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writes: Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two and half years and I love him very much. But this weekend I went to see my friend and I slept with another guy. I don't want to break up with my boyfriend, but I feel that I need to tell him otherwise we don't stand a chance, what do I do? Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): You should tell him. he would feel more like you dont love him if you keep it a secret tell him and if he really loves you he will forgive you he may be angry at first but he'll come aroud just think itf you were in his shoes how would you feel if he slept with another girl and didnt tell you. Good luck
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (29 March 2006):
 The shortest answer i can give you is YES! tell him as you will alway feel gulity about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2006): check out this site, this lady gave me the right answer!!
http://www.nzgirl.co.nz/articles/5594
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2006): Don't do it
i cheated on my ex also and i admitted it to him
and now we will never get back together
but i am happy because even if i loose him
i will always care about him and i do respect him
so i admitted my mistake to him
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): i can't believe you would do that to him and yes he deserves to know.that is worst thing you could do
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2005): Thanks for all your advice, I told my boyfriend and now our relationship is better than ever. I have learnt my lesson and will never put our relationship through this again. : ) Thanks again, *peachlady*
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2005): okay, heres the deal... you firstly say, you love your boyfriend... well, in the first place, i feel that if this is indeed the case, you would not have slept with someone else in the first place, putting your relationship on the line like that is not done in love....secondly, if you do tell him, you are taking the chance of possibly losing him forever, so... ask yourself this... are you prepared to take that chance? i know that if i had to confess such a thing to my partner, i would not stand a chance of him acceptig it ... he would hit the road, thats for sure.
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reader, wishes +, writes (22 November 2005):
 I cheated on my ex boyfriend 3 times in 4 years! I didnt ever actually have sex with anyone else, but I cheated nevertheless. I told him about the first time over a year after it happened, which he forgave. Then I told him straight away after the 2nd time, which he also forgave. I didnt tell him about the 3rd as it was with his best friend. I knew what I was doing at the time was wrong, and I did really think that I loved my boyfriend. But the thing is, why would you cheat on someone that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with? Even if you do tell him its something that you will both know forever! I do think that you should tell him, but I also need you to question your motives, and how you actually feel in the relationship. Its so easy to get stuck in "comfortable", but is it really whats making you happier than you could be with anyone else? I cheated because I was looking for more. I honestly thought that I did want to spend the rest of my life with my ex, but looking back realise that I was just kidding myself. I did want to get married and have kids, and he fitted perfectly, but thats not enough. Now Im with someone else and couldnt be happier! I really didnt think that I could be this happier. Its really hard at first, but I do wonder your REAL reasons for cheating. Best wishes. Keep positive! x
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reader, Tim +, writes (22 November 2005):
 A relationship more or less based on honesty, trust from both sides, and how much both partner care to keep it in a way this wheel rotate without being stopped suddenly in the middle of now where bang before it gets to his destination. in ur case, the mistake was made before u think and care for someone u are in love with for so long then knowingly hurt someone who loves u, don't break his heart now, keep it in ur heart, if still u love him, if he kows wot u did that is his nightmare will begin and he will never ever trust u again, that is how most of folks do, coz trust is like a glass once u break it, u can't fix it.Good luck
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (21 November 2005):
 You need to tell him what happen, it is only fair that you give him the choice if he wants to continue the relationship or not. good luck
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