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36-40,
*uza2k3
writes:Hi,My ex- girlfriend that broke up our four year relationship would be celebrating her birthday in some days time. The fact is 4 months ago she broke up with me and recently she's been finding different means and tactics to get us talking, she started by sending SMS's that she misses me, but I ignored all and never replied her in any. In some days time she'll be celebrating her first birthday in 4years without me. I don't want to send her any birthday message in other not to create any avenue for communications. She also did something like this four months ago,when my birthday fell within the week I was trying to win her heart back to me, to my surprise she didn't call or sms me on my birthday ,because she thought it was irrelevant for someone she doesn't love anymore. I don't want to send her any birthday message, I know her conscience is hitting her right now, but am confused .
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reader, mkateko  +, writes (25 June 2013):
 hi guza2k3, brother you deserves the best, she is the one dumped you just forget about her and move on with your life, do not send her any birthday wish, not at all. Block here on social media and delete all kinds of contact you has with her.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 June 2013):
 I agree with SVC
Block her, delete her, ignore her and move on.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 Hi,
You do not need to do anything. You have ignored her since, so carry on doing so. You can block her and change your numbers if needed. You have the decision whether to do this or not. If you are finished with her then stay finished and don't ever respond. thanks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 June 2013):
 she's an ex why do you have ANY contact with her?
delete her phone info, block her on social media.
you don't want to send a message... don't do it.
why do you care what an ex thinks anyway?
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reader, guza2k3 +, writes (24 June 2013):
guza2k3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the post and advice.,they says ; what goes around comes around. i always pity her almost everyday, but she never pitied me when she broke my heart.
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reader, sugarplum786 +, writes (24 June 2013):
 She was cold and heartless when she dumped you. There is no need for you to respond to her messages and also its best not sending her a birthday wish. If she is having regrets its because she thought the grass was greener on the other side. You deserve better, move on.
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (24 June 2013):
 I'm with Cindy on this. There is no need for you to wish her a happy birthday or reply to any of her messages. You are doing the right thing by staying strong and ignoring her. I've seen several of your posts about her and it just sounds like she's regretting breaking your heart. Well, that is not your responsibility in any way. Let it be a bitter lesson for her to learn.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 You don't want to send her birthday wishes - so do not send her birtday wishes. She did not send you wishes on your birthday , you can do exactly the same. Where's the problem ?
In you are worrying about etiquette ( ... anyway a fresh break up and still raw feelings would allow for certain breaches of etiquette if necessary )... you are covered on that count too. An ex is an EX, there's no obligation for exchanges of plesantries. IF the persons choose to stay friendly, they can do that , but it's a personal choice, not a general social obligation. Therefore, if you have chosen instead to go no contact, - then STAY no contact and don't play along with her games.
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