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writes: Ok so here's my question...At the beginning of this academic year at uni, when we had our introduction party, I met this girl. I saw eying me from across the room a few times and after a while I decided to join the conversation she was having. We ended up talking all evening, had a really nice conversation and left the party at the same time and travelled home together. Not that we spent the night or anything, we just travelled together. Since then, we've been talking regularly, mostly over email but I see her around sometimes as well.Everytime we speak, whether it is email or in person, there's some kind of awkwardness. She stares at me when I'm not looking but I can see her from the corner of my eye, she takes every opportunity to come closer to me, sometimes (accidentally?) touches my hand, laughs about what I say, asks rather personal questions etcetera. When we email, generally she responds within an hours time, but sometimes she stops responding. Whenever I email her again, though, she'll respond within the hour again and always asks questions, inviting me to respond again. I do not know whether she's into girls at all, I know she recently broke up with a guy but it wouldn't surprise me if she could fall for girls as well - intuition maybe, or giving myself false hope.. I'm definitely interested, I don't make a point of making her notice that because we're not that long into talking - but I'm not sure if I'm approaching this the right way. Since she sometimes stops responding, I tend to think she doesn't want to talk to me anymore. But then in her answers, she does indicate that she wants to continue talking. When I see her there's definitely some kind of tension, but I cannot tell of course if that's just in my head.Does this sound as if she's maybe playing hard to get - perhaps because she just got out of a relationship? Or does it seem like she's just not that interested and being friendly, pretending to want to talk to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2012): Well I used to play 'hard to get with this guy' and I did the exact samething lol..in between a convo I would just stop replying,he would text again and then I start replying again lol..
Ok so listen first off you need to tell her your bisexual or lesbian whatever u are and see the way she responds to it..talk to her some more and then you can casually ask'has she ever dated a girl' based on her respsone u can tell if she would sway to women..
Good luck x
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reader, TomWilkinson  +, writes (30 October 2012):
 If in doubt, ask!
I used to be cripplingly shy and that doesn't get anyone anywhere. Even just asking if she has had thoughts about girls is a relatively innocent question, but if there is interest you'll be able to tell from her answer.
Where I come from there's a very true saying, "shy bairns get nowt".
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (29 October 2012):
 Hi,
My first thought is I'm not sure either way. The thing that struck me here though is her relationship loss. Perhaps she just needs a "friend" that she can talk to. I think you should just continue chatting and see if things develop. The fact that she looks at you is obviously a good sign. If you can, try not to "count" her responses. Just keep up the contact.
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reader, psychic fiona  +, writes (29 October 2012):
 it sounds like shes fishing you out because she likes asking alot of questions, and she wants to know more about you. and also it looks like she is in no hurry to make a move so leave things be and she will make the first move. she likes you but she also needs to get to know you better.
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