Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons?
Q. Why do girls say they love you then leave you shortly afterwards for stupid reasons? Is it just me? Why is my longest relationship only 2 months? I don't treat them badly, I always try my best to make them happy. I just don't get it. It makes me ...
A. 28 June 2017: There can be many reasons.
She may be confused is one of them.... (read in full...)
A row after dating for 7 weeks and he's backed off. Should I leave it?
Q. Myself and the guy I'm dating had our first argument last week. (We've only been together seven weeks), it wasn't so much an argument but a disagreement over his behavior. He got all defensive, as well as going on the offensive to the point wer...
A. 7 June 2014: Shouldn't be too clingy to send him a single message once.
If you're sending a message every day, maybe that would.
PS: yeah that's early to have an argument, and him being so offensive isn't a great sign either. He could just be passing thro... (read in full...)
Three months and he didn't mention he has kids?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. He is 28 and I am 25. The relationship moved really quickly and I absolutely fell in love with him and him with me. This past weekend, I found out that he has two children he neve...
A. 17 July 2013: "The relationship moved really quickly and I absolutely fell in love (...)"
Moving quickly (or the impression of it) is usually not a good thing, in my experience.
If he hasn't told you about the children, then he either has not yet reached the ... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to porn and I'm female!
Q. ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the ...
A. 16 July 2013: I wanted to write something that would make fun of you or of the Catholic view that porn is bad...
But seriously, now. I've been into porn for all my life.
My ex used to make my life hell because I watched porn - not that she wouldn't have found an... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend addicted to sex? Will he cheat on me?
Q. It will be our two year anniversary on march 25th. On our year anniversary i lost my virginity to him. Other than me, he's only had sex with one other girl (or claims so).. and i believe him since he was basically horrible and quick in bed, haha. ...
A. 5 January 2013: Just tell him no when you don't feel like it, and for him to be pushy shows some selfishness and immaturity. Even if you say no and he respects it, it can be annoying for you to have to say no repetitively - assuming it happens often. At this point ... (read in full...)
Why will my girlfriend not stop going on dating sites?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend just short of two years. She has been going on dating sites like it`s a habit for at least the past year. She has lied and lied about it, but she surely knows that I know different. We have been broke up over Christmas ...
A. 5 January 2013: Well you trying to restrict or watch her online activity is not exactly healthy either, I think. I can understand that such things happen in a relationship, but, without being black and white and confrontational, I guess there are lots of things you ... (read in full...)
I've been feeling jealous about this girl doing things without me. What do I do about these feelings? Because I think I'm gay.
Q. Ok I'm a gay teen. Lately Ive been getting overly jealous of my (straight,girl) bestfriend. Some things that get me jealous are her talking to other people for advice, and inviting people places, but never asking me to tag along. What do I do a...
A. 5 January 2013: Well what do you know, maybe you're not as gay as you think :)
I guess with these things it's not straight cut and black and white. Just try to deal with it like any other thing, hopefully it'll work out for everyone in some way.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he doesn't know if I'm the one. Should I end things?
Q. Hi, Well I am having great relationship problems. I feel very lost and don't know what to do. My boyfriend told me he loved me and things were great between us. Then i noticed he was acting off with me and on questioning him he said he didn't k...
A. 5 January 2013: My advice is forget him for a moment, and concentrate on yourself, and adjust your visions of the future to the reality that you are describing. You are feeling lost and you will continue feeling like that.
Do not put any more work in the rela... (read in full...)
Why do girls think that all men are scum just because they weren't treated right by a guy once?
Q. It really bothers me when women say that all men are pigs and all men are scum. When I hear girls say that, it kind of offends me. I am a nice guy. Every time I'm around a girl, I'm always a gentleman. (Hold doors open for them, pick up things when ...
A. 27 December 2012: I think it takes time for someone to learn to appreciate the quieter persons... It's as if you buy into some kind of scam, or eat at restaurant, just because it is cheap and looked attractive, and end up with an upset stomach, and conclude that all... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at naked women on the internet?
Q. Why would a married man look at nude women on the internet after being caught once only to do it again?...
A. 13 November 2011: Would also like to point out some statistics:
Women and Pornography:
Women, far more than men, are likely to act out their behaviors in real life, such as having multiple partners, casual sex, or affairs.
Source:
http://www.familysafe... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at naked women on the internet?
Q. Why would a married man look at nude women on the internet after being caught once only to do it again?...
A. 13 November 2011: I am a man and I'd like to understand that too. It is good for you to ask, and I appreciate it, but I'd like you to remove the "caught" concept, that is the idea that he is doing something wrong. I personally watch them because I feel attracted to ... (read in full...)
Failure and weak men
Q. Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
A. 6 November 2011: If these men are weak, just going on about it here and calling them weak - which almost sounds like public humiliation, is not helping much, is it?
Regarding the proportion of men cheating, where did you get that information?... (read in full...)
Failure and weak men
Q. Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
A. 6 November 2011: I'll second "Code Warrior": It takes two to cheat. Ponder about that. Also, regarding your original post, if a man finds the inner strength to pull himself up, he does not need his wife's help anymore.... (read in full...)
He says his love is so pure that he cant even imagine me naked!
Q. Hey everyone, i need help. I am totally perplexed in this relationship of two years with this guy. He says that he loves me. I know that very well. I love him too. But i think, may be he loves me too much, far beyond my imagination. He is a nice...
A. 14 October 2011: Let him kiss you and his love will not be so pure anymore.... (read in full...)
I've confronted her but she continues to behave the same way, what should I do?
Q. naturally i am not the most trusting person however recently my gf has started doing some things which seem to me to just be plain suspicious. she is never without her phone and will never allow me to see it and a few times i have caught her on the ...
A. 12 October 2011: - If she makes you uncomfortable and you don't trust and believe in her then you're on the wrong track
- She's playing silly games and doesn't seem to trust your judgement either - if it's not something more serious! it also looks like she's on the ... (read in full...)
I didnt cheat on him but he wont listen! I feel like I've blown it for good, what should I do?
Q. Hi all, I have been reading through post but one seem to match my sitation so I'll try and explain So, I've known this (guy now my ex) for about 4 years but we only really started dating in April. Everything was strange because he'd take ag...
A. 12 October 2011: He sounds like he's looking for reasons to blame you or make your suffer. Dumping you because he pays for everything, after 4 years? Couldn't he just discuss it? Calling you a cheat when he dumped you months before? Is there part of his logic board ... (read in full...)
B/f says he doesn't watch porn anymore but won't get rid of his collection!
Q. Hey there, So my bf and I have been together for about 9 months, and our relationship is great, sex is great, and we're pretty much best friends. I was just curious about his watching porn, so we talked about it. I'm not opposed to porn necessar...
A. 12 October 2011: Why do you want him to delete his collection? It seems you don't trust him or don't believe in him, and if that's the case then you're going down the wrong road, I believe. You should instead concentrate on yourself and why you feel this way and try ... (read in full...)
Am I being too jealous and paranoid?
Q. Hi, my problem is this my girlfriend of 3 years is making me very uncomfortable with her behaviour. She is texting an ex school friend of hers and has admitted this guy likes her and that if she wasnt with me she would probably go for him. The ...
A. 12 October 2011: PS (again): Did you guys talk about this? I don't see anyone mentioning that, and maybe everyone is going past the obvious: after 3 years I would guess you should be at a stage where you speak to each other about what annoys you and makes you ... (read in full...)
Am I being too jealous and paranoid?
Q. Hi, my problem is this my girlfriend of 3 years is making me very uncomfortable with her behaviour. She is texting an ex school friend of hers and has admitted this guy likes her and that if she wasnt with me she would probably go for him. The ...
A. 12 October 2011: F. that, do you want any of that? Snooping on her? loosing sleep? Or just having her text another guy you're not comfortable with? This kind of stuff is valid reason to get out, because even if you put up with it you'll probably hold a grudge ... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him after he punched a wall during an argument?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months he is very passionate and lovey dovey. I like it I'm that way too. But one night he was over and we got into an arguement about him going to a party without me. I told him if he goes without me ...
A. 2 August 2011: That is all very nice but don't forget that when he punched the wall he was probably the one the most in pain, and won't you be insensitive and think about him a bit, too, and try to help him. You know I did that yesterday and my knuckle hurts. W... (read in full...)
It is domestic abuse. So why would some try to blame the victim? What's their mindset and the payoff for doing it?
Q. i work with T who has recently been subjected to domestic abuse, and is still having this happen to her, at home. But something happened this week, people talking behind the back of T. And it has shaken my trust in some of my co-workers. Am i m...
A. 2 May 2011: In some milder cases, the abused person would be carrying part of the blame, as she might have provoked it, or somehow played a part in the mascarade. But this seems to be a serious case, not an isolated incident, as everyone knows about it and the ... (read in full...)
B/f wants to know whats wrong with dating 5 years before we decide?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in our mid 30's and have no children and been dating nearly two years. We live an hour and 10 mins drive apart and meet up mid week and week ends. He says because he doesn't earn much he can't afford to commute even further ...
A. 2 May 2011: Regardless of how good and sincere this guy is (or not), I find both attitudes somewhat wrong. On one end: expecting you to wait forever and taking you for granted. On the other hand: counting time, putting pressure and expecting results. Do not ... (read in full...)
Should a guy really forgive a girl for being rude because she is on her period?
Q. Is a woman's cycle really a reason to forgive her sudden bitchiness? ...
A. 2 May 2011: Only to some extent. It has to get better. If it keep getting worst, to the point that it happens anytime (even in the middle of the month) then it's probably something else.... (read in full...)
He Didn't Want Me to Kiss Him?
Q. Alright, so there's this guy that obviously likes me. I mean, it's so obvious that it hurts. Unfortunately he lives 6 1/2 hours away. But, I went down and saw him this past weekend at an anime convention. I didn't get to see him on Friday, but I ...
A. 27 April 2011: Could be anything mentioned on this page. Or something else. Or maybe he's gay. Why don't you ask him... come on! Do you have any ideas how many thousands (or millions) of miles there are between you and me? So, how should I know?... (read in full...)
Is it ok to ask a married man out for coffee?
Q. Hi everybody. First time here. Could use your advice. I am friendly with a married man. Our sons go to karate together. We talk a lot when we see each other twice a week. He always finds me to talk and seems to enjoy my company. I enjoy his compan...
A. 25 April 2011: What for? you're talking to him twice a week already... Maybe you can tell him to come along if you are doing something. But planning to have a coffee together can be seen as suspicious or if not then possibly humiliating for him.
But to answer the ... (read in full...)
Any tips on getting my man to orgasm faster? My neck is starting to cramp.
Q. How to give my guy a better blow job? I have recently started giving my man blow jobs. It is the first time I have done this and I'm having trouble getting him to cum. I am not really sure what i'm doing entirely and I know people say pay attentio...
A. 15 January 2011: You're lucky :) why don't you er... take advantage of it ;-) Seing you do that might actually turn him on and he'll come faster.... (read in full...)
If a woman isn't moaning, does that mean she isn't enjoying the sex?
Q. hello, i just wanna know what does it mean when the girls dont moan while making love ? i know this girl and we are f*** buddies. but when we have sex she doesnt moan or like scream or something, i mean if she was really enjoyin it or feeling ...
A. 10 January 2011: She probably is enjoying it :) I think it depends on the person and your relationship and the feelings between you two whether she (and you) moan or not.... (read in full...)
For the girls: Is an uncircumcised penis a deal breaker?
Q. Is an uncircumcised penis a deal breaker? Only for women...
A. 5 January 2011: Sorry I'm a guy and I would like to answer: A women for whom a circumcised penis might be a problem - IS a deal breaker. For me.
(PS: I am circumcised myself - so this is nothing personal)... (read in full...)
7 years of marriage have gone by but I'm still not in love with her! What should I do?
Q. my question is you been dating a little while, the person you had been dating and wants to be marry and wants to start a family soon because she older and her parents are getting old 70 you like her but she puting pressure on you . you get married ...
A. 5 January 2011: Oh man. Maybe you really love her. What is love anyway. I say you do not think too much about her and concentrate on the other things in your life. Good luck!... (read in full...)
My strategy failed: I lied to my bf saying I was pregant to try to get him back. Would telling him I miscarried work?
Q. OK; soo i Have an ex boyfriend and i am still in love with him... i would love to know how to get him back ? he is my very first love, but i think i made a mistake. Because i lied to him and told him i was pregnant, just to see if he would come back ...
A. 27 December 2010: It would be OK if you stop lying for a change. Start by having morals and say the truth. I for example would not be interested to date a girl who would lie to me and dance on one feet or do any other stuff that is wrong just to get me. Be a good per... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin I love her?
Q. I am 32 years old, and i belive i am in love with my cousin, she is 28 years old (she is my frist cousin) for the last year all i do is think about her. what should i do tell her or not....
A. 27 December 2010: This can happen when you and your cousin haven't seen yourself much during childhood. Although you are blood family not seeing each other much can make you feel like this is any other person. But you do get a bit freaky when you say you want ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend can be very overbearing... anyone have tips how to deal with this?
Q. Hello. I am very confused as what to do with the relationship that I am in. I love my Girlfriend very much, and she can be a complete doll. We are both very self-aware, intelligent people. We both do many things right, we cook for each other, do ...
A. 27 December 2010: Her behavior is unacceptable. I was thinking about telling you "dump her". I came here looking for answers about my girfriend, she also throws violent tantrums and threatens to leave me. Yesterday, as we were shopping in a cheap place, she ... (read in full...)
Am I defective? I can't have an orgasm
Q. Im 20 now and have been in a relationship or a while and no matter what i do ive never gotten an orgasim. I cant seem to give myself one and my boy friend isnt having any luck wither. Is there a possiblity that not all women get the pleasure o ...
A. 21 December 2010: Taken on the bright side, your BF could be happy that he has a "challenging" girl. :) Tell him he's not doing anything wrong, so he don't feel that he's not doing a good job. Unless he really is not doing a good job... that, you should know.... (read in full...)
I really thought we felt the same, and then he broke things off
Q. Me and my boyfriend were in a LDR and until last week things were going great (well, there were a few niggly things - but nothing major). We were looking forward to spending some much needed time together at Christmas. Last weekend I was a bit ...
A. 21 December 2010: Could he be seeing someone else?... (read in full...)
Why was he so quiet during oral sex?
Q. I hadn't seen my boyfriend of 11 months, in 6 days. When we met up, I thought I'd surprise him with a blow job, our first, and because I was on my heaviest day of period. I did not feel comfy with regular sex. It was amazing for me, and I hope for ...
A. 21 December 2010: "Regular sex" is something else. I can also be vocal, but not when receiving oral sex. That is because "regular sex" is more involving. He probably came a lot because it has been a while. Oral sex for me, if well done (slow and all that) is a ... (read in full...)
Very worried because my LDR girlfriend suddenly disappeared!
Q. guys im really freaking out !! my LDR gf just disapeared!! its been 4 days now , we used to talk like every single day , but now she is not online anymore , i tried to call her but her fone is jst ringin !! no one is pickin it up , i called her ...
A. 19 December 2010: It is normal to feel this way. Call whoever you can find around her. Her hotel, whatever... Even call the police if you have to, just to make sure she's OK. I don't know how people here can be going the "relationship issue" way. You did not ask any ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my jealous LDR boyfriend. Did I make the right choice?
Q. Well... to cut the story short I was in a LDR for 8 months with an American guy who's in the army. We got to know each other through a music site as we had similar taste in music. We eventually got to know each other better via IM, that's when we ...
A. 19 December 2010: Army is tough. It has been said that "war is hell". Remember that.... (read in full...)
I really thought we felt the same, and then he broke things off
Q. Me and my boyfriend were in a LDR and until last week things were going great (well, there were a few niggly things - but nothing major). We were looking forward to spending some much needed time together at Christmas. Last weekend I was a bit ...
A. 19 December 2010: He might not be willing to let go of the things you said to him, especially if it's not the first time. Regarding feelings, hurtful words destroy feelings and rob the motivation to make it work. You did not mention exactly what you said to him so I ... (read in full...)
I used the online hard-to-get tactic and it backfired!
Q. I was a asswipe and fell for playing that stupid "how to get and keep a girl" tactic and it ended up backfiring right in my face and now the love of my life is moving out of state with another man Please tell me how I can stop it in the next two...
A. 17 December 2010: BTW you have my respect for getting there in the first place. Don't worry, if you got so far you are can keep going. You seem to have done well. Don't be too hard on yourself. The outcome cannot be guaranteed, she's a free person after all.... (read in full...)
Girls can you understand why she dumped me? I loved her
Q. We met... there was an interest, we hooked up an became the best of friends that slepted together after a year of this we eventually wised up and officially became a couple, i have had alot of girls and im no amateur but we were so happy together, ...
A. 17 December 2010: Wow. Did you try getting an answer from her? BTW... the move to china obviously did not ruin your career, as you ended up being her boss :) Maybe it had something to do with that - and your attitude about the whole thing. Still not an excuse not to ... (read in full...)
I used the online hard-to-get tactic and it backfired!
Q. I was a asswipe and fell for playing that stupid "how to get and keep a girl" tactic and it ended up backfiring right in my face and now the love of my life is moving out of state with another man Please tell me how I can stop it in the next two...
A. 17 December 2010: These techniques you are talking about are made to get a girl to your bed, not to build a relationship, I think. It's more short term. A tactic is by definition something that works short term for a precise goal - in this case to get her interest, I ... (read in full...)
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