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male
age
30-35,
*loodmerchant
writes:Here's the thing. There's this girl who was in my freshman writing class two years ago, and I didn't speak to her. The class would divide itself into discussion groups, and it just so happened that she was replying to almost everything whatever I had to say. We happened the share other classes as well two years ago, such as chemistry and calculus. One day, in chemistry, I fell asleep in class, and put my head down. It just so happened that someone was tapping on my shoulder. I kinda ignored it for a while, till the tapping became more frequent. I woke up, and I as I saw her, she smiled and waved at me. The last day of writing class, I just happened to see her, she waved and I told her that my writing portfolio is short by three pages. She responded with a frown. So I later found her on facebook and friended her. I didn't speak to her on facebook that often, but whenever I did, the convos were pretty long. (No one-sentence answers, but almost a paragraph or two with some emoticons thrown in.) I asked her a question on facebook, like how was her vacation or her classes, she replied and asked me the same question, and went on and on about her life. So one point, I was going through a tough time and I just happened to ask her for advice. The advice she gave me almost took some time for me to read. She even gone off tangents a couple of times when speaking to her on facebook.One time there was this chemistry exam, and I told her about it, and she asked me whether I saw the lunar eclipse on that day. She later told me about that how she was going to take a picture of it or something. She even told me that she'll write to me later. We even poked each other back and forth.On her birthday, I'd decided to wish her a happy birthday. So I wrote on her wall. She later said thanks, and asked me how I was doing. I told her I had to deal with those classes I was taking, she said that I make those classes sound as if they were 'annoying kids'.By that time, I haven't seen her in months. I've seen her recently in one of my exams this semester but I wasn't so sure if it was her but I ignored her. Most of the time she was staring at me or looking at the ground. So this week, I came up to her and approached her. She smiled at me, and I asked her a bunch of questions, but she was speaking in a low, soft voice and looking down at times. I told her that this semester, I wasn't getting enough sleep, and that next semester, my schedule makes me sleep up late at night. She giggled after I said that. She then opened the door for me, and I held it and offered to let her go in first. She said, 'thank you' in that same soft, low voice of hers. By the time I got back down to my seat, she was giving me the thumbs-up and smiling at me. I smiled at her. I sent her an email but she didn't reply back.Weeks after, I saw her before a final exam, and she was speaking to a male friend, as soon as she saw me, she quickly ignored him and started to say hi and talk to me. (I don't think she knows I sent her an email) she still giggled, and when she giggled, she had 'covered' her mouth with her hand as she giggles. she gave me that same thumbs up again.months pass, and i ran into her i didn't notice her at first, but she started to wave and say hi to me. we spoke for a little while before we went our separate ways.I met her again at an event somewhere around last week. I came up to her and talked a bit with her. She kept making some eye contact with me and then break the eye contact, looking back and forth at me, and all the time, I couldn't hear her voice because it sounded as if she were whispering to me. she sometimes giggled about whether I had to say, but she doesn't do it all the time. I joked around with her and she seemed to laugh about it, even if some of the stuff wasn't funny.We were on our way to get some fruits, and I found mold on one of my fruits and just threw it on the ground cause there was no trash can. she then told me to pick it up, and we started a conversation about littering and fruits. and she was giggling and laughing the entire time as we were talking about moldy fruits, fruits, littering, and garbage cans.We were also talking about classes, and she told me that she had a class in a few minutes and couldn't enjoy the rest of the event. I then told her, 'why can't you get a little bit of everything and bring it to class'? she then replied, 'well, how am I going to carry all of that when I have something to present?' eventually, we were laughing about how we can carry plates on our shoulders coming to class, with all that food. eventually i asked her what was she going to do for next semester, she told me that she was going abroad on an exchange program for a year. later, she told me that she wanted to wash the fruits, so she headed to the bathroom, and just left. i left to go back to class as she went into the bathroom so we kinda joked around a bit, and I was still confused at the end. was she so we kinda joked around a bit, and I was still confused at the end. was she was she creeped out or was she just shy?it's been a year, so my memory has been foggy and i don't know the exact sequence of events. She's studying abroad at the moment, so I have yet to see her until next year.All I want to know is: Does she still like me?
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reader, smitheroon +, writes (5 March 2010):
 It's very confusing to be a woman these days. On one hand we're told that men like it when we're forthright and come after what we want. But then we're barraged with books like "He's Not That Into You" and we start questioning if we're ever supposed to do anything other than let ourselves be chased. So, we end up sitting around believing that if a man wants something he'll come get it and if he doesn't come get it, then he doesn't like us.
Now, I know that can put some undue pressure on you guys. But here's something to remember, we can't know if she still likes you. From the sounds of it, she's probably plagued her girlfriends with questions in complete confusion cause you never asked her out.
There's only one way to know. When she comes home, ask her on a date. Ask her to get coffee. Maybe see if she can meet up with you sometime and show you her pictures from abroad. In the meantime, leave yourself open to other girls. :)
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