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writes:ok so here goes... when i was a little girl i was introduced to my cousin who was a bit older than me.. i was instantly attracted to him.. as the years went by me and my first cousin wasnt particulary close but .. still when we met up at family occasions there was still this attraction... even when i was 18... i decided to tell him by text message as i was totally convinced he felt the same and yes he did and well still does im nearly 30 now and we are both done with having children would it be right or wrong to take this attraction to the next level?? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2010): Well its complicated. Me and my first cousin have been kinda best friends for the last couple years. I'm divorced and essentially we've been inseparable for the the days my kids go to their dads since. About 5 months ago, we got really drunk and had sex. It was amazing, but horribly awkward for awhile.
But truth was we couldn't stay away from each other, we decided to never do it again and would make little inside jokes between ourselves "What-it happens." The more time we spent together the more I realized it was a real and very tangible thing that was going on between us.
Eventually I couldn't stand it anymore and made a move a couple weeks ago. We've been having sex regularly since. He stays on the days I have my kids as well because they've always loved him anyway.
But complicated is that we know our family would freak out, and its hard keeping a secret or otherwise knowing its not something we can keep. I've been having crazy anxiety thinking about when we can't have eachother anymore. I don't even want to think about it.
We love eachother so much, we're perfect for eachother in EVERY way EXCEPT that 1! And its awful. I wouldn't change the fact I made a move to begin with because we deserve to experience this, its amazing on so many levels. But its attached to quite a bit of confusion and absolutely heart wrenching feelings.
Tread carefully and good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): hiya i too am in your situation i am female and my male first cousin .. we badly find each other attractive and have both spoken at great lenghths about it and we think how unfair it is that we are related cos we would be with each other in a heartbeat.. another complication is that he is in a relationship with a man .. i dont think it could get any more complicated ... lol but we havent done anything physical ....... yet
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reader, whiteelephant  +, writes (17 October 2010):
do it. keep it secret. get off on your forbidden love and cherish it, when your on your death bed will you really care?
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reader, gabbycristal +, writes (16 October 2010):
listen to your heart if you love him then go to the next level good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): Look people can say its wrong,gross.but my 3rd cousin dana and i started off REALLY close. and a couple years ago at a family reunion we had sex. it was great. he has a girlfriend now and i have a boyfriend..but everytime we see eachother its like were in love for the time were together.(but of course we gotta keep it on the low around our family)and when family is aaround we just act like cousins.its okay. just know when its appropriate & when its not
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (9 October 2010):
 I agree with Cerebrus actually...there are so many people in the world, why date your cousin? I think its only okay if your family and loved ones are okay with it...after all, it will effect them. your parents ARE SIBLINGS. I would not want my child to marry my brother's child someday, thats screwy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): thanks for your answers i appreciate it.. i just wanted peoples honest opinions and i appreciate them x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): It might be a social taboo, but legally in the U.K. you will have no problems.
Half the Royal family is inbred and, well, they seem to be doing alright.
You just have to remember that sexual relationships with 1st cousins are still illegal in a lot of Countries and as such if you two travel you will have to take that into consideration.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): Sorry, "Cerberus", I know we shouldn't argue amongst ourselves but I have to disagree with you.
In the light of modern research, it is no longer considered genetically unsafe for cousins to procreate: there is no proven greater incidences of birth defects than with unrelated couples.
Only siblings exhibit such problems, and you really wouldn't want to go there anyway, would you?
In the US, public opinion lags behind medical research, so such liaisons are still frowned upon, but in reality there is no reason why the OP shouldn't follow her heart.....
Bart.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 Yes it would be VERY wrong. You are related by blood. Sexual relationships with blood relatives are very very wrong. There is no 'next level' with your cousin. It has to end there! Find someone who isn't your relative.
I hope that helps.
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