Questions for women who aren't virgins
Q. when and why did you decide to lose your virginity? was there a particular event which set you off or was it a logical decision? did you regret losing it the way you did or still have fond memories of it? what went really well/really bad?...
A. 18 October 2010: umm..im not fishing. that sounds indirect and nothing about this isnt direct. im looking for first timer stories because i dont typically venture here. its one of the first things i say
anyway... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair on my husband?
Q. Soon after getting married, my husband had an unfortunate incident where he became paralysed, resulting in us not being able to have a sex life. I love my husband dearly and I did not leave him. I look after him and attend to him the best way I ...
A. 17 October 2010: "What the hell is wrong with you people? Did you get married just to have sex? Is this the 1940s?"
wow..what the hell is wrong with you. sex is a big part of a relationship. not admitting that is dumb, dishonest and immature. you can take your jud... (read in full...)
What does a belly-button piercing symbolize? Advice from those under 20.
Q. I’m looking for input from the under-20 crowd here about just how piercings are perceived. My 14 year-old daughter is anxious to get one. The first negotiations were for her nose, but lately it’s been for her navel. I’m old and stodgy, and have...
A. 17 October 2010: a belly piercing is like a tattoo. sure it may turn some people on but really its not intrinsically sexual just a personal statement. nobody really consciously understands tattoos either, either you get it or you dont... (read in full...)
Pregnant and the father says there is no way we can have it!
Q. Im 20, and i have just found out im pregnant, the father wants a abortion and we arent together. I have a full time apprenticeship job, which is a really good career. But the thought of killing my baby makes me sick, the father says theres no way we ...
A. 17 October 2010: hes scared. but i think that when he holds the baby in his arms the first time, he will put that fear and every other minor thing behind him.
its your body, your health, and your life. an abortion is your choice. he should be prepared for this... (read in full...)
Attraction to my cousin, is it wrong to take it to the next level?
Q. ok so here goes... when i was a little girl i was introduced to my cousin who was a bit older than me.. i was instantly attracted to him.. as the years went by me and my first cousin wasnt particulary close but .. still when we met up at family ...
A. 17 October 2010: do it. keep it secret. get off on your forbidden love and cherish it, when your on your death bed will you really care?... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell me about this girl he turned down?
Q. my bf and i have been together for 6 years. I recently travelled and he started a new course at a new uni and made a couple friends. one of them was this girl who out of the blue told him that she likes him regardless of the fact that she knew about ...
A. 17 October 2010: well i am certainly not telling my girl now lol... (read in full...)
Wife wasn't happy about my marriage proposal, what can I do about it now?
Q. Hi there This is a question for men and women! I'm looking forward to get answers from both, male and female! I proposed my now-wife 1 1/2 years ago. She said yes, but was very disappointed by the way I asked. So I asked her a second time beca...
A. 17 October 2010: i wasnt gonna say this but somebody else did perfectly and affirmed my suspicion
"she's not with you because she loves you,she's with you because you love her." -- mizz.butterflies... (read in full...)
What are some of the negative effects that lying to one's partner can have on a relationship?
Q. Is honesty really the best policy when it comes to one's life partner? I hear people say that it's better to live with one's guilt rather than tell one's partner if there has been a one time betrayal. But wont guilt over lying eventually take a toll ...
A. 17 October 2010: but if you can bury that skeleton and not let it affect you nor ever repeat those actions again, then don't.... (read in full...)
What are some of the negative effects that lying to one's partner can have on a relationship?
Q. Is honesty really the best policy when it comes to one's life partner? I hear people say that it's better to live with one's guilt rather than tell one's partner if there has been a one time betrayal. But wont guilt over lying eventually take a toll ...
A. 17 October 2010: let me ask you something, do you really want the partial experience the rest of your relationship?
if its affecting your ability to love, its affecting your relationship. disclose to her and be prepared to accept the consequences.... (read in full...)
My past is destroying my current relationship
Q. Hello In the past I have had quite a few relationships that ended badly and im not in good terms with my ex's My last relationship ended because my girlfriend cheated on me then dumped me for her ex that she told me she hated and never told me ...
A. 17 October 2010: ven speaks the truth. shes gotta cut off her ex or you gotta ramble... (read in full...)
My new husband just found out he's the father of his ex's baby
Q. My husband and I dated for almost 2 years before recently getting married. Just a few days after the ceremony, we got a call from his crazy ex girlfriend who had never left us alone the whole time we had been together. She was saying she just had a ...
A. 17 October 2010: im only responding to a small aspect of your question
let your husband know that you're willing to try to accept this child into your life, but know that on a biological level you're going to be repelled from it. if it doesn't work, it doesn't ... (read in full...)
I lied about being sexually experienced, and now worry I will disappoint
Q. hello everyone, Ive got myself in this somewhat awkward situation. First of all im a 19 year old male, and still virgin. A few weeks ago I met this Girl and I really like her, we get along quite well. We went out for 2-3 dates and always had...
A. 17 October 2010: tell her you're a virgin. then tell her she's the prettiest thing you've ever laid your eyes on and you want to make her yours
don't force erections, that will thwart them. you physically can't get them with tension in your body. relax and let ... (read in full...)
Is it true all men want to cheat?
Q. I got in a disagreement earlier with my mom and brother that really made me upset. I won't go into how we got onto this subject, but my mom and brother were telling me that all men cheat or want to cheat, and that for me to believe otherwise is ...
A. 17 October 2010: people can't control what they're attracted to. what matters isn't if they are or not, but what they choose to do with those feelings.
if anybody tells you different, they're lying. so your mom is kind of right, on a biological instinct... (read in full...)
How can I pick myself up and stop feeling so down?
Q. How can i pick myself up and stop feeling so down? I am 21 and a half years old and I have no reason to feel unhappy, I have a great family, good friends, and a caring loving boyfriend. I have my whole life ahead of me but i find myself just f...
A. 17 October 2010: Do you have a sense of purpose in life? everything else is secondary to this
everybody has an intuitive sense of what they want their life to be. take a week, figure out what that is, and develop a plan on where you're going to be in 90 days. yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend feels my problems shouldn't affect him in any way
Q. Iv been a bit depressed lately,because my family is going through a crisis, and iv been feeling very low, my PhD work is all stacked up..i have so much to do and i dont even know where to start from, and to top it all, I have a clingy boyfriend (Im ...
A. 17 October 2010: he obviously doesn't understand that you are a person with your own needs and desires or a relationship is supposed to function like a maid for him.
break, break up, something. this isn't acceptable behavior out of him and the longer you keep bei... (read in full...)
Would him showing his friends naked pics of me be a deal breaker?
Q. I just found out my boyfriend of 2yrs showed a bunch of his friends and co-workers pictures of my breasts that he and I took during our first year of dating. I don't know at what point he showed these pictures--possibly during a big fight...or ...
A. 17 October 2010: dealbreaker. I live in a fraternity house and I don't even TELL other guys what I do with girls, let alone show them pictures. The experience is between me and my partner...anything I feel the need to reveal outside that is obv a deep internal issue... (read in full...)
Questions for women who aren't virgins
Q. when and why did you decide to lose your virginity? was there a particular event which set you off or was it a logical decision? did you regret losing it the way you did or still have fond memories of it? what went really well/really bad?...
A. 17 October 2010: thanks a lot for the responses jen and anonymous. I've had ample opportunity to cheat during our first week but I've turned everything down..im red-blooded and antsy but i will never cheat.
usually im really dominant and throw em around but ill ... (read in full...)
Questions for women who aren't virgins
Q. when and why did you decide to lose your virginity? was there a particular event which set you off or was it a logical decision? did you regret losing it the way you did or still have fond memories of it? what went really well/really bad?...
A. 16 October 2010: i feel our society has weird social conditioning about sex and that virginity is overly-hallowed (it should be hallowed but not as much as it is). it carries with it a lot of weight i dont want to deal with, and virgins generally suck (or don't..:P) ... (read in full...)
2 years later and still "Ending things" with his ex-should I be cool with this?
Q. My boyfriend of nearly 2 and a half years has recently gotten in contact with his ex girlfriend-the most recent ex. Apparently it ended badly and hurt him greatly-she called to apologize and "catch up" the other night, and then he sends her a text ...
A. 16 October 2010: listen to aunty em. she speaks truly... (read in full...)
I have lost my fiancé because I got distracted. I don't want to loose him. Please help!!!!
Q. I am living in with my boy friend since last 4 years. Last year we got engaged. When we met each other 4 years ago, we just couldn't keep our hands off each other. We were into each other. At that time we were international students. Money was bit ...
A. 16 October 2010: learning how to maintain a relationship is a skill. i dont have enough experience in life to answer your question but i will say i know couples who have never experienced boredom and monotony (50+ years). i also know couples who are in a rut who ... (read in full...)
Why has his sex drive decreased so much?
Q. I'm wondering why the sex in our relationship has fizzled. I've been with my bf for a bit over 1.5 years now, a lot of it living together. And in the beginning we'd have sex quite a bit, at least once a day, a lot of times more. And back then both ...
A. 16 October 2010: a guy should only ejaculate 2-3 times a week. any more than that over a long period of time is bad for him and sexually exhausts his body
and dont have sex before sleep at night. have it at different times of day at different places
he need... (read in full...)
How can I survive living with these "mates"?
Q. I'm currently living in halls of residence for university and already some of my flatmates are being imature. Basically, some of them think that playing pranks is funny. Especially playing with our power switches and turning bedroom lights o...
A. 16 October 2010: talk with your resident advisor/student advisor whoever. you don't have to put up with it
... (read in full...)
How can I ask this girl out?
Q. Hey Aunts and Uncles, I need some advice on how to get a date with this girl I met recently. So here's everything you might need to know in order to give me something good: We met in the university, in our psychology class, 2 weeks ago. She w...
A. 16 October 2010: ask her somewhere casual and unofficial, like a coffee shop to look over notes or something. miss a day of class and ask if she can help you
and try as hard as you possibly can not to pin all your hopes on her. see it as something that could be... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend getting married in December!
Q. Ex-boyfriend is getting married this December! I am so hurt, it's so painful that I don't know how to handle my feelings... Everything from anger to hurt to jealousy. I can't seem to get over this man, even though I meant nothing to him all these ...
A. 16 October 2010: im not sure if this is the answer you're looking for or not, but I'd say let it under your skin. let the pain have you, its ok to have it. channel it into writing, poetry or art. you can create something really beautiful and touching out of it
... (read in full...)
I feel I should help my family without a price tag attached!
Q. The other day my aunt, who is more like my mom, asked my husband and I to help her move with his truck. My husband is telling me to ask "Donna" for gas money because shes using his truck to move. he feels its common courtesy; however, I feel that I ...
A. 16 October 2010: generosity begets generosity. keeping score will make sure you lose in the end. if he doesn't know this, teach him.... (read in full...)
I'm devastated..ex no longer loves me!
Q. my ex told me she no longer loves 4 days ago, iam deverstated,iv not eaten or gone to work iv not been out of the house, and last night i was toil she has been seeing someone befor we split,all i ever done is love her i just can not stop crying, ...
A. 16 October 2010: I'm sorry you split up but STOP BEING A PUSSY. don't wallow in your self-pity. its an addictive and vicious cycle, you will never get the things or women you want in your life like that.
start eating, start working out, start talking to other gi... (read in full...)
I say g/f is hot, friends think she's not
Q. I love my Girlfriend but my friends say she's ugly. I think she's hot. How do I get my "friends" to stop?...
A. 16 October 2010: do they have gfs? guys are gonna give each other shit. you just gotta deal with it and dish it back
... (read in full...)
She's not the same girl I was dating 2 years ago
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now, and it doesn't seem like she is the same girl that I began dating so long ago. When I first met her, she had several friends, was funny, enjoyed hanging out with people and didn't necessarily ...
A. 13 October 2010: I've got a friend who is in the same situation as you. His gf used to be really outgoing, doing stuff all the time talking to all people.
Now she doesn't, and he bitches to me constantly. Or he starts and I tell him to stop bitching about this so ... (read in full...)
I'm completely insecure in my marriage
Q. My wife and I have been together for 3 years now but I keep thinking she is going to find someone better than me so I am constantly thinking about it I have gotten to the point were I am now questioning her constantly and asking a lot of questions ...
A. 13 October 2010: Choose something you like. Get really, really good at it. Devote yourself to it. I personally like the video game starcraft. When I win money from a tournament its awesome. This process of developing excellence will spill over into other areas of ... (read in full...)
I have lost my fiancé because I got distracted. I don't want to loose him. Please help!!!!
Q. I am living in with my boy friend since last 4 years. Last year we got engaged. When we met each other 4 years ago, we just couldn't keep our hands off each other. We were into each other. At that time we were international students. Money was bit ...
A. 13 October 2010: So you don't have sex with him for 2 years (ouch) and then tell him you wanted to kiss another guy. You could have saved the trouble and just yanked his balls off right there
If you need excitement, variety romance and spontaneity you communic... (read in full...)
How can I help my stressed out boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend takes a very important exam next week and he's so stressed and worried and looks awful. How can I be of some assistance to him? I say comforting things but they just don't work! I feel so powerless watching him like that!...
A. 13 October 2010: CaringGuy has good advice. I've got another angle which might or might not be applicable
go to where he lives, climb in his bed before he wakes up and either start blowing him or if he has morning wood get him inside of you. tell him its time to ... (read in full...)
There's some history, but I want to talk to him
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been single for almost ten months because I went through a hard break-up with my boyfriend. We were dating for one year and got serious. We broke up because he cheated on me several times. I have had secret and humble feeli...
A. 13 October 2010: Be a woman. Get embarrassed, frazzled, happy, excited or whatever. Do that around him and stop giving a shit what the other girls think. Since he likes slutty girls, be a little slutty for him. pull out all your stops... (read in full...)
I never wanted to love him...
Q. For a while now, I've been seeing this kind, stubborn, generous, difficult, intelligent, and hilarious man (Angelo). When I first met him, I really didn't think we'd make it far. But then, there was this instant chemistry and ease with each other ...
A. 13 October 2010: Give yourself 3 months. That's how long it takes physiologically to stop being infatuated with somebody if you still have feelings longer than that...then its something more... (read in full...)
How do I ask my friend if I could stay at her place?
Q. I'd like some advice regarding my friend. I want to go to London next week to see my favourite band, but i would need to stay overnight. i dont know london at all so i would like to stay in the hostel where my friend lives. we wouldnt be in the same ...
A. 13 October 2010: Ask her, but make it clear you aren't hinged on the outcome.
"Hey, I'm gonna be in london seeing xxx on xx date and I was wondering if I could crash in your hostel for a night. Don't worry if that can't work out, I'd still like to meet up and mayb... (read in full...)
I broke up and I regret it!
Q. A few days ago I broke up with my boyfriend. The reason why I broke up was that I didn't feel in love I didn't have that butterfly feeling. Through he was the most wonderful man I met he loved me so much and would have gave me the moon. But things ...
A. 13 October 2010: throw yourself on your hands and knees and BEG him to take you back. tell him you made a mistake, you miss him and cant stop thinking about him. let the cards fall where they may, just don't leave any regrets behind... (read in full...)
Should I just let go and be happy?
Q. Im having a hard time wtih my situation right now. For starters, he has ruined trust in the past by flirting with women on his phone and being caught in a few lies. September 24 2010 made two years of us being together. October 1st was the official ...
A. 13 October 2010: you obviously care for him a ton to feel this insecure. I'm exclusive with somebody and I still flirt with other girls on my phone. not because I'd do anything with them, just because its fun. its who I am. I've talked with my gal about it before we ... (read in full...)
I feel haunted and confused!
Q. Please, someone help me this. Months ago, I met an older man who almost forced me to have sex with him. I forgave him two weeks later...Three months later, he took my virginity. Four months after that, he calls me as often as he can, tells me he ...
A. 13 October 2010: your feelings are legit. if you can't talk about it with him or feel uncomfortable doing so talk to a professional therapist or counselor about this. and since you want to protect him don't use names or give up information they can legally act on ... (read in full...)
Am I being spun a line online?
Q. I have recently met a man via a dating site (something I am not proud of and feel rather ashamed by). We have exchanged phone numbers and emails and seem to get on pretty well. However, recently his words have got more flirtatious and ...
A. 13 October 2010: First off, ask yourself this: would you want to be with a guy who DIDN'T want you?
now honestly it sounds like this guy is spinning you a line, but thats based solely off the details you've provided. just meeting him in real life doesn't mean you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has just signed on for another six years of army
Q. My boyfriend is in the army but he wants to stay another six years in the army? Should i stay with him? I really love him but it is really hard to be an army girlfriend please help.....
A. 13 October 2010: A relationship is a two-way street. If your putting up with the army aspect was solely based off the fact that eventually you wouldn't be putting up with the army aspect then...yes, you should leave him. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is addicted to his newest compute game
Q. I have been together with my boyfriend for almost two years, and we still both care for each other very much. However, I feel like we are drifting away from each other. He is addicted to his newest computer game. He spends all of his time on it. ...
A. 13 October 2010: I'll say this: games can piss me off in a way nothing else can. when I get to that point, its not productive for me at all to play. it took me a while to recognize that. I used to be hopelessly addicted to them but I no longer have the urge to play ... (read in full...)
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