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writes:Please, someone help me this. Months ago, I met an older man who almost forced me to have sex with him. I forgave him two weeks later...Three months later, he took my virginity. Four months after that, he calls me as often as he can, tells me he misses me all the time, and basically, everything's fine...We go without sex, he always wants me to just sleep beside him and never makes a move. We joke around and talk a lot...but never about what happened. Lately, it's been plaguing me though. I feel like I love him, but when the feeling comes, that thought beats it down and I feel stupid and weak. I feel like he wants me to love him...and like he loves me...But I'm terribly haunted and confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): hii...
ohh, boyy...this guy seems to me like he's bad news. if i was in your shoes, i think i would run. buuut really, this is a decision that nobody else can make but you. after all, no one knows what's better for you more than you do. my personal advice to you, however, is to trust your instincts. and re-read the last couple lines of sexlessintheuk's post. she made a good point. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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reader, falible  +, writes (13 October 2010):
do you mean he tried to rape you or he made you feel like you had to have sex with him? and what stopped him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): Whats an "older man"?
25, 25, 26? Or 40, 45, 50, 55 etc.?
How old is he?
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reader, whiteelephant +, writes (13 October 2010):
your feelings are legit. if you can't talk about it with him or feel uncomfortable doing so talk to a professional therapist or counselor about this. and since you want to protect him don't use names or give up information they can legally act on (but it doesnt sound like theres any). make the counselor aware that you won't talk to him about it unless its like that, they'll acquiesce. they will help you make sense of the situation
some things should be buried. this isn't one of them
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): My advice would be tell your parents, the police and don't EVER talk to him again! This guy is a bad person! I am only 13, but this is something everyone SHOULD do!!! DO THIS IMMEDIATELY!!!!
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