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writes:ok I am really starting to worry. I am a girl(16) and i have a boyfriend etc. I am like addicted to porn! seeing what people have wrote on this site, there so not as addicted as iam. i watch it like every single day!! i use to masterbate all the time but iam cutting down on it tho, but still. am i like addicted to porn or sumthing! is it normal for a girl!? is it even normal for anyone? my boyfriend doesnt even watch porn as much as i do! but he likes it cause i give good blowjobs.the point is, is it normal and should i cut down on it? wait iam not cutting down on it, i love porn!!!anyway you get my point!
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reader, rolfen  +, writes (16 July 2013):
 I wanted to write something that would make fun of you or of the Catholic view that porn is bad...
But seriously, now. I've been into porn for all my life.
My ex used to make my life hell because I watched porn - not that she wouldn't have found another reason if it wasn't the case... she could get hysterical on many things.
Strangely I'm finding to have lost interest in porn lately. My current GF is very cool, she doesnt give me a hard time about watching porn or smoking joints, not even said anything once to me about looking at other girls. Never once yelled at me.
Last week I watched porn and found it to make me sad. Sometimes I would try to watch porn and it would turn me OFF.
Most of the time I don't want to go through the gross, fake and borderline offensive things that you see on porn sites to find something good.
I still feel the same drive to watch porn, but as soon as I try taking action on it and navigate to a porn site I am turned off. I have some videos on my computer but don't want to watch the same stuff 100 times.
I had a huge collection but my ex made me delete it :(
Other things in my life are going well :) but my future is very uncertain.
I have moved to another city (now for almost a year) and see lots of hot girls on the street, every day :) but don't know any of them.
I'm not sure why it is like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): If you're a girl and addicted to porn, it's a slippery slope into self-degradation. The nice thing is that you can get addicted to the rush of pleasing a man but make sure it goes two ways. You don't need to quit porn, just direct your attention to female oriented porn sites like forthegirls.com. They are created by women for women and focus on female pleasure. Keep looking for sites that make YOU number one and I think in the long term you'll be okay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): If you're a girl and addicted to porn, it's a slippery slope into self-degradation. The nice thing is that you can get addicted to the rush of pleasing a man but make sure it goes two ways. You don't need to quit porn, just direct your attention to female oriented porn sites like forthegirls.com. They are created by women for women and focus on female pleasure. Keep looking for sites that make YOU number one and I think in the long term you'll be okay.
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reader, shadowre +, writes (2 October 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the question brazzers!!! kool, will try. thanks xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): hey im a girl,16 and i am also addicted to porn! i masturbate for about 4 hours a day, and i have favourite porn sites and porn stars!i am also confused about my sexuality. i fancy men and picture myself kissing them, but i love looking at big breasted women! i think i have an obsession... By the way, have you tryed brazzers.com? it's fab!
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reader, shadowre +, writes (8 April 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokey dokey. thanx all :)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 When the time is right, everything will fall into place.
It is the natural thing to do.
When you are ready and he is ready...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): You need to talk to your boyfriend and discuss it with him. This will also help form a stronger bond between you, because you will be sharing. Together, even though you may fumble through it, you will learn eventually, but you need to talk to him and see if he is ready. Don't forget protection so you don't get pregnant. If he is saving himself for marriage, don't be upset with him, you can instead masterbate each other instead.
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reader, shadowre +, writes (31 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to have sex with my bf so bad but iam always second guessing myself!! How the hell am I to get over it, and just have sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Well that explains the post now. Virgin, and unsure of the unknown. Don't worry, it sounds like when you and your boyfriend are ready, it will go well.
I agree with natasia that it gives the wrong impression of what sex and relationships are about. These video or dramatized or over reacted to capture peoples attention: do people really do that? If they do, not for long, because for the most part, it isn't natural.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (29 March 2008):
 One to two hours ... that's too much. 5 minutes, out of curiosity, OK. But even then it shouldn't be a regular thing. It's a load of old rubbish, anyhow - I'd concentrate on having real sex with a real person. That's what you need to do. And really don't watch any more porn, because you'll end up with a weird, disconnected idea of what sex is. It is seriously not good for you.
As for the acne (which of course it doesn't give you!!) ... : ) I love that one. I'm interested how it could possibly give anyone acne. Because you forget about personal hygiene because you're too busy watching porn 24/7? !! ; )
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reader, shadowre +, writes (29 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou see I am still a virgin! I want to have sex with my boyfriend but at the same time I am scared!! I want to get over it. I am dying to have sex!!!! We do mess around every time we see each other, but it's not enough.
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reader, shadowre +, writes (19 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I don't suffer from acne!! How can you even get acne from watching porn???
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): i'm an addicted too... (boy16)... i wouldn't say that it is a problem for u to watch porn... But, at least for me... it causes acne... And it's disturbing... before i give u any advise i need to know if u soffer from acne...
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reader, stivi 123 +, writes (17 March 2008):
There is nothing wrong with this. You are just goin through a fase. You are a normal hormonal 16 year old girl and you will get over it. Dont put your self down because i bet there is loads of people out there doing this.Good luck . Stivi 123 x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): although you are too young to post, you can read recovering addicts stories at npsupport.net It will give you some insight into what a porn addiction actually is and then you can make an informed decision on wether or not you have a problem. There is information on sex addiction quizes that you can take but the basic info is that it is an addiction if:
it causes you problems in your life with time lost that should be spent elsewhere (school work suffering? watching at work?)
it escalates into areas that you find you have conflict with
you want to quite but find you can't
you escalate to acting out things you see when you know they are wrong
you do things that are harmful to yourself or others
good luck, I hope you don't have a problem but if you do, the sooner you address it the better off you will be...
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reader, shadowre +, writes (16 March 2008):
shadowre is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for the advice! oh ye the dude who asked for how long, just about 1 hour to 2 hours, once a day! is that to much?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (16 March 2008):
If you have a balance life, then it is normal .
If it is just porn all the time , then you have OCD.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (16 March 2008):
 You're sixteen and hormonal. Don't worry about it too much. I'd say it's probably a phase that will pass with time. It's obviously not stopping you from having a healthy relationship of your own - if you were only turned on by the porn and had lost all interest in your boyfriend, then things would have been different, but as it is... I'd say you're fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2008): Could be partially the Irish hot blood!
For viewing porn, it depends on how it affects the rest of your life. Do you take what you've heard and use it in conversations? Porn can be used as a learning tool. It could be a desire you have for something else, and this is taking its place. Some view porn as a replacement for intimacy.
You say your boyfriend enjoys your bj's (what guy wouldn't). Apparently you've learned something from viewing it, and your bf has acknowledged your experience and his pleasure.
How many hours do you watch it per day. This could be the way to determine if your over endulgent.
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