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writes: Valentine's Day is right around the corner and I'm dating this guy for about 3 months, who was in a relationship for 3yrs before me. In a casual conversation one day, the subject of Valentine's came up and he quickly brushed off the idea by saying that he had enough of that...and that he's staying far, and it's totally bogus. Now I know that it may be childish of me to be mad that he hasn't considered the day for me...but I'm upset that he doesn't even acknowledged me on the day. Should I say something to him or just let it pass? I don't want him to think I'm into material stuff, cuz that's not how it is...Or maybe his feelings is not so deep for me afterall? Help, I'm confused! Reply to this Question
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reader, wishes +, writes (14 February 2006):
 Who cares if your partner remembers to do something for you on valentines day? How could he not? Such a big deal is made about it that its not special anymore because partners are forced to remember it. Isnt it much more special to celebrate anniversary, birthdays, or just other "unnamed" days of the year. That way, if they remember to do something nice for you its because they want to and not because there is that much publicity out there that they cant forget. My partener was in a long term relationship before me. She liked Valentines day and he didnt, but every year he felt as though he had to do something or she would get upset, and he hated it. He just loves the fact that I feel the same way as him in regards to this overrated day. Spend more time thinking about how much you love each other and your future together rather than one day thats made a fuss out of. Best wishes x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): If V day means something to you then speak up. I had the same problem with my (now husband). We have been together for 4 v days, and have never celebrated one because of him... although i have gotten used to it Because I know he loves me, it just sucks to hear others talk about what they recieved or gave to their love on v day. If you want a long term relationship then you better speak up now or else you could feel a little down every time v day comes around.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (13 February 2006):
 Valentines day is now so comercial it is out of controle, maybe he just is like me sick of valentines day and easter starting whilst the christmas stock is still on the shelves, lots of people are like this and for some it is just another day to spend, spend, meals go up, flowere rocket, hearts are broken as people forget about the 14th.
Relationships are about daily appreciation for each other, not just one day a year, but that is not to say that if tommorow I dont get a valantine I will not be just a little dissapointed, but if I dont then it will not be the end of the world as it should not for you.
My advice is to give him a card, say that you realise he does not celebrate valentines day but you do and that you accept he does not but you would like to know why not, maybe he has had 3 years of giving his ex cards and presents and has had nothing in return and so now is deflated at the whole thing, who knows unless you ask but dont get hung up on this, its just a day and a day for card manufacturers to get richer.
Romance is daily not one day!!
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