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writes:My boyfriend and I had a rough start to our relationship. We started out rocky...but we did dated and we've been together for 2 months (6 months prior online). I wasnt really honest with him, I was a virgin and we both had sex (he was a virgin too). We lost our virginity to each other, but he didnt know I was one. He kind of assumed I was s^^t and experienced. He's so stupid. I really care for him and he is my first, but he has really hurt me. He's a huge gamer, so he has this one crush on a gamer girl (high school girl) and he's 27. I am 22. I felt hurt, because after I would spend a evening at his place and show him my love (we would have sex), I would leave and he would immediately log on to send that gamer girl a message. Or log-on to his dating profile. I know he thought I was experienced, but he's so stupid.He was my first. I felt so sad after sex that everytime I went home, I just cried. I felt so unappreciated. I felt like even though I was the girl giving him body and love, all that time he was just thinking of was that gamer girl. I couldn't forgive him. So he got sick, we didnt see each other for weeks and finally, I told him he was my first.After I told him, he started texting me more (he use to only text me once a week) and started being more sweet. But I felt so used. I felt like he took me for granted. He NEVER should have done that. And I hated that he liked that gamer girl. Am I over-reacting? What do I do? Should I forgive him for being so stupid? Did he realize he was wrong? Was he just using me? He was sweet to me during our dates and he did spend money on me and took me out to movies, restaurants, and improv shows, but I still feel like he took me for granted. He is a good guy but I dont know if I can forgive him. Please help.
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reader, TomWilkinson  +, writes (30 October 2012):
 From what you're saying, it sounds a lot like he felt as if you wouldn't be satisfied with you and these communications with the gamer girl were merely an attempt to make himself seem a little more... desirable? (I'm questioning myself, not sure of my wording).
Since you admitted you were very much on a level with him, he's relaxed and became a lot more affable, that's a good sign. It sounds like he's into you, but was worried that he couldn't live up to expectations that he believed you may have had due to being more experienced.
Simple answer, talk to him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): You were also not honest and did not tell him you were a virgin. I would give the relationship another shot only if its exclusive, means he has to give up the gamer. You dont want to have regrets unless you know in your heart , he is not the love and the man for you.
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