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writes:2 days ago me and my ex (who lives 200 miles away) spent 4 hours on the phone chatting and I brought up the fact I want him back but he told me he had a gf. He told me he loved me but don't want to break this girls heart because he be no better than his dad ( huge cheater and left my exs mum after he was born). I agreed to back off but told him to think of me we texted each other for a while after and it seemed he wants me back if he was single. Yesterday before I started work at 6am he sent me a picture of his penis which I just laughed off but worried all he wants is sex. Now he not contacted me since I'm so confused about it all. I'm gonna right a letter about how I feel but scared he don't want me and that break my heart even more what should I do
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reader, nessabarela505  +, writes (4 March 2010):
You already know what he wants or else you wouldn't be asking such an obvious question. It's up to you if you want the same thing I mean sex if not then forget about him there's no more to it he has a gf if he don't end up cheating on her with you he'll find someone else to do it with. So goodluck!
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reader, lovexlikewinter7 +, writes (4 March 2010):
he wants sex. be honest with yourself, why else would he send you that picture?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): This must be very confusing for you! But in my opinion, I don't think he has any intention of breaking up with his girlfriend and giving things another try with you. He has even told you that himself. So it sounds like he is either just being friendly (inappropriately so) or is stringing you along.
Sending you that picture was a bit out of the blue! It does make me think though that he most likely has sex on his mind, and not much more. I recommend that you try and move on from him, because I don't think you will get what you want from him. And from the sounds of what he is like, people could get hurt. Somebody already is being hurt - you.
I know this must be really upsetting for you, and I'm sorry. Maybe writing a letter would be a good way for you to get your feelings out. BUT, I advise against sending it to him. If you send him the letter, he will have your most deepest feelings there, on paper, to do whatever he likes with. You are already worried about what will happen if you do, so if you regret sending the letter, you will be powerless to take it back. He will HAVE it. There have been so many times in the past when I have done the same thing, wrote a letter to somebody, pouring my heart out, and I regretted it every time. So think hard before posting him a letter.
It will be hard to get over him, because it always is hard to get over someone. But you can do it. I think it would be best to stop any contact, to avoid further confusion. I know it will be hard, but where will this lead if it carries on? Not to a relationship, I feel pretty sure of that. But possibly more heartbreak. And if he is talking to you in this manner while he has a girlfriend, it sounds like he isn't very trustworthy either.
I think it would be best to try and move on, look to the future, and know that there will be somebody else out there who would be better to you. Good luck. x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 March 2010):
Just wants sex, nothing more. End all contact.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 March 2010):
 I think you should just put him out of your mind. Firstly, he's an EX. Secondly, he has a girlfriend. And thirdly, he sounds like a dork. A picture of his penis, oh please.
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reader, smitheroon +, writes (4 March 2010):
 You need to cease contact with this guy. How can he tell you he has a new girlfriend that he doesn't want to cheat on but he's already taking steps to cheat on her? Look at his actions - not his words. Don't waste your time on a letter. Block his number from texting you and consider yourself lucky that you're not his girlfriend anymore.
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