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Name - Tom Wilkinson
Age - 27 DOB - 11/08/1987
Location - County Durham - UK (near Newcastle)
Occupation - Currently Unemployed
Background - Single parent, previous experience working with Carers, people with Special Needs and generally being the person people talk to! According to my ratings, you either love or hate my advice, suggesting that (and I agree) at times I can be rather direct / blunt.
I also suffer from insomnia so don't be alarmed if I post at seemingly bizarre times.
Interests - Football (SAFC fan), playing guitar, listening to all sorts of music, watching DVDs, mainly comedy (especially stand up) and horror and action, going out with mates
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Is it too late to send a gift to a friend who helped me in a bad time?
Q. i recently got a divorce and don't have alot of friends but one of my friends here offered me to stay with her. i lived with her for a month crying and moaning about everything but did not even get anything for her, just a card and i feel really bad ...
A. 30 October 2012: As previously said, a nice gesture is never too late and always appreciated! ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting? Can I forgive him?
Q. My boyfriend and I had a rough start to our relationship. We started out rocky...but we did dated and we've been together for 2 months (6 months prior online). I wasnt really honest with him, I was a virgin and we both had sex (he was a virgin...
A. 30 October 2012: From what you're saying, it sounds a lot like he felt as if you wouldn't be satisfied with you and these communications with the gamer girl were merely an attempt to make himself seem a little more... desirable? (I'm questioning myself, not sure of ... (read in full...)
Just when I thought I was over her, the feelings have returned with a vengeance! How can I let her go for good?
Q. Hi there, I am in a bit of an odd situation here... So, many years ago back in 10th grade, I met a girl, and fell hopelessly in love with her. I thought about her every single day. She was perfect to me, and I connected with her on an intellectu...
A. 30 October 2012: Irrespective of sex / sexuality, this is typical "one that got away syndrome", I and I imagine the vast majority of people have felt this about someone, months and years after we thought we'd forgotten about those feelings. Therefore, it's ... (read in full...)
Its been 5 days and he has not contacted me. Any ideas why?
Q. I went for a drink with an acquaintance last Wednesday night. I wasn't sure if it was a date or not as we were sort-of-friends, but we didn't know each other very well, nor had we ever spent any time along together -- anyway, we had a really good ...
A. 30 October 2012: This is a tricky one, as it very much depends on the nature of the guy.
If you were to overly simplify things, he's one of 2 things:
1) Quite shy about the whole thing due to the nature of the conversation and see's you as the dominant person ... (read in full...)
After all this time I still can't get over my wife's deceit and betrayal..help!
Q. I am in a real mess and am extremely in distress. I hope I will get some help from here. Phase 2: Aster, marriage, kids and all other staff. Here is my story. I married my girlfriend of four years; only to find out she was unfaithful and l...
A. 30 October 2012: Unfortunately, the only person who can answer the question, "what do I do?", is you. The pain of being deceived or wronged, be it lover, family or friend will always hurt, it depends entirely on your own personality what will work best.
The f... (read in full...)
Is she playing hard to get? Or she's just not interested?
Q. Ok so here's my question... At the beginning of this academic year at uni, when we had our introduction party, I met this girl. I saw eying me from across the room a few times and after a while I decided to join the conversation she was having. ...
A. 30 October 2012: If in doubt, ask!
I used to be cripplingly shy and that doesn't get anyone anywhere. Even just asking if she has had thoughts about girls is a relatively innocent question, but if there is interest you'll be able to tell from her answer.
Wher... (read in full...)
WHere did I go wrong with my bf for him to diss me like this?
Q. this is long.. but i really just want to know WHAT HAPPENED!!??!! I know i need to move on, and forgive myself.. but i just dont get WHY this person wont just admit what he did. I was with this guy for 4 years.. on and off. Off is when he would be...
A. 30 October 2012: To be blunt, he sounds like a bit of an arse.
The oldest trick in the book of being a bloke, is treat them like crap until they get rid of you. It sounds like he wants out, but doesn't want to be the one to end it.
Quite frankly, it soun... (read in full...)
If your 15 year old daughter had a boyfriend, how would you react?
Q. Okay, so i am 15, and i want to tell my mom about my boyfriend. If your daughter came to you and told you this, how would you react? How would you want to be told?...
A. 30 October 2012: When I was 15 my parents had a golden rule, "if you can't be good, be careful".
I understand that generally America seems to be a lot more Conservative than us here in the UK and most of Europe, but having a boyfriend at 15 is completely normal. ... (read in full...)
Does my internet boyfriend really love me?
Q. Does my internet boyfriend really love me? I know I'm doubting him. We've been going out for almost 2months now. He's 15 and I'm 13 1/2. I tell him I'm not good enough for him, and he responds with hearts (3) and says stuff like "You're the ...
A. 30 October 2012: I don't intend for this to sound callous, but even if you were "real life" boyfriend and girlfriend, at your age, the odds are very very slim that you really love each other.
Raging hormones and infatuation are always confused for love during p... (read in full...)
Is 5 sex partners by age 21 ok?
Q. Hi. I am curious whether it is ok/normal for a 21 year old boy to have slept with 5 girls. I am a 20 year old virgin and my boyfriend admitted he slept with 5 girls previously. I shouldn't have asked about his past, but I was curious and didn't want ...
A. 30 October 2012: 5 girls at 17 is reasonable here in the UK, so considering he's been to University, where even the "late bloomers" over here have "fun", I certainly wouldn't worry about it. I'd be glad he was honest more than anything, that's way more important ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend say "I love you" to me in person?
Q. my boyfriend said he loved me only two months into the relationship over a message. He then said it over the phone and then said it a few times in person. Now he doesn't say it in person but only over messages. Before when I used to leave him in ...
A. 30 October 2012: As it's still early days in the relationship I wouldn't worry too much about this. I'm the kind of person who has a terrible habit for falling in love with the wrong person, to quickly. As a result, I've stopped myself from saying it, no matter how ... (read in full...)
How do I ask out an older guy?
Q. there's a guy at work who i have really started to develop feelings for, we work together every week and have started to have a little bit of banter with each other, but i can't tell if he's flirting or just acting how he does with everyone else. i ...
A. 30 October 2012: Ask him out in exactly the same way you would anyone else, with being in the UK I'll assume you're already going out on a weekend like we all were!
Keep it cool and friendly, just give him your number, ask if he want's to go for some food, a ... (read in full...)
How to fall out of love with best friend?
Q. Long story short; two years ago, I made the classic mistake of falling for a guy who I was in a "friends-with-benefits" situation with. I was a completely innocent, naive sixteen year old, and he was eighteen and pretty experienced. I'd love to ...
A. 30 October 2012: When I was around the same age I had a similar problem, I worshipped my "best friend" and wanted nothing more than for us to be together. When we did have a friends with benefits situation, it was fun, but was never going to work as it's incredibly ... (read in full...)
Does one's body change after losing their virginity?
Q. I was just wondering...Does your body change after you lose your virginity? If so what changes??? My mom told me that when girls lose their virginity that their butts start to get wider..is this true???...
A. 8 February 2008: Your mum said that to stop you having sex :D :D :D... (read in full...)
I am 17 year old boy and currently I am considering having surgery to get my flabs taken out, and am wondering will it leave a big scar on my stomach?
Q. dear cupid I am 17 year old boy and currently I am considering having surgery to get my flabs taken out, and am wondering will it leave a big scar on my stomach? I do not see any other way of getting rid of it as i lost all my fat and thought t...
A. 6 February 2008: From what I gahter, you have already lost the weight and so now all that is there is loose skin? There may well be scarring if you go ahead with surgery, you just have to decide whether you would be happier with "flabs" or scarring, that'll make ... (read in full...)
Could my cousin be bi and have feelings for me??
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and I need people's advice. I think my 17-year old cousin is bi or someting or maybe she has feelings for me. Whenever I sign on msn she always clicks me and says hey or hi. What do you think?...
A. 6 February 2008: I say hello to 50 people a day, it doesn't mean I'm attracted to them!... (read in full...)
How can a tall person have intimacy with a short one, without major... inconveniences?
Q. dear cupid i will try and rephrase this as much as possible, basically my question is how can a tall person have intimate sex with a short person, and lets say the Mr X height is 5"10 and Mrs X is 5"1 wont that suffocate the girls face when on t...
A. 5 February 2008: I'm 6 foot 2 and my girl is 5 foot 3, you'll be fine mate =)... (read in full...)
I'm 17 & he's 43, is that legal?
Q. im nearly 17 and he is 43 weve been together nearly a year at first i lied about my age but now he knows the truth he still loves me , but is what were doing legal?...
A. 5 February 2008: Yes it's legal, as long as you were 16 when you first started, however, it doesn't make it right. Youy have to think, when you're 25 do you really wanna be with a 51 year old? What if you have kids? The odds are their dad will be dead by the time ... (read in full...)
She will not stop being friends with a male friend I dislike... is her love not as much as mine is for her?
Q. why is my gf acting this way. we've been dating for a year now...silly things wants her to stop the relationship. i love her to death and she's the only girl i want cannot imagine my life without her. it happened like 5 times she want to put an ...
A. 5 February 2008: She has this behaviour because as much as you dislike it, it isn't your place to tell her who she can and can't be friends with. I've been through this myself, but the other way round. She didn't like my friend and I kept refusing to end the ... (read in full...)
Concerned about my penis size and the effects of masturbation!
Q. I am from Hyderabad , India aged 27 years unmarried guy. I have a problem. I am masturbating since 7 years ago on an average 4 times a week from the age of 21. now i feel my penis became narrow in the base and the penis size is drastically reduc...
A. 5 February 2008: Masturbation does not affect the size of your penis... (read in full...)
He's going on Holiday, but says we can have "Phone Sex". What IS Phone Sex?
Q. My bf is going on holiday with his family soon and im gonna miss him like crazy. He said he doesnt really want to go but all his family are going and he doesnt want to course trouble (they get along really well). The other day he said that he wil...
A. 4 February 2008: he just means talk dirty to each other over the phone... (read in full...)
How do you give a hand job to an uncircumsized penis?
Q. this is quite a personal question but i am really desperate to have it answered so i hope someone will be able to. when you give a guy who is uncircumsized a hand job, do you just do it over their foreskin or do you roll the foreskin back or...
A. 4 February 2008: its not painful at all, just do what you would do with a circumcised penis =)... (read in full...)
She has a vibrator, and didnt tell me! Why?
Q. Ladies, In your experience, why might a woman purchase a vibrator without telling her spouse?. And why wouldn't she want him to know she has one? ...
A. 4 February 2008: she could just be embarassed to tell you ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and she's 17... Is this okay?
Q. hi ppl i think im in love with a 17 yr old and im 21. do you reckon that its an ok thing or is it too much of a gap for anything to work. its been built on friendship and we've just got closer and closer. please help thanks...
A. 4 February 2008: It's exactly the same ages me and my girlfriend are =)... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want sex when he comes near me?
Q. I am 46 and just met this man 64. We gets on well and have been together for 6 months now. We have sex 3 or 4 times a week. I really enjoy it. We dont live together and just see each other 3 times a week. And recently he starts to complain I am ...
A. 31 January 2008: It's perfectly normal, maybe it's just that his libido isn't quite what it used to be!... (read in full...)
On facebook I said another girl is more attractive than my girlfriend, now she's dumped me, how can I get her to forgive me?
Q. Hi, i need a lot of help... About 9 months ago something happened on facebook between me and one of my friends. He told me this one girl was hotter than my girlfriend and i replied yes. It had not occured to me that it would lead me to this ...
A. 31 January 2008: A lot of you are being a little too harsh here... from what I gather, he said the other girl was more attractive, BEFORE they started seeing each other. She's being overly sensitive over something that happened in the past, if she actually wanted to ... (read in full...)
He bores me, I want to break up. How can I do it gently?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of two years. He is a very sweet, but dull person. Sounds harsh, but there's no spark there. I can't chat with him like with my friends. I don't love him or fancy him anymore. I really want to be single because I ...
A. 30 January 2008: Ignore the last poster, no-one deserves to be "dumped" by a letter, we aren't 11 years old here.
The only thing I personally can think of is the one that you probably don't want to hear and know yourself is the right thing to do. You just have to ... (read in full...)
Looking for men who have been cheated on but worked it out????
Q. Is there any male out there who was cheated on, but managed to work out your relationship? I'd love to talk to you about what happened....
A. 30 January 2008: So your question is essentially... "I cheated and want things to work out still" personally I'd chuck you without a second thought. I've been cheated on and thought that we could work things out but instead it just bred bitterness and hatred ... (read in full...)
Are guys immediately turned off by a slightly overweight girl??
Q. I am in college and have always struggled with my weight somewhat but I've never been overweight to the point of being unhealthy. I have always been a very active person and I love to play sports. I am 19, 5'5.5" and I weigh 175 pounds but i have ...
A. 29 January 2008: The only people who think like that aren't even worth the trouble. True attraction comes from how you see that person for who they are, and you can be any size as well as very attractive (Dawn French for example is really attractive I think but ... (read in full...)
I'm 16, I'm LATE, told my boyfriend, he's being mean,help me!
Q. Hey I'm 16. Me and my b/f have been together for almost 2 yrs. Well we've had sex quite a few times... we're each others 1st and only. We use a condom everytime... but I haven't had my period yet, and since I told him I was late, hes been mean to ...
A. 29 January 2008: He's being mean, I imagine, because he's scared, which is only to be expected! Try talking to him and make sure he understands that this doesn't mean for a fact you're pregnant... (read in full...)
How do you know if you're gay?
Q. Okay, so I don't know if I'm gay, straight, or bi. My first pornographic experience was near 5th grade, and I sorta got hooked since. I've been looking at boys from time to time, and I even thought some of the boys in my school were cute as I grew ...
A. 29 January 2008: Anyone can look at members of the same sex and think they're attractive, it's perfectly normal. You're only gay if you actually want to have sex with other men as opposed to women. If you want to have sex with both, you're A bisexual and B double ... (read in full...)
How can I get sex?
Q. I'm a 15 year old boy who needs sex, and I don't know how to get it. Any Suggestions?...
A. 29 January 2008: Well for a start the "I need sex right now" attitude isn't gonna get you anywhere... unless you're okay with spending another night with PALMela HANDerson......
Try, oh I don't know, talking to a girl, getting to know her, actually liking her and ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. How can I get a boyfriend?
Q. I really need help. I've never had sex, I'm at the age of 23, and never really had a bf. Well, I kind of did, but it lasted only 2 weeks and he split with me. He was 34 and had loads of relationships. I never told him that I was a virgin.(I wish i ...
A. 28 January 2008: the key, is confidence. It's sexier than any supermodel.... (read in full...)
Should I do it for him or stick to my principles?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now and suddenly he wants a threesome. Its been talked about before but never this seriously. Ive been involved in one (MMF) in my single days and he says that it bothers him that ive ...
A. 23 January 2008: hahaha peoriaman that is genius
If you don't want to do it, don't do it! Simple as that! If you told him you wanted to place a large vegetable about his anatomy do you think he'd let you just cos that's what you want? ... (read in full...)
My b/f took an ex home for the night. Am I being unreasonable?
Q. My boyfriend took an ex girlfriend home to his place last Saturday night after the pub she claimed to be hassled by some other bloke and asked could she go back to his for a while they chatted apparently then she asked if she could crash, he told h...
A. 23 January 2008: I think you are being a little unreasonable. For a start, he told you, that straight away suggests he has nothing to hide.
Also, I have let an ex stay over when she was locked out of her house, and although my girlfriend at the time initial ... (read in full...)
Please help! Could I be pregnant?? - from pre-ejaculation.
Q. Is it possible that i could be pregnant? My boyfrriend had pre ejacualtion on his fingers and i believe that it got into contact with my 'down below'* could this mean that i'm pregnant? I got my period 2 weeks after if happened, but it only la...
A. 23 January 2008: 2 of these posters are wrong, it is still possible to have your period while pregnant, however, there is very little chance that you are. As they said, try and relax and not worry too much, you'll see next month =)... (read in full...)
Any polite way to tell a friend she should not post semi-nude photos in the Internet?
Q. Is there any polite way to tell a friend that she shouldn't be posting pictures of herself, 53, in Lingerie on her facebook page?...
A. 22 January 2008: surely it's her choice? IF that's the kind of attention she's after then you can't tell her what to do. ... (read in full...)
He won't take his shirt off during sex!
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and he has never taken his shirt off during sex. I've known him for 10 years, and we have been off and on since then. These past 2 years have been solid, and we're even talking about marriage. ...
A. 21 January 2008: or... he has "barbara" tattooed somewhere....... (read in full...)
Is it weired to call your Baby, the same name as your EX.
Q. Hi! I was just wondering-- my boyfriend and I are having a baby boy due this March, and my absolute favorite name that i have picked out just happens to be the name of this guy i used to hook up with... i want that name so bad but it's kind of ...
A. 18 January 2008: It's not wrong in the slightest bit, if you like a name you like a name! I've always said I'd call my daughter Georgina, it just so happened that it's my girlfriend at the minutes name! xx... (read in full...)
Wetness, is it normal?
Q. ok quick question! is it normal to get wet when a guy touches me? and its not even in a sexual way. i think this is the reason i am still a virgin cause i am embarrassed about this!! please someone answer this "silly" question! thanks too!!...
A. 17 January 2008: It's perfectly normal, even if the touching isn't "sexual" it's just you getting turned on and preparing for sex.... (read in full...)
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