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writes: I have been married for four years and have a small child. My husband is the most perfect man on earth and I am well aware of this. I just don't fancy him. I love him in the same way you might love your best friend, he is my best friend. I find myself wondering why I married him and feel fairly certain it was just a logical conclusion. When I first went out with him it was just a bit of fun I never meant to end up here. I am not sure what I want, I got married at 19 and I think that I probably just would like to turn the clock back and have more excitement before I met my husband. I think in an ideal world now I would like some time apart to go out, flirt have a few snogs(nothing more)have some fun, some excitement and maybe have my husband around in 6 months time. This isn't practical though. It's not that I want anyone else, I am just not sure if I want him.What do I do?
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reader, wishes +, writes (16 November 2005):
 Just because you are married, doesnt mean you cant have fun! You should still be able to go out with your girlfriends whenever you want! It doesnt sound like you dont want to be with your husband, it just sounds like you are bored and want some excitment back into your life. Go camping with you husband, or try going out more, doing different things together. But at the same time, you both need your space and time alone with your friends. Talk to him about it. Say that you feel as though you are in a rutt and want to just have FUN! Life is too short to be unhappy! I do think you can find happiness again with your husband, but you need to be yourself- or even find who that is again. Best wishes! Keep your spirits high! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2005): Gosh! planning the wedding was very exciting wasn't it!! But while you were planning the menu, did you bother to look over the vows? At all? The statistic for the success of arranged marriage compare quite favorably with those 'love marriages'. And you find yourself in a marriage with a 'perfect man', who is a good provider, and is capable of giving you children. You are in the top 20% of marriages on the planet. Now go work on your marriage. In 10 years we will all be different people anyway. Try working on your personal growth, and in 10 years time you may be each others perfect match.
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