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female
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anonymous
writes:Do i stay with him or not?He cheated on me a month ago,i was angry and could not believe that he would cheat on me.When he was not working i use to take care of him, he used my car to go see the other lady.when i ask him why did he cheat, his answer was, i was not suppose to know.I asked him to call the lady and tel her he does not love her, he could not, till today i dont know whether they seeing each other or not.He promised to be a better man,but i'm still having some doubts about him.This is so painfull for me i'm always thinking about what he did to me. he want me to forget and be 100% fine , but what he does not understand is i'm not healed yet.Since then we always fight about petty things. i'm not happy all the time and i think this is killing my relatioship(of ten years).what do i do to forget and be happy again.
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reader, Tine  +, writes (14 December 2010):
 if you are still having doubts give him an ultimatum, either phone this girl and tell her that he doesn't love her or get out and never come back.
trust is a hard gain once it has been broken, so i don't blame you in the slightest for feeling this way. you have every right to stil be angry at him, after his excuse i think any woman would be. However you need to think to yourself,is this relationship worth fighting for? can u see a way past this??
if your answer is no then i suggest you end it and move on, otherwise you will never be able or willing to gain his trust again. If the answer is yes then i think you need t lay down a few ground rules before you go any further..
what exactly you want him to do in this relationship to prove to you that he is worthy of your love. if he is willing to do as you say then by all means, try to work it out. If he says no however then you deserve better.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (14 December 2010):
 Leave this man!
He does not value your relationship or you.
By staying with him, you are essentialy saying that he can cheat on you whenever he wants and you will stick by him.
It sounds like you have a lot invested in this relationship, but do you want to sacrifice your happiness and self respect for the sake of an unfaithful unloving man?
Don't spend one more minute looking after a man who doesn't love you.
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