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female
age
41-50,
*oving Love
writes:Im having a hard time wtih my situation right now. For starters, he has ruined trust in the past by flirting with women on his phone and being caught in a few lies. September 24 2010 made two years of us being together. October 1st was the official day of us co-existing and living under the same roof. I have to admit, I was VERY nervous since this is my very first commited relationship being 28 years old. He is 35 and in the middle of a divorce so he had his nervousness about the move also stating he did not want to make another mistake. There was no pressure with this move, all his idea but the kind of commitment Ive been looking for from him. We still spend the same amount of time together, go out, the love making is the same, communication is the same. Everything is where it should be and I honestly have NO complaints. This is the result of a year of a VERY ROCKY situation thanks to his deceit. He was pn the "redeeming his self" movement and somehow he has done that no matter how hard I was on him or how many times ive left him. He stick around and never once made me feel like being with me is not what he wants or that he dont love me.My problem now is, his phone!! He always text when were at work mainly cause we work in seperate departments.. O yea, we work together! BUT! He is a manager and many of his clients contact him via phone. So I try ot be optimistic and give him the benefit of the doubt since that is the ONLY sign I have to him being deceiving. Not to mention, his phone is how I found out about his deception in the fist place. My question is, should I just enjoy my new life with the man that clearly shows me he tries hard to make me happy and fulfill my needs whether is affection, financial, or support and not worry about the women he commuincates with through phone since he is home EVERY night. When he's away, he is communicating with me or Im with him. But I just dont like feeling like im being deceived when I do all i can to reciprocate the love he shows me. I know men need their friends so i can let it go.. right?
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reader, whiteelephant +, writes (13 October 2010):
you obviously care for him a ton to feel this insecure. I'm exclusive with somebody and I still flirt with other girls on my phone. not because I'd do anything with them, just because its fun. its who I am. I've talked with my gal about it before we even got together though
I won't make any blanket statements about your situation but all indications say you have NOTHING to worry about
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