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writes:I have recently met a man via a dating site (something I am not proud of and feel rather ashamed by). We have exchanged phone numbers and emails and seem to get on pretty well. However, recently his words have got more flirtatious and sexual. He told me tonight that he was hard and thinking about me. He wants to meet me, but I am concerned that he only wants sex. He says not, but that he just thinks I am lovely.Am I being spun a line here? Having never done internet dating, I am wary of being used. I am 27, and feel pretty naive to be asking this question. If it was real life, I dont think I would be so scared of being used. Ive just always been very sceptical of the internet, you hear of so many horror stories. Any help or advice would be great, thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks foe the responses. I think my problem is that it was from the internet. There is so much of an unknown, and I know that they would be just as unknown if I had met them in a bar.
How normal is it to talk sexual - not necesserily do it - so early into possibly dating?
Could he just be being overly flirtatious?
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reader, boogie4  +, writes (13 October 2010):
I don't think you're being spun a line, I would just be careful. You never know who's out there, and at the end of the day, he used the word "hard"...and I'm a guy, so we both know what he's thinking about LOL.
I guess it wouldn't hurt to meet him...or would it? Be easy on this one...
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reader, whiteelephant +, writes (13 October 2010):
First off, ask yourself this: would you want to be with a guy who DIDN'T want you?
now honestly it sounds like this guy is spinning you a line, but thats based solely off the details you've provided. just meeting him in real life doesn't mean you have to hook up with him.
@ online dating: a lot of people do it. most won't admit. its cheaper and more efficient than bars and partying (for guys at least lol)
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reader, Shadow_Phathom_of_the_Opera +, writes (13 October 2010):
 In short, if he really loves you, he'll take it slowly, and go on a date with you. Go somewhere in public where he can't pull that kind of stuff. Honestly, Sex on the first date, let along meeting, ends horribly.
If he loves you, he'll take it slowly with you.
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