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30-35,
*angofruit
writes:Hey so I'm 14, and my boyfriend and I have been going out for like around a month. We've gone to third, but I havent given him a hannjob or a bj. Andd my friend keeps telling me that i should give him a handjob, but I've never given one before and I wouldnt really know what to do.I know it seems simple but if I do it I want to do it right.. So.. how do i?
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reader, smitheroon +, writes (5 March 2010):
 I want you to think of girls and boys here real quick with me. Men are like hammers and nails and girls are like doors. When you hammer a nail into a door, you can pull out the nail and walk away and the hammer AND the nail are not affected. The door is left with a hole. Women experience different emotions and hormones when we engage in sexual activity with men. It's proven by science. Basically, to make it simple - when you do something sexual with your boyfriend your body releases chemicals that make you feel super attached and loving with him. He DOES NOT get those chemicals. Meaning, if you start giving him hand jobs, then blow jobs, then sex, he could still at ANY POINT walk away from you and NOT be bothered by it. You'll be left feeling dejected, depressed, and used. You're quite young. I remember being 14 and I felt like I was 41. You're not. You have a lot of years ahead of you and you shouldn't start getting sexually active with anybody who pressures you or doesn't full respect you. A boy near your age just won't. They think with their penis - NOT their brain. What do YOU get out of a handjob?? Nothing! Sexual activity should be mutual, give and take - meaning you should get something good and he should get something good. Just wait on this - find a new boyfriend that respects you enough to wait until YOU offer to give him things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): A quick answer is its your boyfriend why should you have to do things with him Because they say so He might be happy with things the way they are And only do things your ready to do and when you are ask him and not a total stranger
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