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writes:Me and my boyfriend met one of our friend's sons today, and he was beautiful.My boyfriend knows I want a baby, but he just doesnt want to have one yet. It upsets me, because I just want to be a mum. I know that there can be a lot of complications from being a mum and I know I am ready, he doesn't think he is, but I think he is, he is great with kids, he just doesn't see how much I want one. How can I change his mind?
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reader, smitheroon  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 No! Stop that right this second. Your boyfriend is correct here - now is not the time. You are WAY too young. Speaking from experience here! Kids are amazing, gorgeous, and wonderful. You want to know what a baby is really like? Go babysit for two days and deal with screaming, crying, whining, diapers, feedings... oh my God. Children are a blessing, I'm not being mean here, but they are SO time-consuming. And the rest of your life revolves around them. Having a child is like taking your heart OUT of your body and letting it walk around where you can't watch it - it can be so scary!
You need to find some other way to get meaning out of your life. Start a daycare. Work at a daycare. Go into children's education. Babysit your friend's kids. But DON'T HAVE YOUR OWN YET. Trust me - I know you feel mature and ready, but when you're 26 and you have a toddler or two running around demanding food and wrecking your carpet while you're begging your parents or friends to watch them just for ONE NIGHT so you can go get a drink with your girlfriends or go on a date.... you're going to think to yourself, "what in the HELL was I thinking???"
Take it easy, girly! You got a lot of life ahead of you. :)
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