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writes:im not sure how much i can take this but my bf ex is sending me mental she keeps adding me on myspace at school she asking why did i block her on msn and coz the only way to town is pass her house she tell my bf who im going town with and wat time she even told him i was cheating on him coz me and my mate was helping my ex home as he was drunk so he had one arm round me and the other round my mate. ive asked my bf to ask her to stay out my life but she wont even though he asked about 5 times now.what should i do i dont wanna fight her or do anything nasty as my bf might get a bit pissed off as he worked so hard to be friendly to my exs and wants me to do the same oh by the way i never speak to her or even give her eye contact or replie to her messages
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (27 December 2006):
 Well it sounds like she wants her ex back. That's probably why she is trying to 'make friends' with you... Then can judge how close or serious you two really are.
If I were you I would go talk to her. You know not everything in life has to be dealt with by using violence. If you do that you will acheive nothing but a bit of dis-respect for yourself. What I would suggest is that you go to see her and say that you think you two need to talk.
Tell her that you feel as though she is interupting in your life a bit too much. Say the only reason you think she wants anything to do with you is because you are with her ex and that's not a reason to make friends... It's a bit weird! Ask her why she is acting like this... does she still have feelings for him?
You have to appreciate that she may well still like him and she is entitled to. What you need to aim to acheive is a comfortable level of communication with this girl. If you want to stay with your boyfriend that this is not a problem to be swept under the carpet.
You should show the maturity of being able to discuss with her how YOU feel about her actions. Your boyfriend will repsect you more as well for treating the situation so tactfully. Make it clear to her that you just don't want a friendship with her and the only person you're interested in is your boyfriend, who just so happens to be her ex.... and you don't want her to carry on sniffing around and that she needs to move on.
I'm not saying that this will solve the situation... but it could.. you've already tried getting your boyfriend to tell her to back off it didn't work... so this would be the next thing that I would try....
Good luck!
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