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writes:My boyfriend takes a very important exam next week and he's so stressed and worried and looks awful. How can I be of some assistance to him? I say comforting things but they just don't work! I feel so powerless watching him like that! Reply to this Question
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reader, whiteelephant  +, writes (13 October 2010):
CaringGuy has good advice. I've got another angle which might or might not be applicable
go to where he lives, climb in his bed before he wakes up and either start blowing him or if he has morning wood get him inside of you. tell him its time to study for the exam and that he needs to study you hard. If my girl woke me up like that I'd be thinking about it all week every time I heard the word study or exam
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 October 2010):
 I think the best thing then is to leave him alone for now. If you live together do some extra housework without commenting on it, and make sure he eats well! Then plan something nice for when he has taken his exam.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (13 October 2010):
 I agree with CaringGuy. I'd like to add that there are a few things you can do that will help. You could maybe make dinner for the two of you, or maybe offer a massage when he takes a break. All that stress is likely to make for some tense shoulders. Words won't work as he's very focused at the moment, but actions will make a difference. Even if it's something as simple as baking some cookies and bringing them over. Aside from that, just give him space. Don't be upset if he doesn't call back. Don't start drama. Just let him focus until after his exam.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 October 2010):
Ask him what you can do. The way women and men respond to stress is different. Women are happier to open up to others, and outwardly support others. Men are happier to deal with it themselves. So all you need to do is let him know you're there for him, and ask if there's anything you can do. He'll either say nothing, in which case all you need to do is be beside him and have patience, or he will say something.
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