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writes:I just want a girl to know that i was gonna ask her for relationship although the feelings are no more now..!!! Anybody could suggest something? Reply to this Question
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (24 December 2006):
 Walk away. Why stress about it?
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reader, cupid_callin +, writes (24 December 2006):
cupid_callin is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey.. now shez not facing me... she is just trying to avoid having direct contact with me.. !!!!
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (19 December 2006):
 Hiya
Well thanks for the feedback.. It always help you to give someone good advice. This situation is how I thought it was.... You liked her and she knew you liked her.... Now she's done soemthing that seems inconsiderate to you. And your feelings have changed and you want to make it clear to her that you're not her lap dog (as such) anymore.
There are several ways you can do this personally I would just send a text expressing how you feel. It's short simple, you don't really owe her any commitment so it's acceptable.... she can read it.... you can get on with your life and she can reply with how she feels if she wants.... and if she doesn't then well... you've got your point of view across haven't you.
If you don't want to send a text then I'd just tell her face to face in a conversational, reasonable and respectful manner.
and hey..... good luck lad, I hope you will feel better soon.
Regards
SB xoxo
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reader, cupid_callin +, writes (19 December 2006):
cupid_callin is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually she changed her attitude towards me some months back...i dnt knw if she did that coz she got to know from someone that i fancy her..or wateva.. i talked to her quite few times if there is any problem?? but she would jst say NO and pass...
Now she is goin out wid one of my mates..[wat i feel is just to show me that even she can get a bf].. i want her to know that I used to like her coz of her nature.but as her attitude changed , so did the feelings..!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Telling her you thought about asking her out and then changed your mind is an EXCELLENT way to get into more trouble than you ever imagined!
She's almost sure to be hurt (unless she wasn't that keen on you to begin with) and even if she wasn't all that interested, she's still likely to wonder why on earth you mentioned it in the first place.
If she DID really like you, it would be upsetting. Either way, if it were me, I'd feel insulted.
If you don't want to risk possibly having a row and hurt feelings all round - leave it the heck alone!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): i resently went through this same thing, i pretty much just told him that i do really like him, but i just dont think we would work out in the long run. and there was things with sum of his best freinds not liking me, so i just told him that if we had gone out, i would be afriad that u would loose ur best friends. but in ur case i would just tell her that u really liked her but u just dont think that u 2 would work out.
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (17 December 2006):
 Not quite sure what to advise on this one, but don't play games. There is no reason for you to tell her.
What would you say to her?
I used to fancy you and was going to ask you on a date, but now I don't have any feelings for you, so I wont ask you out.
What is the point in that? However you word it, she will see it just as I wrote. Telling this girl is only going to hurt her.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (17 December 2006):
Why?
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (17 December 2006):
Well if you didn't ask her already and now you don't want to I wonder if there is any point in telling her! She might wonder why you don't like her anymore and it could upset her.
What did make you change your mind? and if you changed your mind then why do you want to tell her? Is it because of something that she done and you want her to know that you did like her but cause she done 'that' now you dont?
It's hard to tell you how you should approach it without knowing more about the situation and why your feelings changed. Perhaps you can write her a letter that way you can really get your feelings out.
I think you've got to realize that when you do tell her how you used to feel it will change things between the two of you. If you are friends now it could change that friendship and not necesserly for the best. You need to be prepared for that change or decide if you want it to change or not.
Do you think you could elaborate on the situation a bit more?
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