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Ex admitted he cheated but instead of bringing closure it hurts even more!

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Question - (9 December 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 9 December 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *udrey21 writes:

Its been a month since i heard from my ex he contacted me last nite. The last time we spoke it ended very badly because i messeged a girl i assumed he slept with on his recent holiday! He had just spent a month with me and my family we had a silly argument and agred to talk when he was back. Instead he came back and broke up with me! I had a feeling he had slept with this girl all along after i messeged her he went crazy and was so hurtfull to me. Its been a month with no contact ive been heartbroken but im moving on slowly. Now he has contacted me after a mutal friend told him i was down he admitted he did sleep with that girl, apologized for all that was said, admitted he is a **** and said that he thinks about me everyday and doesnt want anything or expect me to understand!!!!!! What the hell!!! Cant believe his audacity! This should bring closure but has hurt me more!!!! Advice comments and views needed please!

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A female reader, Tine United Kingdom +, writes (9 December 2010):

Tine agony auntit's only been a month from you broke up so the feelings are still really raw. And to have someone betray you, is bad enough without them denying it and making you think that your in the wrong for accusing them is even worse.

He knew formt he very start that you were right in what you were saying, and maybe he thought time would be a healer adn stay away from you for a month before the truth came out. But it has backfired on him he has obviously lost someone who cared about him so much. It's his loss..

i would move on from him, cut all contact altogether you've lasted this long without hearing from him, it just shows that you can go on further. Move on and find someone who is going to love you and respect u enough not to cheat on you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010):

Well the fact is he did sleep with the girl, then deny it, then contact you to say sorry. He knows he's behaved badly. But it can't be undone. It will not bring you closure. You need to do that for yourself. Best bet would be just to say 'actually I'm better than this. You had your chance and you blew it'. Would you ever trust him again? Dignity and self respect count for a lot. Find someone new.

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