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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I went for a drink with an acquaintance last Wednesday night. I wasn't sure if it was a date or not as we were sort-of-friends, but we didn't know each other very well, nor had we ever spent any time along together -- anyway, we had a really good time, he told me how excited he'd been to meet me and over the duration of our "date" we planned stuff we should do in the future i.e. movie nights, gallery visits, studying together. We ended up drinking a fair amount and I said some quite inappropriate things for a first date, but he didn't seem to mind at all and joined in with the inappropriate-ness.Anyway, we kissed at the end of the night and he promised me he'd be in touch to arrange another "date"... or whatever. Now it's 5 days after and he hasn't been in touch at all, not even to say he enjoyed himself or even to say "go away". It doesn't seem like him because he kept saying over the course of the night how he's ashamed to be associated with the male race sometimes because they always leave girls hanging. Then again, we did have a chat about how unattractive keenness is and how it's fun to go away for a while and think about someone then come back. (lol regretting saying that now I'm pulling my hair out!)Why hasn't he got in touch? Do you think I scared him off, and he's not going to get in touch? He seemed to be enjoying himself and we got on really well but 5 days is a long time. We're going to be seeing each other around uni, too, so I'm even more surprised he hasn't got in touch just to make it not awkward.Also, just to clarify - I definitely left the ball in his court. I was adamant at the end of the night about "him getting in touch"... so much so that even in my drunken (ish) state I deleted his number.Then again, he did ask me out the first time... still though!
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reader, TomWilkinson +, writes (30 October 2012):
 This is a tricky one, as it very much depends on the nature of the guy.
If you were to overly simplify things, he's one of 2 things:
1) Quite shy about the whole thing due to the nature of the conversation and see's you as the dominant person and is therefore awaiting you to text / call to confirm your interest.
2) Not interested and was being polite while actually with you.
My advice would have been to quite simply text him, even with a simple "Hi, how are you?", but unfortunately that isn't possible!
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