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writes:Hey Aunts and Uncles, I need some advice on how to get a date with this girl I met recently. So here's everything you might need to know in order to give me something good:We met in the university, in our psychology class, 2 weeks ago. She was in the same group that I was when we were doing some group activity where we had to do some kind of puzzle related to the class. So when we were done, the professor told us (the group) to hand the paper back to him, so before we turned it in, I took a picture of it so I could use to study later (that was coming on the test). She saw me taking the picture, so she asked me if I could send it to her, but not VIA text message, because she can't receive pictures through her phone. So she gave me her name so I could look her up on Facebook. (Also, she gave me her phone number, I don't know why, cuz I really didn't need it if I was supposed to send the pic VIA Facebook) so I took that as a sign of interest on me.So when the class ended, we parted our separate ways, and I went to my apartment. I got on Facebook, look up her name, and there were kinda like 250 girls with her name, and I didn't know how she looked on her profile pic, so it turns out I needed her phone number. So I texted her, asking her for more specifics on how to find her. She told me to look for her on the Friends List of the group we both had joined for the Psychology class. So I went on the class's profile, looked her up on the friends list and found her. I sent a friend request. But she never accepted it.The next class,(well actually it was the 2nd class after we met, but I was absent on that first class after we had met) the day of the exam, before I could say anything to her, she turned around and faced me, and told me: "I'm so sorry about that (not getting on FB and adding me so I could send her the picture)." I told her she didn't have to apologize, and she told me she couldn't get on FB cuz she had a practice of I don't know what(I don't think she told me, I think she only said "a practice". So, I only said: "ohh, it's alright" (Its not like she did me any evil...) Then, she asked me if I had studied for the test, I said yes, she asked how much, I said "sort of a lot, I read the entire chapter twice, but I have some doubts, cuz I had been absent on the previous session. Then, to my surprise, she said: "oh so that's why I couldn't find you in the classroom!!" (I took that as another sign of interest on me) So I asked her a couple things about the stuff coming on the test, that was about to begin. So the test started, IT WAS EASY, finished it in 22 minutes, so the professor told me I could leave, and so I did.Then, we didn't see each other until the next week, on tuesday (the exam was on thursday, of the previous week). I don't think we talked at all that day, but that's because some girl on her 5th year in college was giving some speech about psychology, so we had to listen and we couldn't talk, that lasted the whole period, so we didn't get to talk. Then, 2 days later, on thursday, TODAY, the professor discussed the exam, gave out the answers and we got our grades (I got an 88/100). But it wasn't just like that, the professor had us get on groups again, and RE-DO the test, cuz she wanted to check if we didn't just memorize the whole stuff and then forgot it after the exam. The professor randomly assigned numbers to people, so the people with the same number got together and started doing the exam. SHE WAS IN MY GROUP! AGAIN! And this time, there was a bit of contact, her elbow and hand kinda touched me some times, it seemed accident, but... then again it didn't seem like accident to me. We spoke more today, nothing special, just about the exam, how we think we did, and all. Then, nothing more. The class ended and we went our separate ways again.That's all I can say on how we met and how we interacted.Now, lemme tell you more about me. I'm 5'10", 170 pounds, atheletic, dark hair, brown eyes, white skin and a nice smile. Many girls have told me I'm cute, some say I'm pretty, and others say I'm hot. BUT, I'm shy and not very talkative. A couple girls once told me that when they saw me for the first time, they were kinda scared to talk to me, because I had this serious look on me, or more like an in-expressive face, and they really had no idea what was on my mind or how I was. So, the thing is, they told me that at a moment where i had my.....normal face. That's how my face looks everyday, so I don't know if girls get scared to talk to me, or if that's a problem. But anyway, I don't think it was that much of a problem for us, we have talked. BUT, I think it has definitely affected the amount of conversation, I think we may have talked about more things, or maybe not, I don't know.The thing is, I'm pretty, or cute, or hot, whatever, and girls associate that with boys that talk a lot, or are really funny, or whatever, and it's not that I don't talk, actually I love to talk, its just that I'm not that talkative, and I'm definitely not good at starting conversations. That doesnt mean I'm not funny either, I can be funny sometimes, but I admit it's not my Forte either.So, I have her number, I have a pending friend request for her on FB, and we're gonna be seeing each other in class until january. So I want some advice on how to get a date with her, or how to start a conversation that doesn't involve psychology and to eventually take her out on a date. The thing is, I don't wanna pretend to be someone I'm not, I don't wanna pretend Im really awesome, or really intelligent (although she kinda thinks I am, cuz she got a C on her exam and I got an 88 (B+), that's what she said, without saying it lol).Finally, sorry for the wall of china of text. Please help me!!!
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reader, whiteelephant  +, writes (16 October 2010):
ask her somewhere casual and unofficial, like a coffee shop to look over notes or something. miss a day of class and ask if she can help you
and try as hard as you possibly can not to pin all your hopes on her. see it as something that could be fun but you can live without
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reader, elisabeth027 +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Grab her as you guys walk out of the class and ask to have a "study session" even though its going to be on the topic of psychology maybe that will make you more comfortable around her. If the study session goes well, afterwards ask her if she would like to have some coffee or something to eat. Talk to her about stuff other than psychology at this time. As to starting a conversation with her, I'm sorry I don't have an answer to that, I'm kind of stuck there myself. I do however wish you good luck!
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