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writes:Has anybody ever had to deal with a situation like this, i'm sure it's happened many times but I don't know how to react or what i should do or say when i see him...There's this guy who I was dating for nearly 6 months, a long time! He's not my boyfriend, so please don't think of it as we were together officially.. Anyways, about two weeks ago he just stopped all contact with me and i haven't seen or spoken to him since, i don't know why? He seemed fine with me, in fact really happy and affectionate when we were together so i can't figure out what happened that he's not made any effort to talk to me. At first i thought maybe he was busy, but it's unusual that two weeks later and there wasn't even one minute he had to say anything really!? I saw him when i went into town the other day, he didn't see me i just happened to see him come out of a shop from a distance. So i know he's still alright and going about his life.Anyways point is, my friend told me he's going to be at this club Saturday night for this promo event. The club isn't big at all so we're bound to see each other, that's what the problem is. I don't know how to react when i see him, do i ignore him and just carry on about my night... do i talk to him like normal and not bring up what happened so he doesn't think it's bothered me... or do i ask about it? What do I do! My friends said that there's no point bringing it up and caring so much about a guy who clearly doesn't care about me, that I should go about my night and if i have to talk to him I should just talk to him, but like i don't care that he's ignored me and basically ended things with us in cowardly and dickhead way... what would you guys do? Reply to this Question
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reader, R1  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 I agree with your friends try not to let it bother you and definitely ignore him when you are out. He would need a good explanation if he suddenly tried to speak to you after this. Go out have fun with your friends and don't let him see your upset.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (25 January 2013):
 Is there any chance someone has been telling him lies about you? It seems odd that he would vanish with no explanation.
If you see him, I'd say something like, "I don't know what happened for you to cut off contact, it feels very rude and upsetting. I'm really disappointed that you weren't brave enough to be honest. That's all I've got to say to you. Goodbye."
You were 'FWB' without actually being friends, is that the initial situation?
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (25 January 2013):
 Hi,
Well it's terrible behaviour from him to just start ignoring you and not call. Especially after dating. Awful.
Although I don't necessarily believe in stopping my self from doing things because of other people etc. I would consider just not going to this. Purely from a point of having this just happen to you. Two weeks is a little bit soon to meet him with your disappointment and frustration at him. I suggest just staying away for this time.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 January 2013):
 Either find somewhere else to go and have a good time, OR if you choose to go to the club, don't go out of your way to speak to him.
IF he speaks to you, just be polite, but cold. i.e., acknowledge him with a nod, and no smile. Then turn away and talk to others or watch the event. That's all he deserves at this point.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 January 2013):
 Sounds like you guys were FWB and he's done. Maybe he met someone else. Are you going to be ok if he shows up Saturday with a date? I think if it was me my head would explode so early out after being dumped by a guy who was using me that I cared about. I might even NOT go.
he was a dog to not tell you he was done with you....
I would not go out of my way to say hi to him but it you bump into him, be civil and friendly.
Assume he will avoid you. Do not watch him. Do not look for him. Do not ignore him if he says hi.
remember living well is the best revenge.
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