2 men and dont know what to do. Mike has been my boyfriend for the past 3 years on and off. There is 16years difference between us and he is an alcoholic. We have been through a lot and he is constantly letting me down. I love him and if he ...
A. 30 November 2005: It sounds to me that neither of these man are "the love of your life" or your "soul mate". If either of them were, there wouldnt be a decision, you would know what to do. Stop trying to decide on a guy, and start looking at whats going to make you ... (read in full...)
My duaghter's unhappy and crying about her relationship. Should I help?
Q. I have a 22yr old daughter living 1000km away, with her boyfriend. They are having major relationship problems, she comes crying to me every time they fight, via phone call or email. I am so stressed over this. What can I do to help? Should I ...
A. 29 November 2005: Firstly I want to start by saying Thank you. Thank you for being a mum that your daughter can depend on as a guardian and as a friend. You are so sweet in your concern. You can offer your advice without pushing it, or expecting her to use it. Tell ... (read in full...)
How do I know if my relationship is over?
Q. How do I know if my relationship is really over? Should I just give up?...
A. 29 November 2005: We need more information in order to reply. Thanks!... (read in full...)
How can we get rid of his sexual frustration?
Q. my bf n i have been together over a year and a half and we talk openly about our relationship. recently he has been telling me he is sexually frustrated. we can have sex and wiv in twenty minutes hes frustrated again. i have spoke to him about ...
A. 22 November 2005: Maybe he wants something different from the "norm". He says he likes one night stands because he can be rough with them. Do you expect everytime you have sex together you are making love, or can he be rough with you to? Try doing some role playing. ... (read in full...)
I just wish my 10-year-old daughter would act more like a girl!
Q. I wonder if anyone could help me! I have a 10 year old little girl and she is slim and blonde and very pretty but she hates looking like a girl. She want to wear tracksuit bottoms, trainers, cap (round the wrong way}. She hates washing and brushing ...
A. 22 November 2005: Let her express herself through clothing how she wants. These things are just material things and dont mean anything. You need to relax. I do think you need to stick to your guns regarding her washing her hair as this is a hygiene thing. Maybe have ... (read in full...)
I slept with someone else...do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two and half years and I love him very much. But this weekend I went to see my friend and I slept with another guy. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend, but I feel that I need to tell him ...
A. 22 November 2005: I cheated on my ex boyfriend 3 times in 4 years! I didnt ever actually have sex with anyone else, but I cheated nevertheless. I told him about the first time over a year after it happened, which he forgave. Then I told him straight away after the ... (read in full...)
I have to choose between the father of my baby and my mum!
Q. I am 19 and just had a beautiful baby girl. Her father and I are going through tough times right now and I came back to live with my mom to clear my head. We agreed I would go back to be with after things have cooled down. My mom and him don't get ...
A. 21 November 2005: He is being incredibably selfish. If he really did love you, he wouldnt put you through the pain of making this decision. You need your mum most of all at this very special time of your life in having a young child. You will not only be hurting your ... (read in full...)
My new guy would be perfect... except he's married!
Q. I meet this guy, lets just say it's like the pretty woman movie. He buys me all sort of expensive gifts and such. It is so different with him, the other day we were making out for 4 hours straight without having sex at all in any way. He says h...
A. 21 November 2005: By not telling you that he was married straight away, he was lying to you. What sort of a relationship do you want to be in? A comforting, safe, honest relationship? I doubt that you will be able to have this with him now. How could you ever trust ... (read in full...)
I love crossdressing, but I'm afraid of what my girlfriend might say about it!
Q. I'm 29 and ever since I was 12 or so I've been secretly wearing women's clothing. Sometimes just undies/tights etc and sometimes dressing up completely as a woman. At different times I have stopped and sometimes even got rid of all my feminine ...
A. 17 November 2005: You need to tell her. Stop living a lie. If she doesnt accept you for who you are then its not worth it. She should love you for being yourself and if that comes with you cross dressing then she will get used to it. Allow her space and patience ... (read in full...)
His mum says he has to choose between living at home and being with me...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over nine months. We are very happy together but our main problem is that his family does not believe we should be together because of our ethnic differences. He is Ukrainian and I am Hispanic and ...
A. 17 November 2005: His mother will come around eventually. She is being racist, and has no right to feel this way. If you really love each other and want to be together, let him move in with you, or get your own place together. If you realise that you cant be ... (read in full...)
I get frequent erections during the night... and I'm 80!
Q. I am not a young man in fact I am told that I am past the age of a sexual relationship being 80 years old. My problem,if it can be called a problem, is that I have, over the last two months, been experiencing VERY frequent erections during the nigh...
A. 16 November 2005: Im not a doctor, but from what I know, erections are never abnormal. Good on you for being 80 and still able to get hard! ;o) Im thinking that maybe you are dreaming sexually, but not remembering the dream when you wake up. Masterbation is nothing ... (read in full...)
He tells me that he loves me, but I want the little gifts that show it, too!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we've had some pretty rough times, like all couples. He's never taken me on a date or gotten me anything for Valentine's Day, my birthday, Christmas, etc. He tells me all the time that he loves me and i...
A. 16 November 2005: Why is it bothering you? Is it because you want to tell your friends that he spoils you to? You are so lucky that you have such a loving, affectionate boyfriend, the material things probably dont matter to him so he doesnt think they would matter to ... (read in full...)
I can't talk to other boys and he just doesn't trust me. How can I make things good between us?
Q. I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend since I was 14. I thought everything would be perfect. I was besotted and thought we would last forever. We are still together now but everything is going wtong. Our relationship is based on nothing. There is ...
A. 16 November 2005: You need to start having fun! Your relationship sounds very full on for only being 17 and thats fine, but you cant get tied up with the stress of it all and stop being yourself. You are both thinking too much and are putting pressure on the ... (read in full...)
Did I marry my husband too young? What do I do?
Q. I have been married for four years and have a small child. My husband is the most perfect man on earth and I am well aware of this. I just don't fancy him. I love him in the same way you might love your best friend, he is my best friend. I find ...
A. 16 November 2005: Just because you are married, doesnt mean you cant have fun! You should still be able to go out with your girlfriends whenever you want! It doesnt sound like you dont want to be with your husband, it just sounds like you are bored and want some ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why my boyfriend needs porn to have sex with me!
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now. Wwe have 2 children. The last 2 months every time we are going to have sex he puts on a porn film and I don't understand why. Becouse he gets hard when he kisses me. This is really making me...
A. 14 November 2005: Maybe hes just saying that he wants to experiment more, or do different things- there is a chance he might be getting bored with the same old same old. I would recommend that you initiate it. Buy some sexy lingerae, or light some candles, anything ... (read in full...)
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